
Ciara Subscribes To The ‘Fake It Til You Make It’ Mantra On Days Where She’s Not Feeling Her Best

Ciara is living her life outside the confines of what anyone wants her to be. When it comes to balancing her career, being a mom to her three adorable kids, having one of the most praised marriages in the world of A-list sports and entertainment, and getting to walk around as one of the most beautiful women in the world, she proves to remain unde-frickin-feated.
But even our girl has moments where she isn't feeling her most "Ciara."
That is because, according to Ciara, she has to put in the work to be the woman we know and love today. In fact, she touched on the subject in an interview with POPSUGAR, where she revealed that even when life's curveballs are acting up, when it comes to confidence and whether she is feeling that way or not, she's going to show it off.
"Confidence took time for me. I was taking on so much as a young girl...you gotta be confident when you're doing that. Even when you don't know what you're doing — be confidently wrong."
She says she even subscribes to the "fake it till you make it" philosophy, attesting that it really works.
"People don't see you or hear you if you're not confident — I learned that early on, and I've just worked at it over the years. Every year, I get better; through every experience, I get better."
Rihanna famously opened up about living her life on these same terms, admitting that she's down to 'pretend' to keep herself going.
As one of the biggest and most confident celebrities in the world, it'd be easy to assume that Rihanna has it all together, but nah. She struggles sometimes too. When asked what is it that she does on those days when she isn't feeling her best, her answer was real Rihanna, with the "Needed Me" saying:
"[I] pretend. I mean, it's either that or cry myself to sleep. Who wants to do that? You wake up with puffy eyes the next day, it's a waste of tears."
And as if on cue, she admitted to being nervous and feeling like she was going to throw up before performances before, but ultimately working it out. In a press conference for this year's Apple Music Super Bowl Halftime Show:
"When you become a mom there's something that just happens where you feel like you can take on the world, you can do anything and the Super Bowl is one of the biggest stages in the world, so as scary as that was because I haven't been on stage in seven years, there's something exhilarating about the challenge of it all. It [was] important for me to do this this year. It's important for representation. It's important for my son to see that."
Law Roach recently opened up on the subject and how he pivoted his way to be Zendaya's go-to style BFF.
For Law Roach, it was less about "faking it" but more so committing to his self-belief, telling CNN about his journey to styling despite not having many clients, “It was literally just fake it ‘till you make it. When I met people that’s what I would say. I would be like, ‘I’m a stylist.’”
Roach now has over 1.2 million followers on Instagram and has a team of six assistants in the US and Europe to help manage his formidable client roster, which includes Ariana Grande, Anya Taylor-Joy, Bella Hadid, Megan Thee Stallion, Keke Palmer, and, of course, Zendaya.
Not bad for a guy with just a small vintage shop that Kanye just so happened to walk into one Chicago day, catapulting his styling career.
Tracee Ellis Ross says she's okay with faking the funk due to her relationship with herself
Tracee Ellis Ross shared her usual gems when asked how she shows up when she's not feeling her most confident. She told CRWNMAG:
"My job requires me to be at my best even if I feel at my worst. And I don't think we always have to feel our best. I don't think you always have to think you're the sexiest person in the room or have the best body in the room, I think the thing is having a relationship with yourself."
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Charmin Michelle is a southern native and creative spirit who works as a content marketer and events manager in Chicago. She enjoys traveling, #SummertimeChi, and the journey of mastering womanhood. Connect with her on Instagram @charminmichelle.
'He Said, She Said': Love Stories Put To The Test At A Weekend For Love
At the A Weekend For Love retreat, we sat down with four couples to explore their love stories in a playful but revealing way with #HeSaidSheSaid. From first encounters to life-changing moments, we tested their memories to see if their versions of events aligned—because, as they say, every story has three sides: his, hers, and the truth.
Do these couples remember their love stories the same way? Press play to find out.
Episode 1: Indira & Desmond – Love Across the Miles
They say distance makes the heart grow fonder, but for Indira & Desmond, love made it stronger. Every mile apart deepened their bond, reinforcing the unshakable foundation of their relationship. From their first "I love you" to the moment they knew they had found home in each other, their journey is a beautiful testament to the endurance of true love.
Episode 2: Jay & Tia – A Love Story Straight Out of a Rom-Com
If Hollywood is looking for its next Black love story, they need to take notes from Jay & Tia. Their journey—from an awkward first date to navigating careers, parenthood, and personal growth—proves that love is not just about romance but also resilience. Their story is full of laughter, challenges, and, most importantly, a love that stands the test of time.
Episode 3: Larencia & Mykel – Through the Highs and Lows
A date night with police helicopters overhead? Now that’s a story! Larencia & Mykel have faced unexpected surprises, major life changes, and 14 years of choosing each other every single day. But after all this time, do they actually remember things the same way? Their episode is sure to bring some eye-opening revelations and a lot of laughs.
Episode 4: Soy & Osei – A Love Aligned in Purpose
From a chance meeting at the front door to 15 years of unwavering love, faith, and growth, Soy & Osei prove that when two souls are aligned in love and purpose, nothing can shake their foundation. Their journey is a powerful reminder that true love is built on mutual support, shared values, and a deep connection that only strengthens with time.
Each of these couples has a unique and inspiring story to tell, but do their memories match up? Watch #HeSaidSheSaid to find out!
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Swipe Right For Sisterhood: Reginae Carter Talks Teaming Up With BLK To Make Friendships Front & Center
You know the vibes: dating apps aren’t just for finding romance anymore—at least not for Gen Z! As young people continue to redefine connection, BLK, the leading dating app for Black singles, is shaking things up with the launch of Social Mode. The new feature allows users to toggle between dating and platonic connections. Yep, you read that right—friendship is now just as easy to find as love.
To kick off this game-changing launch, BLK teamed up with TV personality and socialite Reginae Carter for the ultimate Girls’ Night In, proving that sisterhood is just as important as romance. The exclusive event was a celebration of the new feature and the power of Black women coming together to uplift one another.
“Your circle is everything,” Reginae shares with a smile, and she’s not wrong. She’s all about creating spaces where we can come together, let our hair down, and vibe with like-minded women. “We deserve spaces to meet, uplift, and vibe with each other. BLK is making that happen,” she adds.
A New Era for Friendships—Social Mode Is Here!
Gen Z is all about building meaningful connections, whether it’s with a date or a new brunch buddy. That’s why Social Mode is such a big deal. Research shows that 65% of Gen Z values friendships just as much as romantic relationships. With BLK’s new feature, users can easily toggle between “Dating” and “Social,” opening up a world of platonic connections—no swiping right required.
Bahja Rodriguez, Reginae Carter, Breaunna Womack, Lourdes Rodriguez and Zonnique Pullins attend OMG Girlz "Make A Scene" Single Release & Video Viewing Party at Trap City Cafe on March 27, 2025 in Atlanta, Georgia
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Reginae Carter Hosts the Ultimate Girls’ Night In—Powered by BLK Social Mode
What better way to show Social Mode in action than with an exclusive Girls’ Night In, hosted by Reginae? The event brought together top influencers, tastemakers, and press for a night of luxury, self-care, and real talk about love, sex, and relationships. From tarot readings to perfume-making and signature cocktails, the evening embodied the “soft life” vibe that many Black women are embracing in 2025—peaceful, intentional, and full of joy.
Guests mingled, laughed, and bonded over the importance of finding a tribe that supports you. It wasn’t just about fun (although there was plenty of that!)—it was about creating a circle of inspiring, strong women. “We need to stick together. We need to be each other’s village,” Reginae says, emphasizing the power of community over competition.
Sisterhood: The Real MVP
For Reginae, it’s all about friendship—and not just the surface-level kind. “We need friends who keep it real with us. The ones who can tell us when we’re right, when we’re wrong, and when we need to calm down,” she says. As someone who navigates the spotlight, she’s got the best of both worlds: friends who understand the grind and those who can give her an honest, grounded perspective.
Her advice for building strong, intentional friendships? “Be confident in yourself and know your worth,” she explains. “Also, hurt people hurt people, so make sure you’re coming from a good place when you’re building relationships. It’s not always about being nice—sometimes it’s about being real.”
Reginae couldn’t have summed it up better: “When you have the right circle, the right tribe, everything just feels easier. And that’s exactly what BLK is giving us—space to connect, laugh, and grow with each other.”
To learn more about BLK’s Social Mode, download or update the BLK app in the App Store or Google Play Store today. Who knows? You might just find your new bestie or your next brunch crew.
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