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I had only been in this world for one year when Brandy dropped the album that stopped the world, but I felt it in my spirit. I, too, have loved somebody so much it made me cry––and that somebody is me.

While many of us are well aware that self-love is the best love, we also know that good d*ck and a few glasses of wine will have you out here forgetting who you are. Luckily, our good sis Brandy just slid through with a word that will help you survive your self-quarantined single season without lowering your standards.

In a recent interview on The Yes, Girl! Podcast,the singer revealed that upon the release of her latest album, B7, which she calls a love letter to her highest-self, she's decided to put her romantic life on the back burner and focus on falling in love with herself:

"I've learned boundaries for myself. I've learned how to take care of myself. I learned that self-love is really what I've been looking for all my life, and I've looked for it in the wrong places."

Despite fame and celebrity, megastars aren't immune to the self-love struggle and Brandy knows this firsthand. Last year, in a previous interview with ESSENCE, the singer shared that although she once held the title as one of the biggest R&B singers in the industry, she still battled with feelings of insecurity.

"I didn't love myself when I was in my so-called prime. I used to think my life was a gift and a curse. But then as the years went by and I went through more crazy things and really on a search for God, I finally found my way. But I didn't find my way until recently—at 39 and now 40."

According to Brandy, with an 18-year-old daughter and chaotic career, she's now at a place in her life where her DMs are closed and her heart is open to any and every opportunity that aligns with the highest version of herself:

"You can't love anybody unless you love yourself, I've really learned that the hard way. I have a love for myself now, to the point, I don't want to see nobody else right now. I'm not trying to go down that road. I don't want nobody having my phone number. I don't want to go out on a date. I'm really good. I'm really good."

Despite pressing pause on her dating life for now, Brandy says that she has faith that in the future, she'll manifest the perfect partner as long as she's walking in her purpose.

"My mom always says, 'God is going to bless you. Somebody going to pop up and you're going to be like.' I'm like, I'm open to what God has for me, my eyes are not open to anyone right now. I'm just staying focused on me and my daughter."

To read Brandy's full interview, click here!

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