I Created A Safe Space For The Aviation Community To Support Our Chaotic Lifestyles
As Told To is a recurring segment on xoNecole where real women are given a platform to tell their stories in first-person narrative as told to a writer.
This is Brenda Orelus' story, as told to Charmin Michelle.
So. Hilarious story: shortly after pitching my company, Krew Konnect, at Blacktech Week, I returned to work as a New York-based flight attendant. On that particular day, I was called to cover a turn-around trip out of LaGuardia Airport. After a traumatizing incident (a random passenger kissed me, forcing me to go to the ER), when it was all over, my company placed me on a first-class flight to Miami to return home.
At this point, I am full-blown crying because of the incident; practically inconsolable. But as I was boarding back onto the aircraft, I noticed the one and only, Daymond John on the flight.
Immediately, I feel this wave of calm come over me and I go to take my seat.
You see, when creating my business, I modeled it directly after a few of the same principles Daymond had built his company on, so spotting him was a much larger deal than you're probably understanding right now... And there I was, seated across from the man I admired.
I decided to write him a letter.
In my letter, I thanked him for his influence and discussed business plans. At that moment, crazy enough, I became thankful for all the wild things that happened to me that day. Had it not been for those mishaps, I would not have been there at that moment. I finished my letter and I asked the working flight attendants to pass it along to him on my behalf. We landed, I grabbed my bags and headed home. I was thankful that I had the opportunity to thank the person who inspired me for so many years. I didn't know if anything would come of it, but I was grateful.
The next morning, while I was discussing the previous day with my family, my phone rings. I pick up and the voice on the other line says: "Hi, may I speak to Brenda? This is Daymond John calling."
This is WHO?!
He chuckles and says, "Yes, you wrote me a note on yesterday's flight." At this point, I am full-blown freaking out and ask to put him on hold. I start screaming and practicing breathing exercises all at the same time. "Why didn't you wait to talk to me after the flight?" he continued.
He went on to tell me he was proud of me and what I was doing with Krew Konnect. He took the time to share some really great advice, listen to my concerns, and share his feedback. I was just Brenda from Miami, dead-set on solving an ongoing issue within my community, and somehow my hustle landed me on the phone with my childhood business hero.
After that, I would go on to audition for Shark Tank, leading to more doors opening for my little unknown brand. A brand that was solving a true industry problem. And to elaborate, I've built a safe space where aviation professionals can get the resources they need in order to thrive within our unique lifestyle. We represent a variety of work groups within the industry in hopes of improving our day-to-day lives. We were even the first company incubated out of Vector 90, a co-working space located in South Central LA owned by real estate developer David Gross and Nipsey Hussle (and an opportunity that came from my Shark Tank audition). There, I was able to do research and development for my innovative network.
To put it blatantly, we take care of our people. And we're owned and created by a Black woman who's bomb at doing so.
The Evolution Of Flight Bae B
I grew up first-gen Haitian-American in South Florida, born in Miami, and grew up in a city called Weston. Weston was the kind of place where the country club you belonged to was the go-to talking point. It just so happened my family would belong to the most prominent club, Weston Hills Country Club, making us an anomaly, to say the least. While I have fond memories growing up there, it was very difficult at times being one of the first Black families in our community. Not only were we Black, but we were Haitian, adding another level to cultural and racial relations. However, all the lessons Weston taught me prepared me for what I would face in my journey as a Black aviation geek, traveler, and entrepreneur.
I decided to become a flight attendant at an incredibly pivotal time in my life. It was 2013 and I had recently made the difficult decision not to pursue a legal career, after five years of advocating for civil rights under the tutelage of Attorney Benjamin Crump.
I knew I wanted to go into business for myself, but didn't want to take on the financial risk or have a job that would require work once I clock out. Spirit Airlines was hiring flight attendants in Ft. Lauderdale and I jumped at the opportunity to get hired. After an intense hiring process that included multiple rounds of in-person interviews, I got the job.
And so began my career in aviation and the creation of Krew Konnect.
Breaking Down Barriers
The first year building my company was exhilarating in the best way possible. And it was actually born out of my depression. After becoming flight attendants, my peers and I found it hard to adjust to the nuances of the lifestyle and struggled to find resources to help.
We're constantly in new cities, we're always on the go. Our home lives can be non-existent.
Determined to make the reality of the job be just as glamorous as the romanticized version, I set out to find out what other needs aviation pros had so I could create viable solutions to our problems. So ultimately, that first year taught me more than ever to believe in myself and to learn as much as I could so that I would be a resource to my niche community of aviation.
Obtaining a career in aviation is incredibly expensive, then account for centuries of systemic racism, and you will have a lot of the reasons why aviation has historically been inaccessible for Black communities around the world. And even when hired, Black aviators are often deemed "less qualified" due to worldwide racial bias against Black skin.
After six years of being a flight attendant and running an aviation-first social club, I realized the biggest barrier to a career in aviation is accessibility. The two primary forms of accessibility I see hindering the Black community within aviation are entry accessibility and financial accessibility. So, I created our Klub House model as an affordable alternative to traditional crashpad, primarily to help eliminate some of the financial burdens Black aviators face once they've attained an aviation career.
However, to see a significant increase in new Black aviators, there needs to be entry assistance into aviation, which is where I come in.
Organizations such as OBAP, do a great job of assisting Black pilots in their quest to become commercial pilots, but there aren't much in place to protect our flight attendants. We help create more entry in aviation by teaching aspiring flight attendants the skills necessary in order to get hired by private or commercial airlines.
It is my hope that students in the Black community will take advantage of my free course to gain a competitive edge when becoming flight attendants. Many utilize becoming a flight attendant as a foot in the door and springboard into different fields within aviation. Once these aspiring aviators cross over to active duty aviation professionals, I will continue to bring real-life solutions to them through Krew Konnect's signature Klub Houses.
Come use me, guys. I want us to have this leg up, I want to see more of us in roles that effect change in big and small ways. I am most fulfilled in these moments.
Courtesy of Brenda Orelus
Balancing A Lifestyle
When I am overwhelmed, I have a multitude of self-care practices to guide me through--some more routine than others. However, what works for me to prevent it altogether, and stimulate productivity is waking up at 5 a.m. Being up early gives me time to practice my physical, mental, and spiritual self-care routines, which in turn allows me to have more clarity and be more effective in my work each and every day.
This teeny-tiny life hack has had a tremendous effect on my life. I encourage all entrepreneurs to learn what works for them and commit to doing it every day to see significant changes in your life and business.
As for what's next for me, I am so excited that aviation is becoming more mainstream! I look forward to releasing new flight courses, in multiple languages--we're going global, ladies!
So, feel free to hop on the plane with us. We've got you covered.
Brenda and her Krew Konnect team can be found on Instagram at @brenda.orelus and @krewkonnect. You may also visit their website for the latest and greatest information.
Featured image courtesy of Brenda Orelus
Charmin Michelle is a southern native and creative spirit who works as a content marketer and events manager in Chicago. She enjoys traveling, #SummertimeChi, and the journey of mastering womanhood. Connect with her on Instagram @charminmichelle.
Exclusive: Melanie Fiona On Making High-Vibrational Music & Saying Yes To Partnership
Melanie Fiona is back! After taking a little more than a decade-long hiatus, she has officially made her return to music and blessed us with two singles, “Say Yes” and “I Choose You.” While both singles are very different from each other, they both reflect who she is today and the type of music she wants to make. In our conversation, the mom of two expressed what she learned during her time away.
“It's interesting, even when I said it is like coming back, I don't ever feel like I really left because I was always still performing. I've still been public. It's not like I went into being this recluse person or version of myself, but the thing that I really learned in this process is that I think things take time,” Melanie says in a xoNecole exclusive.
“I think often we're so caught up in it, being on the timing of demand or popularity, or, like, striking while the iron is hot and the thing that I've learned is that everything is on God's time. That's it. Every time I thought I would have been ready, or, like, things were taking too long, I had to reship some things, personally, professionally, in my life. I also gave myself permission to make a living, not just make a living, but make a life for myself.”
Making a life for herself included getting married to Grammy-nominated songwriter Jared Cotter, starting a family, and embracing new landscapes, such as podcasting as a co-host of The Mama’s Den podcast. She also began doing more spiritual work and self-care practices like meditation, sound healing, Reiki, acupuncture, and boundary setting, which allowed her to get in touch with her inner voice.
“I wasn't putting out music, and I wasn't experiencing a number one record, but I was being a number one mom,” she says.
“I was experiencing things that were allowing me to heal and get in touch with myself so that I could make new music from a space of joy and freedom, and excitement again because I definitely feel like I did lose some excitement because of just politics and industry and what it can do to your mental health and even your physical health. So giving myself the space to really just say, ‘Hey, it's okay. Everything's right on time.’”
The joy and excitement are felt in one of two new singles, “I Choose You,” which is more of a lovers rock vibe, a tribute to Melanie’s Caribbean roots. While the Grammy award-winner is known for ballads like “It Kills Me” and “Fool For You,” she is becoming more intentional about the music she makes, calling it high-vibrational music. She says her music is a “reflection of my life,” as it captures every facet, from hanging out with friends to riding around in her car.
“Say Yes” has the classic R&B vibe Melanie is known for. However, both songs are inspired by her relationship. Melanie and Jared got married in December 2020, and the Toronto-bred artist dished on their relationship. Fun fact: he is featured in the “Say Yes” music video.
“When we first started dating, I had come into that relationship post a lot of self-work. I had gotten out of a long-term relationship, I had a year and a half to date and be by myself and do a lot of work on myself alone. And when we met, I remember feeling like this has to be my person because I feel it,” she says.
“And so when we went into that relationship, and we started dating, I was very clear. I was like, I know what I want. I'm very clear on what I need, and I'm not going to withhold my truth about myself in this process because of pride or fear of rejection. I know you love me, but I'm coming with my heart in my hand to let you know that if we're gonna get there, we have to put fear aside and say yes. So that was kind of like my open letter to him, which is why the video is us having a conversation.”
Melanie also shares that saying yes to her partner has empowered her in many ways, including motherhood and showing up for herself. Her new EP, also titled Say Yes, will be available at the top of 2025.
Check out the full interview below.
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There's something about snuggling up in your favorite blanket and watching a comfort show or movie on Netflix, and what better time to do just that than in December? As the weather outside gets cooler, staying in becomes more of the norm. Thus, Netflix and Chill is a go-to. Luckily, Netflix has released new Black films and series on their popular streaming platform.
From Tyler Perry's historical drama The Six Triple Eight, starring Kerry Washington, to the Will Packer-produced comedy starring Marsai Martin, Regina Hall, and Issa Rae, Little, this season is looking up.
See the full list below.
Little (12/1)
Regina Hall's character is a bossy tech mogul who has everyone scared of her, including her assistant, played by Issa Rae. However, when she transforms into her younger self (Marsai Martin), she learns how to be more kind to others.
Daddy Day Care (12/1)
Eddie Murphy stars in this film as a father who decides to open a daycare after losing his job.
30 For 30 Collection (12/2)
30 For 30 is an ESPN docu-series highlighting some of sports' legendary figures and moments. Some of the episodes include Winning Time: Reggie Miller Vs. The New York Knicks and Celtics/ Lakers: The Best of Enemies.
Jamie Foxx: What Had Happened Was (12/10)
In this special, the multi-talented Jamie Foxx returns to stand-up to give an unforgettable performance.
Blood, Sweat & Heels S2 (12/13)
The short-lived Bravo reality TV series documented the lives of a group of girlfriends making it in NYC. The show starred model-turned-podcaster Melyssa Ford, author Demetria Lucas, and the late TV host Daisy Lewellyn.
The Equalizer S1-3 (12/16)
The hit CBS show starring Queen Latifah is now available on Netflix. Watch the beloved actress kick ass and take names in this popular drama.
The Six Triple Eight (12/20)
The new Tyler Perry film starring Kerry Washington is a true story about the first and only Women’s Army Corps unit of color during World War II.
Christmas Game Day Ravens Vs. Texans (12/25)
While many will tune in to watch the Baltimore Ravens vs. Houston Texans game, others will tune in to watch Beyoncé perform during halftime.
Michelle Buteau: A Buteau-ful Mind At Radio City Music Hall (12/31)
Comedian Michelle Buteau's comedy special will focus on her life with twins, going viral, and much more.
Evil S3 (12/31)
While Evil was unfortunately canceled by CBS, viewers can rewatch the series on Netflix, with season three premiering December 31st.
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