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"Be still."

While this may seem like a simple instruction to follow, for me, that simply is not (and has never been) the case. If I want something done right, I'll do it myself, so when a storm starts, my mind immediately scrambles to find a way to control the weather. My ego often allows me to believe that I must be in control of all things, at all times to feel truly powerful, and that also simply isn't the case.

Sometimes the best thing we can do is find the patience to be still, and Ciara says that her life is proof of this fact. After going through a very public breakup and finding her life in shambles, Ciara says that having the ability to let go and let God was essential to her healing. In a recent interview with ESSENCE, she said:

"You know that saying 'When we make plans, God laughs'? Well, that's a real thing, and God has been good."

Sometimes we get so tired of waiting on what's right, that we settle for what's right for now, but according to CiCi, it's time to level up your faith, sis. You aren't the same person you were five years ago, and you won't be the same person that you are right now in five years. God and change are the only things that are truly consistent in this life, and the now 33-year-old mother of two said that eventually, she had to learn to trust both and go with the flow:

"My faith has carried me through every challenge and triumph. When I was younger and wanting things to happen when I wanted them to happen, I could never have imagined that 15 years later I'd be having the time of my life."

Ciara explained that redefining her sense of self-worth and waiting on God ultimately led to a transformation in both her personal and professional life, but it all started with realizing that our plans aren't God's plans.

"The biggest thing for me has been understanding how important patience is."

Here's a pro tip: His plans are better. Every day, your prayer should be that God grants you the serenity to accept the things you can't change, the courage to change the things you can, and the wisdom to know the difference. Anyone who's had experience with addiction may be familiar with that phrase; but it's important to remember that control can be an addiction too, sis.

When you've done all you can, Ciara should be a reminder to sit your ass down girl. Patience might be the missing piece of the puzzle you needed to truly elevate to the next level.

CiCi's beautiful family and flourishing career are proof that just because things aren't happening when you want them to, it doesn't mean that they're not happening.

Read Ciara's full interview here!

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