
Best Career Advice On Success, Confidence & Leveling Up From A Few Of Our Faves

When you're ambitious and know where you're going in life, two things are important to fuel your motivation and drive: positive affirmations and actual real-life examples to look to for advisement or mentorship. Research has proven it (y'all know I'm big on that) but even beyond a study, it makes logical sense.
As we're all about bossing up here and amplifying the stories of Black women who do so, we've collected so many jewels of knowledge from tried-and-true Black women building tables across industries. Here's a collection of top career advice on success, confidence, and leveling up from a few favorites:
Dimplez Ijeoma, Music Executive
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Dimplez Ijoema, who has served as Senior Vice President of Marketing at Capitol Music Group and a leading digital marketer, paved her own lane, empowered herself through innovative thinking and leadership, and enjoyed the power of mentorship and advocacy from other senior leaders in her industry. In an interview with xoNecole, she talked about how effective communication plays a role in success:
"A lot of workplace or career challenges literally boiled down to miscommunication — whether it be intentional or unintentional. And as an executive, a woman, and a human, the moment we become better communicators, the less friction we will have."
Stormi Steele, Founder and CEO of Canvas Beauty
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On Engaging Authenticity
Canvas Beauty founder and CEO Stormi Steele built a brand from the ground up, going from her home-based business to being sold in major retailers. She’s also built a large following on social and real-life communities of supporters and brand-builders. Steele reiterated a key factor in success— for any power woman–that resonates across industries, experience levels, and business journeys:
“Focus on building a community, and not more so just selling a product. So for us, like, I was selling the product, but I wasn’t saying, like, ‘Oh, go buy this’ or ‘buy this.’ I'm more so taking people on a journey with the growth of our brand and I think people resonate with that more so than, you know, just saying sell, sell, sell.”
The same advice can apply to a 9-to-5er working to get to the top of the ladder and join the C-suite of a company. When you can unapologetically be yourself (while doing quality work with measurable results), relate to others, and take an approach of authentic relatability, it can do wonders.
Melissa Ingram, TV Executive
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On Empowering Through Service
For TV executive Melissa Ingram, servant leadership has been a common theme that has laid a foundation for decades of success in the entertainment industry. For her, lifting as you climb is a vital boss move that not only enhances her own self-development and advancement but empowers the overall bottom line of any company.
"When you invest in others, they begin to trust you. And it's always been purpose over position for me. Don't get so caught up in a title. Ask yourself, 'What's my purpose in this role? Is this an opportunity for me to serve and bring my unique skill sets to the table to help others?' As a manager, if your team succeeds, you succeed.
Kandace Banks, Web Series Creator
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On Building Resilience
From pursuing her dreams of being a celebrity stylist to overcoming challenges in the fashion industry to creating her own scripted series, Kandace Banks’ story of career fulfillment is the perfect case study on confidence and resilience.
“You have to expect to work really hard. I didn’t expect to work as hard as I had to. If you go in with the mentality of having to hustle and grind, unfortunately, that’s what you’re going to have to do. People are going to treat you terribly, but you have to be confident within yourself to know that you can't take anything personal. At the end of the day, you have to do your best work and give it all you got and know that you’ve tried your hardest.”
Nicole Walters, CEO
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On Prioritizing Strategy And Rest
Nicole Walters, CEO of Inherit Learning Co., is a best-selling author and podcaster, with extensive experience in consulting and working as an executive in Corporate America. She’s poured into other professionals to match their passions and talents with purpose and fulfillment. A big lesson she learned is the importance of being strategic in how we map out our professional plans and finding ways to incorporate rest as part of our success strategy.
“A lot of us think we work hard until retirement hits. I want to progress toward retirement. It is intentionally building out what I know I would like to have happen and not waiting for exhaustion to be the trigger of change.”
Brittany Yates, Founder of Grind on the Go
Arleshia McGirt/Authorized Shot PhotographyOn Building Go-Getter Strength
Brittany Yates, founder of Grind on the Go, a premium coffee and tea brand, balanced a 9-to-5 while launching and found initial investors to fund her idea via her network. Her simple but powerful mantra of just-do-it gusto has led to results, allowing her to build a large community and consumer base. There’s a certain amount of faith, audacity, and good time management that allows her to push through challenges to reach her goals.
“My mindset is that if it's something I really want to do, I can do it. [Some people would say] that's over-simplified, but for me, if I want to do something, I'm doing it. Another thing is time management. I time block, in a sense, so I'll say I'm working a certain amount [of time] on this, and a certain amount of time on that.”
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'He Said, She Said': Love Stories Put To The Test At A Weekend For Love
At the A Weekend For Love retreat, we sat down with four couples to explore their love stories in a playful but revealing way with #HeSaidSheSaid. From first encounters to life-changing moments, we tested their memories to see if their versions of events aligned—because, as they say, every story has three sides: his, hers, and the truth.
Do these couples remember their love stories the same way? Press play to find out.
Episode 1: Indira & Desmond – Love Across the Miles
They say distance makes the heart grow fonder, but for Indira & Desmond, love made it stronger. Every mile apart deepened their bond, reinforcing the unshakable foundation of their relationship. From their first "I love you" to the moment they knew they had found home in each other, their journey is a beautiful testament to the endurance of true love.
Episode 2: Jay & Tia – A Love Story Straight Out of a Rom-Com
If Hollywood is looking for its next Black love story, they need to take notes from Jay & Tia. Their journey—from an awkward first date to navigating careers, parenthood, and personal growth—proves that love is not just about romance but also resilience. Their story is full of laughter, challenges, and, most importantly, a love that stands the test of time.
Episode 3: Larencia & Mykel – Through the Highs and Lows
A date night with police helicopters overhead? Now that’s a story! Larencia & Mykel have faced unexpected surprises, major life changes, and 14 years of choosing each other every single day. But after all this time, do they actually remember things the same way? Their episode is sure to bring some eye-opening revelations and a lot of laughs.
Episode 4: Soy & Osei – A Love Aligned in Purpose
From a chance meeting at the front door to 15 years of unwavering love, faith, and growth, Soy & Osei prove that when two souls are aligned in love and purpose, nothing can shake their foundation. Their journey is a powerful reminder that true love is built on mutual support, shared values, and a deep connection that only strengthens with time.
Each of these couples has a unique and inspiring story to tell, but do their memories match up? Watch #HeSaidSheSaid to find out!
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From Dull To Dewy: These Spring Skincare Tweaks Make All The Difference
Spring cleaning isn’t just for your home, it can also apply to your skin.
When transitioning from the cold winter to the warm spring, your skin may require a different skincare routine such as lighter creams or overall less product. Brianna Kelly recently opened up B Beautiful Medical Spa in Atlanta, GA over the weekend and she shared with xoNecole about her skincare journey and how to treat your skin when the seasons change.
On her skincare journey.
"Yeah, so at the time, I would say mid-20s to late 20s, I was very self-conscious about my pore size, and I always used to feel like when I was talking to people, people were staring at my pores. So I was trying to find different skincare treatments. I also tried microneedling and some laser treatments as well, to try to address my pore size and the texture of my skin. I even went as far as traveling to different states to see different experts in the field for that.
"Over time, just maintenance with facials and premium skincare, I started to feel confident and better about how my skin was looking."
On the treatments her spa offers.
"We have all esthetic services, microneedling, microdermabrasion. We have chemical pills. We'll be doing some Botox and fillers, some lip injections, some IV hydration as well. And of course, we are going to be specializing in facials. From our seven-step classic facial to our 10-step everything beautiful facial."
On transitioning from winter to spring skincare.
"Moving into the spring from the winter time, I would definitely say, make sure you're using the right products. A lot of times we shouldn't be using the same products that we use in the winter, in the spring, or in the summer. You may want to get a different cleanser, or you may want to switch to a lighter moisturizer.
"You also want to make sure you have a good SPF to protect you from any sun damage now that we’re gonna be outside a little more during the spring and the summer, so I would definitely say focusing on making sure you're using the right products. Treat yourself to a facial. Get a good facial that exfoliates the skin, getting rid of all of those dead skin cells that you may have accumulated during the winter, and most importantly, make sure you're hydrating, drinking water, [and] maintaining a healthy, balanced diet."
"Moving into the spring from the winter time, make sure you're using the right products. A lot of times we shouldn't be using the same products that we use in the winter, in the spring, or in the summer. You may want to get a different cleanser, or you may want to switch to a lighter moisturizer."
On advice she would give others on their skincare journey.
"I would definitely advise them to see a professional. Definitely go to a spa and book a facial appointment with an expert aesthetician to get some feedback on the type of skin that they have, get recommendations for different products and treatments, and just [allow] a professional to address their concerns. What I noticed is that a lot of women are using the wrong products.
"They're going to the local CVS or local Walgreens, and getting products off the shelves and taking them home and using them. They're not really using the right product. So I would definitely say it's important to consult with an expert first to give you some sort of guidance on what to be using on your skin."
For more information, follow B Beautiful Medical Spa on Instagram @bbeautifulmedicalspa.
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