I don't know about y'all, but I personally don't know one person who doesn't want flawless skin. When it comes to me and my personal struggles with achieving this immense goal, my greatest challenges have been having large pores that can sometimes lead to breakouts that can result in acne scars. Well that and sometimes noticing that my parts of my inner thighs are about a good one shade darker than the rest of 'em. What gives?
While I have finally figured out some hacks that have helped my pores to appear smaller and also some hacks that have reduced the bacteria that causes pimples to occur in the first place, it wasn't until a few months ago that I came upon some all-natural remedies that helped to get my thighs all one tone again. If inner thigh discoloration is something that you battle with as well and you're ready to have thighs that look as smooth and even as butta, I think I might have some tips that can totally help you out.
How To Get Rid Of Dark Inner Thighs: Remedies
So, What Actually Causes Inner Thigh Discoloration in the First Place?
If you're someone who struggles with inner thigh discoloration, you might've wondered where it comes from. That's actually a really good question. Long story short, it's the result of when hyperpigmentation transpires; you know, when an area of your body produces more melanin than it actually needs.
When it comes to getting down to the root cause of why some of us have inner thigh discoloration, to be honest with you, there is no one answer. Some of us get it because, as the saying goes, "thick thighs save lives"; so, when we're walking, running and/or working out, chafing can occur. Others of us get it due to hormonal imbalances and/or the medications that we take to get our hormones back on track. If you're someone who's all about rockin' the tightest jeans possible, the constant friction from your pants could also be the culprit.
Then there's the reason that is probably to most underrated—dry skin. Yep, if you're not taking the time to thoroughly moisturize your thighs after bathing, this also could result in them looking two-toned (in comparison to the rest of your legs) or blotchy.
The good news is, knowing the root of what caused your inner thigh color issues, that can help to put you onto the path of restoring even-toned skin again.
What Are Some Effective At-Home Remedies to Try?
If you really stop to think about it, some simple lifestyle changes can actually help to get your inner thighs back to where you want them to be. Simple things like wearing looser clothing and consistently moisturizing that part of your body might be all that's required. But if you feel like your thighs could use a little bit of extra TLC, while you could go the OTC route and purchase a skin lightening cream, sometimes products that contain ingredients like niacinamide, lignin peroxidase and arbutin (even hydroquinone and retinoids that dermatologists will sometimes prescribe) can come with mild side effects or even result in allergic reactions. Plus, a lot of these lighteners aren't created with Black sistahs in mind. Because of that, those products can ultimately end up doing our skin more harm than good. So, that's why I think that, at least trying some natural remedies, is a smart way to try and get your inner thighs to looking the way that you want them to. And the really great news is you've got a few different DIY options to choose from.
Aloe Vera Gel.
Aloe vera contains properties that are effective at doing everything for your skin from deeply moisturizing it and reducing signs of aging to healing acne and speeding up the healing process of burns and wounds. If you apply 100 percent pure Aloe vera gel to your inner thighs, the proteolytic enzymes in it can help to heal damaged skin cells so that the skin that is the result of hyperpigmentation will become lighter after about 4-6 weeks.
Coconut Oil.
Coconut oil is dope because it has antibacterial, antifungal and antimicrobial properties in it (all of these help to kill bacteria and fungi that may occur on your skin). Coconut oil is also comprised of 80-90 percent saturated fat that can deeply moisturize your skin. And, since it has so many different fatty acids in it (including around 49 percent fatty acids), when you apply the oil to your inner thighs, the acids can also help to build healthy membranes to your skin while creating a protective barrier too. Just make sure that the coconut oil is virgin; the purer it is, the more effective it will be.
Plain Yogurt.
Off top, something that yogurt has lots of is lactic acid. It's an organic compound that, when applied to your skin, it is able to reduce the appearance of fine lines and wrinkles. Beyond that, plain yogurt is also great for your skin because it deeply moisturizes it. And, when you add a little bit of lemon (two tablespoons will provide potent exfoliating and lightening properties) to a one-third cup of it, the combination is great at treating hyperpigmentation. Apply the mixture to clean skin, let it sit for 15-20 minutes, then rinse with cool water (to close your pores). If you do this 1-2 times a week, you will notice a difference within 14 days or so.
Oatmeal Scrub.
If anything is considered to be a superfood for your skin, oatmeal would have to be it. It's for a myriad of reasons too. Since oatmeal is high in zinc, it can speed up the healing of pimples. Its chemical compounds saponins are able to unclog your pores. Other properties in oatmeal can help to balance out your skin's pH levels. And, when it comes to fading the discoloration around your inner thighs, the texture of raw oats is a wonderful exfoliant. If you make a scrub of one part oatmeal, one part yogurt and a teaspoon of honey (honey is a great moisturizer) and then apply it directly onto your thighs, while gently massaging that area, it can help to slough off dead skin cells while revealing healthier skin cells in the process.
Potato Rub.
I know, right? Who woulda thought that a white potato could be an ultimate skin healer? Oh, but it is! Potatoes contain a good amount of potassium, manganese, vitamins B6 and C—all of these are nutrients that our skin profoundly needs. But the reason why potatoes, specifically, are good at cultivating even-toned skin is because they also have the enzyme catecholase in them. This enzyme is known for gradually lightening skin over time. All you need to do is rub a slice of a raw potato on your inner thigh area for a couple of minutes. Allow the juice to sit for 15 minutes, then rinse thoroughly with lukewarm water. Do this twice a week for the most optimal results.
And How Do You Prevent Inner Thigh Discoloration from Coming Back?
You know what grandma used to say—an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure. So now that you know some proven all-natural ways to get your inner thighs looking even, let's talk about some things that you can do to prevent them from looking discolored all over again.
First, always cleanse and exfoliate your inner thigh area. It's interesting, the parts of our body that don't typically get as much attention as they truly deserve. Three of those tend to be our legs, feet and inner thighs. Sure, the water tends to "catch them" when we're in the shower or taking a bath, but it's important that we actually rub them down with some soap. In fact, it's even smarter to do some dry brushing before washing up. If you do this to your inner thigh area specifically, it can help to remove any dead skin cell build-up that could also lead to discoloration, in that area, over time.
Second, if you notice that chafing occurs, not when only you're wearing tight pants, but actually after you've been working out, it could be because you're exercising in the wrong fabrics.
Clothing that is made out of nylon can help to reduce the friction that may be occurring in between your thighs (nylon biker shorts or stockings underneath your dresses can help to stop chafing too if your thighs happen to naturally rub together too).
And finally, sweat is something else that can irritate your inner thighs. If you're naturally prone to sweating, give your body (including your inner thighs) some relief at night by sleeping with no clothes on. That way, all of you will be able to breathe while the chances of your sweating as much as you usually do will decrease, significantly so.
If you do all three of these things, on a regular basis, you can very easily be on your way to having thighs with skin that looks as beautiful and sexy as you are. No joke.
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As some of you know, something that I've been "threatening" to do for a few years now is write another book. Welp, October 2024 was the month that I "gave birth" to my third one: 'Inside of Me 2.0: My Story. With a 20-Year Lens'. It's fitting considering I hit a milestone during the same year.
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Reset Your Relationship: How To Start 2025 Strong With Your Partner
As the calendar turns and a new year unfolds, many of us are laser-focused on our career goals, fitness resolutions, and vision boards that outline the journey to our best selves. But amidst all the planning and self-improvement, have you made room for another important part of your life? Your relationship.
It's easy for couples to fall into a routine, going through the motions and letting their connection sit on autopilot. While comfort is natural in a long-term relationship, it’s important to remember: that what you don’t nurture, eventually fades. So, why not make 2025 the year you reset your relationship? Here’s how to start the year with a renewed bond, reigniting the spark that brought you together.
Step 1: Schedule Your Reset Meeting
The first step to hitting the reset button is a State of the Union meeting with your partner. This is your chance to take a pulse on the relationship, discuss what's working, and identify areas that need attention. It’s all about creating space to reflect, without distractions.
Grab a pen and paper (or open a shared note on your phone) and come prepared to share your top 2-3 desires for your relationship.
What do you both want to feel more of in 2025? Maybe it’s feeling more appreciated, or perhaps you want to reignite the passion you had when you first started dating. Whatever it is, get clear about it, and make sure both of you are on the same page.
This isn’t just about listing your own wants, it’s also about discussing ways to nurture each other’s needs. Relationship goals should be focused on fostering deeper intimacy, trust, and mutual respect. Use this time to check in, not only with each other but with your individual feelings and expectations. Set the foundation for a fulfilling year ahead.
Step 2: Set A Date (Or Multiple!)
Having the meeting is only the first step. Now, it’s time to take action. One of the simplest ways to breathe new life into a relationship is by reintroducing consistent, intentional time spent together. For many couples, life gets busy, and date nights fall by the wayside. But dating doesn’t stop when you say "I do"—in fact, it’s even more essential.
During your reset meeting, lock in a regular date night that works for both of your schedules. This could be a weekly dinner date or an every-other-week adventure—whatever keeps things fresh. The goal is consistency. It’s easy to push date nights aside when life gets hectic, but if you set a specific date each week or month, you’re making your relationship a priority.
If you’re unsure what to do for your date nights, don’t worry! The key is creating new experiences together. This is what sparks excitement and brings you closer as a couple. Whether it’s cooking a new recipe together, trying a dance class, or exploring a nearby town, it’s about creating shared memories that build your connection.
Step 3: Find an Accountability Partner
Just like you might have a personal trainer to help you crush your fitness goals, an accountability partner for your relationship can do wonders for keeping both of you on track. Consider hiring a marriage coach or therapist—someone who can meet you where you are and guide you in strengthening your relationship.
When selecting a professional, it’s important to choose someone who truly wants the best for your marriage and can provide actionable advice.
Don’t be afraid to set high standards for your relationship, and seek guidance on how to keep it thriving for the long haul. In your reset meeting, discuss your commitment to growth, and be honest about areas where you may need support.
Marriage isn’t a set-it-and-forget-it endeavor—it’s an ongoing process. Regular check-ins with a professional can help keep your relationship in tip-top shape and “divorce-proof” by addressing issues before they become insurmountable.
Step 4: Try Something New Together
Stale routines can easily make a relationship feel monotonous. Spice things up by trying something new! Couples that explore new activities and create new memories together have stronger, more fulfilling bonds.
My husband and I host one of the top luxury marriage retreats, A Weekend For Love, designed to help couples experience new things together. From couples' workshops to outdoor adventures, the retreat provides a platform to rediscover each other and reconnect on a deeper level.
The element of surprise can reignite your connection. It’s exciting, fresh, and shows your partner that you’re committed to growing together. This doesn’t have to be a huge commitment—it could be as simple as trying a new hobby or planning an impromptu weekend getaway.
Your Relationship Should Be A Priority
As you start the year with personal goals in mind, don’t forget the importance of nurturing your relationship. It’s easy to get caught up in work, fitness, and family obligations, but your bond with your partner deserves to be at the top of your list. Resetting your relationship offers an opportunity to reignite that spark and remind each other why you fell in love in the first place.
In 2025, make a commitment to prioritize your partnership, to nurture it daily, and to invest in its growth. Take time to celebrate each other’s victories, support one another’s dreams, and build a foundation of love and respect. When you start the year with a clear focus on your relationship, you’re setting it up for success.
So, before you start mapping out your new workout plan or work goals, do yourself a favor: put your relationship at the top of that list. Your love story deserves a fresh start, too.
Happy New Year, and here’s to a love-filled 2025!
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Alaska Wasn’t On My Bucket List, But My Glacier Adventure Made Me A Believer
We all have bucket list destinations at the top of our lists. I visited one of those at the top of 2024: Japan! But what happens when you get an opportunity to go someplace that wasn’t on it? For me, that was Alaska. Now, I’d submitted my short film to the Anchorage International Film Festival, genuinely thinking it would be a long shot to get in with a short film about fibroids and Black women’s health.
However, to my surprise, I received an email that read: “It’s with great excitement that we announce your film, Super High: A Period Piece, has been selected for the 24th Anchorage International Film Festival.” After looking at the flight distance from Atlanta to Anchorage—a solid 10 hours one way— I’d decided this would be one I wouldn’t attend.
That was until there was a follow-up email that shared that the festival was sponsoring two excursions for filmmakers: A Northern Lights Tour and A Glacier Hike.
With that, I knew I had to make the trip to the 49th state! I flew Delta, which offered the shortest layovers—just 50 minutes each way. For a more comfortable flight on the longer legs that were about six hours between my layover city and Anchorage, I upgraded to first class with an in-app discount for $256 (the regular price of a first-class ticket runs about $2,100), which was so worth it for additional space and service for the six-hour trek.
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"So What’s Alaska Like? Did You Have To Wear a Snowsuit? What’s the Food Like?"
These are among the major questions I’ve gotten. Anchorage reminds me less of a bustling major city and more of a small town with an easygoing feel. When I arrived, they’d just had snow a few days before, so it was cold, and the streets were slick. So, I was so happy I’d invested in a pair of snow boots. For my first few days, the locals said it was warm. Warm to them being 20s at night and mid-30s during the day.
However, by the time I left, fresh snow was on the ground, and temps were well into the single digits—and it felt like it. Oh, the sun doesn’t rise until 10:30 a.m., and it sets around 4 p.m. That was among the most challenging things to experience because I felt like I never really woke up. So, between the lack of sun and the four-hour time difference, I felt tired the whole time I was there.
As for food, I didn’t explore a ton because I was so cold. But I found two gems! First was Whiskey and Ramen. If you enjoy ramen and exceptional service, this is a must-visit. I’d make a trip back just for their Wagyu ramen and their special take on an old fashion!
And, for coffee, I thoroughly enjoyed That Feeling Co. The coffee was great, and being surrounded by plants helped to perk up my spirits.
The Northern Lights
Iceland is one of the most popular places to see the Northern Lights, so I was very excited to know that Alaska also gets to see the Aurora Borealis light show. Typically, many people visit Fairbanks to see them, but there are tours offered in Anchorage too! When prepping for the late-night tour, we’d heard that the night we were heading out to see the lights, the cloud coverage likely meant we wouldn’t be able to see them. Bummer. I know. So, we could sit the tour out or still try. But, in my mind, I was like, why would I come all the way to Alaska not to try?
So, at about 9:30 p.m., we piled into vans and headed out to chase the Northern Lights. We traveled about an hour and a half from Anchorage, and when we stepped out of the van, it was cold and pitch black. And unfortunately, after a couple of hours in the cold, those clouds in the sky never parted for us. I know that when we see the posts of people who do get to see Mother Nature do her thing, we don’t have all of the context of the science, which is Aurora Borealis.
Sometimes, the weather just doesn’t do what we earthlings would like, which can lead to disappointment. However, our guide did give a recommendation. When you book a trip to see the lights, give yourself four to five days to see them. Don’t bank on one day because, at the end of the day, this is science.
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Now, On to the Glacier!
Just six hours after returning from the Northern Lights tour, we were up for the glacier tour because they were back-to-back! I was exhausted and so excited. If someone had told me I’d hike on a glacier, I would have given them a mean side-eye. I mean, where on earth does one climb a glacier? Let me share a few destinations with you, just in case you want to plan an icy adventure: Switzerland, Norway, Iceland, Chile, Argentina, and Alaska.
Aside from the fact the Matanuska Glacier is 22,000 years old, it’s the largest glacier accessible by car in the United States—27 miles long and four miles wide, making it one of the easier ones to see IRL. As a girlie with generalized anxiety disorder, I get anxious about doing this kind of thing because I know that to see these world wonders is usually a mountainous trek.
This one was two hours long, one-way, up snow-capped, windy, mountainous terrain. However, my therapist always reminds me to push myself to do what scares me (as long as it’s for a reason, of course). I held my breath for the journey there and back! And white-knuckled it from time to time, too.
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Once we got there, we were surrounded by fresh, fluffy snow, and it was COLD! In the negative cold. I was thankful, I’d over-prepared. If you even go on a glacier tour, I recommend a few things: Balaclava, heavy-weight gloves, cashmere socks, snow boots, and lots of layers.
Here’s what I wore. My first layer was Ann Taylor leggings and a Wolford Turtleneck. Then, I layered a cashmere turtleneck and cashmere joggers. A COACH down vest, which I’d recommend anyone own just for winter, in general, because it’s SO warm! For my feet, I wore Ann Taylor cashmere socks (I love these because they’re affordable and so warm) and Adidas Adifom Superstar Winter Boot and topped all of that with a Brandon Blackwood ankle-length parka. I know BB is known for his accessories, but the brand’s outwear is truly amazing and worth the investment. After two hours on the ice, I felt great!
If you’re open to adventure travel, I highly recommend putting a glacier tour on your list of things to do. There are a few reasons. First, standing on an ice age-old massive piece of glacier was my 2024 version of touching some grass. I was reminded that I’m a speck on this spinning rock and need to spend more time grounded in that fact as I move through the world. I looked to the sky and thought of how proud my ancestors would be, even though I know they’d be telling me to get my butt home and off a dog on a glacier!
Secondly, I gained an ever-large appreciation for Mother Nature as I learned that glaciers are the world's largest reservoir of freshwater, containing around 69% of the world's freshwater. Again, another fact that helped me gain perspective. Lastly, it’s just fun and stunningly beautiful!
After this, I’m looking forward to my next cold-weather adventure! Iceland and Argentina are at the top of the list!
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