6 Motivational Speeches On Leadership, Power, And Self-Confidence From Your Favorite It Girls
We can all make a bit more time for pouring into ourselves, and listening to a few inspiring words that breathe more life into our goals, dreams, and desires is important. While toxic positivity is definitely a thing (and some of us might be so frustrated that we're not really in the mood for preaching and teaching), we can't take for granted the impact of motivation.
Since it's Mental Health Awareness Month, let's get into a few good talks on leadership, power, and self-confidence from Black women who know more than a thing or two about resilience, self-love, and the importance of a good word:
1.Sheryl Lee Ralph, "A 3-Step Guide To Believing In Yourself"
If there's anybody who can boost your confidence on a low day, it's one of our favorite aunties and divas, actress Sheryl Lee Ralph. The Emmy-award-winning activist and OG Dreamgirl always holds space for standing tall, walking with pride, and knowing your worth. In the above speech, she tells her own story of wanting to quit acting after a very discouraging interaction with a Hollywood head, how she pressed forward anyway, and how you, too, can overcome.
2.Sarah Jakes Roberts, "Girl, Get Up"
We all know her father, mega-church pastor T.D. Jakes, but Sarah has made a name of her own, writing multiple best-selling books and co-leading ONE Los Angeles (along with her duties as a leader at The Potter's House Dallas.) Her story of single teen motherhood and overcoming shame and low self-esteem is relatable to many women around the world, and her relatability speaks to why she has more than two million followers on Instagram alone. In the above speech, she touches on themes of insecurity, overcoming doubt, and leaning heavily into believing in the so-called impossible.
3.Denise Francis, "The Power Of The Black Woman's Self-Love Journey"
In this video, Denise Francis, Founder and CEO of The Self Love Organization Inc., speaks on the link between self-love, your ability to thrive, and your purpose. She also talks about the concept of “self-therapy,” where you get to know your own emotions, sit with them, accept, and take empowered actions to heal. Her online platform, Self Love, Therapy and Wellness Club for Black Women, works to end the cycles of transgenerational trauma through community, advocacy, and self-development.
4.Issa Rae, "None Of My Favorite Hip-Hop Artists Are Humble"
Issa Rae has always been unapologetic about being the fullest version of herself, and in this speech, she's bringing that same message of confidence, throwing super-humility out the window and embracing the fullness of how you deserve all the hype and accolades. While comedic, the undertones are full of the perfect affirming self-talk we all need to be doing every day, whether in the mirror at home or when walking into any room.
5.Niecy Nash-Betts "Speak Truth To Power"
We've seen Niecy Nash play a range of iconic bold women leads, from Deputy Raineesha Williams on Reno 911 to money-laundering nail tech Desna Sims on Claws, to activist mother to one of the Central Park 5, Delores Wise, in When They See Us, to Glenda Cleveland, the notorious serial killer's neighbor, on Dahmer — Monster: The Jeffrey Dahmer Story. In her speech, accepting the Emmy for her role in the aforementioned Netflix series, she reminds us all to not only continue to acknowledge the voiceless among us but to speak up for the greatness that is within ourselves.
6.Tracee Ellis Ross, "Run Your Own Race"
Tracee Ellis Ross has always been in her own lane in comedy, acting, fashion, and now business, using "tough moments" to fuel her desire to embrace her unique quirks and take them straight to the bank. She's always redefined womanhood, aging, advancement, and legacy on her own terms, and continues to reinvent what success looks like with Pattern Beauty, a concept, she says in the above speech, that was rejected for a decade. One huge takeaway is that you should stand on business with your ideas and ideals, even if others think it's unpopular or unrealistic, especially when it comes to your ideas and ideas.
"From the very beginning, I set out to start a different kind of beauty company... A company that changes the way people of color are marketed to... Part of my larger mission as a business owner and CEO is to not only prove that Black-owned, Black-founded businesses are mainstream, have immense capital value, and are here to stay, but also to expand the expectations of how Black businesses are cared for and understood by the industry. .. We cannot let people tell us who we should be or what we have to offer."
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Reset Your Relationship: How To Start 2025 Strong With Your Partner
As the calendar turns and a new year unfolds, many of us are laser-focused on our career goals, fitness resolutions, and vision boards that outline the journey to our best selves. But amidst all the planning and self-improvement, have you made room for another important part of your life? Your relationship.
It's easy for couples to fall into a routine, going through the motions and letting their connection sit on autopilot. While comfort is natural in a long-term relationship, it’s important to remember: that what you don’t nurture, eventually fades. So, why not make 2025 the year you reset your relationship? Here’s how to start the year with a renewed bond, reigniting the spark that brought you together.
Step 1: Schedule Your Reset Meeting
The first step to hitting the reset button is a State of the Union meeting with your partner. This is your chance to take a pulse on the relationship, discuss what's working, and identify areas that need attention. It’s all about creating space to reflect, without distractions.
Grab a pen and paper (or open a shared note on your phone) and come prepared to share your top 2-3 desires for your relationship.
What do you both want to feel more of in 2025? Maybe it’s feeling more appreciated, or perhaps you want to reignite the passion you had when you first started dating. Whatever it is, get clear about it, and make sure both of you are on the same page.
This isn’t just about listing your own wants, it’s also about discussing ways to nurture each other’s needs. Relationship goals should be focused on fostering deeper intimacy, trust, and mutual respect. Use this time to check in, not only with each other but with your individual feelings and expectations. Set the foundation for a fulfilling year ahead.
Step 2: Set A Date (Or Multiple!)
Having the meeting is only the first step. Now, it’s time to take action. One of the simplest ways to breathe new life into a relationship is by reintroducing consistent, intentional time spent together. For many couples, life gets busy, and date nights fall by the wayside. But dating doesn’t stop when you say "I do"—in fact, it’s even more essential.
During your reset meeting, lock in a regular date night that works for both of your schedules. This could be a weekly dinner date or an every-other-week adventure—whatever keeps things fresh. The goal is consistency. It’s easy to push date nights aside when life gets hectic, but if you set a specific date each week or month, you’re making your relationship a priority.
If you’re unsure what to do for your date nights, don’t worry! The key is creating new experiences together. This is what sparks excitement and brings you closer as a couple. Whether it’s cooking a new recipe together, trying a dance class, or exploring a nearby town, it’s about creating shared memories that build your connection.
Step 3: Find an Accountability Partner
Just like you might have a personal trainer to help you crush your fitness goals, an accountability partner for your relationship can do wonders for keeping both of you on track. Consider hiring a marriage coach or therapist—someone who can meet you where you are and guide you in strengthening your relationship.
When selecting a professional, it’s important to choose someone who truly wants the best for your marriage and can provide actionable advice.
Don’t be afraid to set high standards for your relationship, and seek guidance on how to keep it thriving for the long haul. In your reset meeting, discuss your commitment to growth, and be honest about areas where you may need support.
Marriage isn’t a set-it-and-forget-it endeavor—it’s an ongoing process. Regular check-ins with a professional can help keep your relationship in tip-top shape and “divorce-proof” by addressing issues before they become insurmountable.
Step 4: Try Something New Together
Stale routines can easily make a relationship feel monotonous. Spice things up by trying something new! Couples that explore new activities and create new memories together have stronger, more fulfilling bonds.
My husband and I host one of the top luxury marriage retreats, A Weekend For Love, designed to help couples experience new things together. From couples' workshops to outdoor adventures, the retreat provides a platform to rediscover each other and reconnect on a deeper level.
The element of surprise can reignite your connection. It’s exciting, fresh, and shows your partner that you’re committed to growing together. This doesn’t have to be a huge commitment—it could be as simple as trying a new hobby or planning an impromptu weekend getaway.
Your Relationship Should Be A Priority
As you start the year with personal goals in mind, don’t forget the importance of nurturing your relationship. It’s easy to get caught up in work, fitness, and family obligations, but your bond with your partner deserves to be at the top of your list. Resetting your relationship offers an opportunity to reignite that spark and remind each other why you fell in love in the first place.
In 2025, make a commitment to prioritize your partnership, to nurture it daily, and to invest in its growth. Take time to celebrate each other’s victories, support one another’s dreams, and build a foundation of love and respect. When you start the year with a clear focus on your relationship, you’re setting it up for success.
So, before you start mapping out your new workout plan or work goals, do yourself a favor: put your relationship at the top of that list. Your love story deserves a fresh start, too.
Happy New Year, and here’s to a love-filled 2025!
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WNBA star Angel Reese stuns on and off the court, and now she’s spilling her beauty and skincare secrets with us. The 22-year-old gave some insight into her beauty and skincare routine while speaking to Vogue, including her game day routine.
“My grandma used to always put mascara on my eyes when I was younger, and I used to go on the basketball court; that’s how I got the name 'Bayou Barbie' ‘cause I always had my nails, lashes, hair done,” she explained.
Below, Angel shares the skincare products that make her skin glow and her go-to makeup looks.
Check out her routines below.
Skincare
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Angel starts with La Roche-Posay Hydrating Gentle Cleanser. “I love skincare. Makes me feel good, makes me feel cleanse, especially after a long day because I’m always on the go,” she said. “I play sports, so my face is always drenched with sweat, and I always gotta keep it clean.”
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Angel uses two moisturizers. She uses Fenty Skin Hydra Vizor Invisible Moisturizer SPF 30 first and follows it up with Cetaphil Soothing Gel Cream with Aloe.
"You have to use the thinnest layer and then the thickest layer," she said. "I learned these tips because one time I posted a skincare routine and they were like, you need to run that back. And they taught me you need to do thin then thick and then I could see the complete difference with my skin."
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She keeps Laniege Lip Balm with her at all times, including during games.
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One-Size Setting Spray is her go-to for keeping her makeup fresh on the court. “I usually spray my beauty blender with my setting spray,” she said. “People usually wet the beauty blender under the water, but why not set it with this.”
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She rounds out her beauty routine with mascara, brows, and her lip combo using Rare Beauty Kind Words Lip Liner and Covergirl Clean Fresh Yummy Gloss. But before closing, she made sure to give flowers to the WNBA stars before her who were also known for getting glammed on and off the court.
“I gotta give kudos to the girls who were wearing makeup before. Lisa Leslie, Skylar Diggins, Candace Parker. Everybody already had their edges and their lashes, lipstick on," she said. "Tina Thompson; she used to wear a full red lip on her lips during the game, but that’s something I could probably never do.”
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