

Most girls love custom dresses for their special occasions but I love custom lingerie for my day-to-day.
Now don't get things misconstrued, there is nothing like that custom freakum dress to celebrate a special occasion but there is something special about custom lingerie that uplifts my spirits. I know what you might be thinking, I'm single, What's the purpose? or My partner takes me as I am, but you too can switch the narrative and wear lingerie for yourself and no one else. The most essential perk in investing in custom lingerie is that it is made especially for your body and no one else's.
I'll never forget trying on my first custom lingerie set designed and sewn by Sarah Dawson (Sada by Sarah Designs) and feeling like a new woman. My lingerie immediately put a smile on my face and had me feeling myself in all kinds of ways. I set my Beyoncé playlist and danced the night away. I even wore my lingerie set to Curl Fest and had the time of my life. All of my high spirits and colorfulness were intensified making custom lingerie my latest obsession. The feeling was exhilarating.
Check out the list below for 5 reasons why you should get yourself some custom lingerie. Black-owned and fully loaded!
1.The Design Experience
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Lingerie by @sadabysarah
Together, you and the designer determine the design and cuts that will be best for you based on your measurements. This is your opportunity to get creative and collaborate with the designer to make a lingerie piece that best suits you and/or your partner's desires. Whether it's a simple bra and panty set or an exotic bodysuit; you have all of the options beyond your imagine.
2.Lingerie Meant To Fit Your Body
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Lingerie by @sadabysarah
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Sada by Sarah specifically makes lingerie based on your measurements. All you have to do is follow the measurement directions and send in your design style of choice. The goal of custom lingerie is to give clients the awareness of their power; you can wear the piece to make yourself feel good in your own private space, or wear it to engage with your spouse. Set the mood in the right way.
3.One Of A Kind Pieces That Are Timelessly Sexy
Photography by @bryantaylorjohnson
Lingerie by @sadabysarah
Custom lingerie pieces are timelessly sexy. You can keep them forever and wear them as many times as you want and they will never look dated. Let's face it. You see the work. There is literally nothing like it.
4.The Versatility To Wear It Whenever, Wherever
Waist Cincher and Bra by @sadabysarah
Dress by @pretttylittlething
The Sada by Sarah designs are versatile. You have the option of wearing her pieces to either set the mood and wear as outerwear. Especially if you decide to purchase a fabulous waist cincher to accentuate your curves or add flair to your dress. Wear it out and mix it with your everyday clothing. The power is yours.
5.You Can Enhance The Parts Of Your Body You Love Most
Photography by @sequoyahdaniel
Lingerie by @sadabysarah
Whether skinny, curvy, tall, or short, custom lingerie is made to not only fit you but to enhance the parts of your body that you love. Or to conceal the parts you don't like as much. Let's be real, we love our bodies but there can be parts that we don't like as much. We got options!
There are women that spend their entire lives without taking the time to get comfortable with their sexuality. Now is the time to get acquainted with your definition of beauty internally and externally. Designing lingerie for yourself, whether it's basic textures, sexy, or colorful, could be your first step. Wearing Sada by Sarah allows you to create a piece that suits your personality and gives you the freedom to accentuate your favorite body parts. Get out that measuring tape and get ready to explore a new and divine you.
Give yourself time to embrace your sexuality and do it for you sis. Okay!
All lingerie looks by Sada By Sarah. Click here to visit their website for more. Featured image by Sequoyah Daniel.
'He Said, She Said': Love Stories Put To The Test At A Weekend For Love
At the A Weekend For Love retreat, we sat down with four couples to explore their love stories in a playful but revealing way with #HeSaidSheSaid. From first encounters to life-changing moments, we tested their memories to see if their versions of events aligned—because, as they say, every story has three sides: his, hers, and the truth.
Do these couples remember their love stories the same way? Press play to find out.
Episode 1: Indira & Desmond – Love Across the Miles
They say distance makes the heart grow fonder, but for Indira & Desmond, love made it stronger. Every mile apart deepened their bond, reinforcing the unshakable foundation of their relationship. From their first "I love you" to the moment they knew they had found home in each other, their journey is a beautiful testament to the endurance of true love.
Episode 2: Jay & Tia – A Love Story Straight Out of a Rom-Com
If Hollywood is looking for its next Black love story, they need to take notes from Jay & Tia. Their journey—from an awkward first date to navigating careers, parenthood, and personal growth—proves that love is not just about romance but also resilience. Their story is full of laughter, challenges, and, most importantly, a love that stands the test of time.
Episode 3: Larencia & Mykel – Through the Highs and Lows
A date night with police helicopters overhead? Now that’s a story! Larencia & Mykel have faced unexpected surprises, major life changes, and 14 years of choosing each other every single day. But after all this time, do they actually remember things the same way? Their episode is sure to bring some eye-opening revelations and a lot of laughs.
Episode 4: Soy & Osei – A Love Aligned in Purpose
From a chance meeting at the front door to 15 years of unwavering love, faith, and growth, Soy & Osei prove that when two souls are aligned in love and purpose, nothing can shake their foundation. Their journey is a powerful reminder that true love is built on mutual support, shared values, and a deep connection that only strengthens with time.
Each of these couples has a unique and inspiring story to tell, but do their memories match up? Watch #HeSaidSheSaid to find out!
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Having a morning routine is a crucial aspect of adulting, often setting the foundation for the rest of the day. Slow mornings, especially have gained popularity for its mindful approach to starting the day versus waking up frantic and in a rush. It appears our beloved creative, Issa Rae, is team slow mornings and shared her morning routine with It Takes a Village podcast.
The Insecure creator revealed that she was a part of the 4 AM club. After waking up, she dedicates an hour or hour and a half to exercise. Next, she prepares coffee and engages in what she calls her version of meditation.
"Coffee listening to news, sitting in the dark on the couch, sometimes I'll light a candle and sometimes journaling," she said. Waking up early and adopting a slow morning routine offer numerous benefits. Below, we delve into some of these advantages and provide guidance on how to incorporate them into your daily routine.
Waking Up Early
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Waking up at 4 AM might be too early for some, but waking up early overall has many benefits. As per Healthline, some of these advantages include improved sleep quality, increased energy levels, better skin, and the most evident benefit, accomplishing more tasks. If you begin work at 8 AM, consider waking up at 5 or 6 AM to dedicate time to your mental well-being before diving into the day's demands.
Exercising
There’s no better way to boost endorphins than through exercise. Starting your day with exercise can have a positive impact on your mood, which can, in turn, influence the rest of your day.
One advantage of going to the gym early is fewer people, so you don't have to wait to use your favorite machine. If you prefer at-home workouts, you can turn on a 30 minute workout video from a fitness trainer on YouTube or finally use the walking pad that's been stashed away in the corner.
Meditation
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Meditating involves sitting in silence (unless you're listening to a guided meditation) and being one with yourself. While Issa mentioned enjoying her meditation with coffee and a candle, you can create your own peaceful atmosphere. This could involve lighting sage, sitting with crystals, or using essential oils.
Regardless of the time you have, whether it’s 30 minutes or just five, incorporating meditation into your morning routine can help you begin your day with a tranquil mindset.
Journaling
Journaling can be done anytime of the day, but starting your day with it in the morning can provide clarity. There are several types of journaling that can be beneficial morning practices.
Dream journaling involves writing about your dreams the night before to gain transparency about them. Gratitude journaling involves writing about things you’re grateful for, while mindful journaling allows you to express your thoughts and feelings.
All of these practices can contribute to a successful day. By consistently practicing them, you may notice positive changes in your attitude and overall well-being.
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