

So the coronavirus has completely flipped over the table in our society, and understandably it has many of us questioning our current career choices. Companies are closing and going bankrupt, friends and family members are losing their jobs, the stock market is struggling, and there is little indication that our lives will actually return to "normal" once the virus is under control. But is a career change really the right answer at this point?
Before you make the decision to just leave your old career behind in favor of a new one, below are some questions you will want to consider:
1.Do you actually WANT to change your career?
Yes, COVID-19 has made everything seem terrible, and several industries are suffering as a result, but remember career changes are not like light switches. It can take some time (and potentially additional investment) to successfully make that transition, and therefore it shouldn't be a knee-jerk reaction without careful thought and self-reflection. So before leaping, ask yourself if this is what you truly want. When this is all over, and the world has returned to some level of normalcy, you will still want to work where you feel fulfilled.
2.What skills are required for the new field?
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Not every career change requires an entirely new set of skills and expertise, so ask yourself what transferable skills do you already possess that you can use in your transition. Do your research to understand what specific skills and experience employers are looking for, and assess whether you have any gaps. This will help you determine if additional education or training is required to ensure you are competitive with other candidates in the market.
3.Is the new field viable and GROWING?
If you're going to go through the effort of changing your entire career path, you will want to assess the maturity of the field you're going into, and if there is true potential for advancement and a long-term career. Even if you don't plan on staying FOREVER, you still want to ensure that you can have the experiences you want and there are opportunities for growth and development.
4.What is it like to work in this new field?
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Given this is uncharted territory, you don't want to jump in head-first without knowing what you're getting yourself into. If you know people already in the field, this is a great time to tap into your network and do some recon so that you can get the lowdown on what the work is really like. Get some insight into how they got their start, what challenges they've faced, and if the work subject matter aligns with your interests. If you DON'T know anyone in the field, begin building a network. Leverage LinkedIn, professional associations, and alumni groups for your alma mater. Perhaps you may not know someone directly in the field, but your friend or colleague does. Ask for an introduction so you can start building that relationship on your own.
5.Is there good earning potential?
Not all fields are created equal when it comes to coins. Therefore it's important to evaluate whether or not the new field and position will offer you a desirable salary/total compensation package. Thankfully, it's 2020, and there is a ton of salary information available for FREE on the internet. You can try out sites such as Salary.com, Glassdoor, PayScale, and the federal government-sponsored Bureau of Labor Statistics.
6.Will this career change require you to relocate or uproot your life?
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Depending on what your career change is, you may find that certain cities (potentially outside your own) will offer a better and broader pool of opportunities for you to choose from. But while that may sound fantastic, you cannot discount the impact that relocation may have on your life. So before you make this change, you may want to ask yourself a few questions: Is relocation something you are able and/or willing to undertake right now? How will such a change affect your family? What quality of life (outside of work) will the new city offer you? The good news is, due to COVID-19, more companies are offering remote options, but keep in mind that it will be dependent on the nature of the position and its requirements.
If you are ready to change careers, now really is the perfect time. With so many industries changing and shifting, there are plenty of new opportunities to explore. However, as with any big change in your life, you should take the time to make sure it's RIGHT for you.
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'He Said, She Said': Love Stories Put To The Test At A Weekend For Love
At the A Weekend For Love retreat, we sat down with four couples to explore their love stories in a playful but revealing way with #HeSaidSheSaid. From first encounters to life-changing moments, we tested their memories to see if their versions of events aligned—because, as they say, every story has three sides: his, hers, and the truth.
Do these couples remember their love stories the same way? Press play to find out.
Episode 1: Indira & Desmond – Love Across the Miles
They say distance makes the heart grow fonder, but for Indira & Desmond, love made it stronger. Every mile apart deepened their bond, reinforcing the unshakable foundation of their relationship. From their first "I love you" to the moment they knew they had found home in each other, their journey is a beautiful testament to the endurance of true love.
Episode 2: Jay & Tia – A Love Story Straight Out of a Rom-Com
If Hollywood is looking for its next Black love story, they need to take notes from Jay & Tia. Their journey—from an awkward first date to navigating careers, parenthood, and personal growth—proves that love is not just about romance but also resilience. Their story is full of laughter, challenges, and, most importantly, a love that stands the test of time.
Episode 3: Larencia & Mykel – Through the Highs and Lows
A date night with police helicopters overhead? Now that’s a story! Larencia & Mykel have faced unexpected surprises, major life changes, and 14 years of choosing each other every single day. But after all this time, do they actually remember things the same way? Their episode is sure to bring some eye-opening revelations and a lot of laughs.
Episode 4: Soy & Osei – A Love Aligned in Purpose
From a chance meeting at the front door to 15 years of unwavering love, faith, and growth, Soy & Osei prove that when two souls are aligned in love and purpose, nothing can shake their foundation. Their journey is a powerful reminder that true love is built on mutual support, shared values, and a deep connection that only strengthens with time.
Each of these couples has a unique and inspiring story to tell, but do their memories match up? Watch #HeSaidSheSaid to find out!
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Love Is The Muse: How Skylar And Temi Built A Creative Life Together
When Temitope Ibisanmi DM’d the word “muse” to Skylar Marshai, he knew he was shooting his romantic shot. He didn’t realize, however, that he was connecting with his future business and creative partner, too.
“I was the boyfriend,” Temi says. “Everybody out there knows, you’re the cameraman at that point.”
Skylar sees things differently. At the time, she was shooting content on her iPhone. Temi came into the picture with a new perspective, an understanding of tech, and, eventually, a camera. “He doesn't give himself enough credit,” Skylar says. “He wasn't just my tripod. He wasn't just standing behind the camera and going ‘click.’ He was giving advice. He was giving me insight to how I could look at things from a different perspective. And I was like, 'Oh, he’s an artist.' I think it was maybe a heartbeat of that kind of energy of like, ‘Baby, can you take this picture?’ And it turned so quickly into, we're partners. We can work together in a way where we're advancing each other's creative thinking.”
The pair often says they’re two sides of the same coin. Skylar is an Aquarius. She attended art school, paints, and loves poetry. She’s more than happy to let the couple’s management firm and agency, Kensington Grey, handle their admin work. And, she loves to sleep in. Temi, on the other hand, wakes up early. He’s a Virgo. He loves a to-do list and regularly checks in on the couple’s brand partnerships spreadsheet to make sure everything is on track.
Because his storytelling was steeped in his love of technology, he didn’t always think of himself as a creative person. “Where I [am] the dreamer who wants to pluck things out of the sky and spend all day with my head in the clouds, Temi [is] so good at grounding me and helping me figure out how to make things make sense on paper. We just work together in such a complimentary way,” Skylar says.
It’s been more than six years since Brooklyn-based couple Temi and Skylar started dating, and nearly four since they cemented their working relationship. On TikTok and Instagram, the couple’s travel, fashion, and home content regularly rack up hundreds of thousands of views. They’ve worked with brands such as Coach, Aesop, Away, and Liquid IV, bringing their vibrant perspectives to every campaign they execute. Still, nearly two years since both Temi and Skylar committed to full-time content creation and creative directing, the couple says their romantic connection remains their priority.
“We told each other we would much rather go back to full-time jobs and preserve our relationship than to be full-time freelancers, barely getting a night's rest [and] barely kissing each other because we're so busy shooting,” Skylar says.
Working from home can make it hard to separate work from personal life for any entrepreneur. It can be even more challenging when your business partner is also your lover. Temi and Skylar had already used couples therapy as a tool to help them effectively communicate with one another. When they ran into challenges while working together, their therapist helped them set physical boundaries to help combat the issues.
"We told each other we would much rather go back to full-time jobs and preserve our relationship than to be full-time freelancers, barely getting a night's rest [and] barely kissing each other because we're so busy shooting."
“It actually took us doing very specific physical things to create boundaries between work and play in our relationship,” Skylar says. “So, for instance, we will only have conversations about work when we're out of bed or we're at the table or in the office. Initially, when we started, we had to light a candle to say that, 'Okay, this is a space where we're connecting, we’re not talking about work.' We needed really hard boundaries at the top. And then it became a little bit more organic.”
The boundaries have been crucial to implement, especially because the couple began working together so naturally. When the pair first met, Skylar was NY-based a social strategist for BuzzFeed and was using content creation to drive business to her lingerie company. She was shooting her own content. Temi was working for Microsoft in D.C. He’d recently traded in his DJing equipment for a camera. “I've always loved taking pictures,” he says. “Even when I was a kid, my African mother would wake me up at 3:00 a.m. [during a] party, and be like, 'Come take the family picture.'”
Growing up, Temi says he watched his parents support each other and be the true definition of partners. He knew he wanted the same for his own relationship. But, the couple also wanted to make sure they were being financially responsible. The pair didn’t quit their traditional jobs until they’d saved up two years' worth of their cost of living. And, Temi received his Master of Business Administration from New York University with the knowledge that it could either help him advance in his corporate career or be applicable to his business with Skylar.
Today, they say their working relationship is more of a “quiet dance.” They still implement some of the boundaries they learned in therapy, but they also lean into their natural strengths and deep love for one another. When we speak, Temi has planned a date for the couple to see Princess Mononoke in 4K IMAX and added it to their Notion so they can factor it into their busy schedules. “I fully plan to date for the rest of my life,” he says.
Skylar says the couple doesn’t just wait for date nights to check in with one another, though. This often happens in the mornings, after Temi has made her peppermint tea and poured himself a cup of coffee. When they ask each other how they slept, she says, it’s not just a “nicety.” It’s a genuine question meant to foster connection.
“A lot of it happens during the day in the midst of work. We'll stop and we'll hug. Or we’ll slow dance in the kitchen,” she says. “Sometimes it's hard to set a whole date night when you have 7,000 things going on. So, we must grasp these moments and check in when we can. And I think it's become so organic to us that I actually didn't even realize how often we do it. But all day long, we're like, 'Are you good? I felt like your energy shifted,' because we're best friends, we just know. We just feel it happen.”
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