
6 Motivational Speeches On Leadership, Power, And Self-Confidence From Your Favorite It Girls

We can all make a bit more time for pouring into ourselves, and listening to a few inspiring words that breathe more life into our goals, dreams, and desires is important. While toxic positivity is definitely a thing (and some of us might be so frustrated that we're not really in the mood for preaching and teaching), we can't take for granted the impact of motivation.
Since it's Mental Health Awareness Month, let's get into a few good talks on leadership, power, and self-confidence from Black women who know more than a thing or two about resilience, self-love, and the importance of a good word:
1.Sheryl Lee Ralph, "A 3-Step Guide To Believing In Yourself"
If there's anybody who can boost your confidence on a low day, it's one of our favorite aunties and divas, actress Sheryl Lee Ralph. The Emmy-award-winning activist and OG Dreamgirl always holds space for standing tall, walking with pride, and knowing your worth. In the above speech, she tells her own story of wanting to quit acting after a very discouraging interaction with a Hollywood head, how she pressed forward anyway, and how you, too, can overcome.
2.Sarah Jakes Roberts, "Girl, Get Up"
We all know her father, mega-church pastor T.D. Jakes, but Sarah has made a name of her own, writing multiple best-selling books and co-leading ONE Los Angeles (along with her duties as a leader at The Potter's House Dallas.) Her story of single teen motherhood and overcoming shame and low self-esteem is relatable to many women around the world, and her relatability speaks to why she has more than two million followers on Instagram alone. In the above speech, she touches on themes of insecurity, overcoming doubt, and leaning heavily into believing in the so-called impossible.
3.Denise Francis, "The Power Of The Black Woman's Self-Love Journey"
In this video, Denise Francis, Founder and CEO of The Self Love Organization Inc., speaks on the link between self-love, your ability to thrive, and your purpose. She also talks about the concept of “self-therapy,” where you get to know your own emotions, sit with them, accept, and take empowered actions to heal. Her online platform, Self Love, Therapy and Wellness Club for Black Women, works to end the cycles of transgenerational trauma through community, advocacy, and self-development.
4.Issa Rae, "None Of My Favorite Hip-Hop Artists Are Humble"
Issa Rae has always been unapologetic about being the fullest version of herself, and in this speech, she's bringing that same message of confidence, throwing super-humility out the window and embracing the fullness of how you deserve all the hype and accolades. While comedic, the undertones are full of the perfect affirming self-talk we all need to be doing every day, whether in the mirror at home or when walking into any room.
5.Niecy Nash-Betts "Speak Truth To Power"
We've seen Niecy Nash play a range of iconic bold women leads, from Deputy Raineesha Williams on Reno 911 to money-laundering nail tech Desna Sims on Claws, to activist mother to one of the Central Park 5, Delores Wise, in When They See Us, to Glenda Cleveland, the notorious serial killer's neighbor, on Dahmer — Monster: The Jeffrey Dahmer Story. In her speech, accepting the Emmy for her role in the aforementioned Netflix series, she reminds us all to not only continue to acknowledge the voiceless among us but to speak up for the greatness that is within ourselves.
6.Tracee Ellis Ross, "Run Your Own Race"
Tracee Ellis Ross has always been in her own lane in comedy, acting, fashion, and now business, using "tough moments" to fuel her desire to embrace her unique quirks and take them straight to the bank. She's always redefined womanhood, aging, advancement, and legacy on her own terms, and continues to reinvent what success looks like with Pattern Beauty, a concept, she says in the above speech, that was rejected for a decade. One huge takeaway is that you should stand on business with your ideas and ideals, even if others think it's unpopular or unrealistic, especially when it comes to your ideas and ideas.
"From the very beginning, I set out to start a different kind of beauty company... A company that changes the way people of color are marketed to... Part of my larger mission as a business owner and CEO is to not only prove that Black-owned, Black-founded businesses are mainstream, have immense capital value, and are here to stay, but also to expand the expectations of how Black businesses are cared for and understood by the industry. .. We cannot let people tell us who we should be or what we have to offer."
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'He Said, She Said': Love Stories Put To The Test At A Weekend For Love
At the A Weekend For Love retreat, we sat down with four couples to explore their love stories in a playful but revealing way with #HeSaidSheSaid. From first encounters to life-changing moments, we tested their memories to see if their versions of events aligned—because, as they say, every story has three sides: his, hers, and the truth.
Do these couples remember their love stories the same way? Press play to find out.
Episode 1: Indira & Desmond – Love Across the Miles
They say distance makes the heart grow fonder, but for Indira & Desmond, love made it stronger. Every mile apart deepened their bond, reinforcing the unshakable foundation of their relationship. From their first "I love you" to the moment they knew they had found home in each other, their journey is a beautiful testament to the endurance of true love.
Episode 2: Jay & Tia – A Love Story Straight Out of a Rom-Com
If Hollywood is looking for its next Black love story, they need to take notes from Jay & Tia. Their journey—from an awkward first date to navigating careers, parenthood, and personal growth—proves that love is not just about romance but also resilience. Their story is full of laughter, challenges, and, most importantly, a love that stands the test of time.
Episode 3: Larencia & Mykel – Through the Highs and Lows
A date night with police helicopters overhead? Now that’s a story! Larencia & Mykel have faced unexpected surprises, major life changes, and 14 years of choosing each other every single day. But after all this time, do they actually remember things the same way? Their episode is sure to bring some eye-opening revelations and a lot of laughs.
Episode 4: Soy & Osei – A Love Aligned in Purpose
From a chance meeting at the front door to 15 years of unwavering love, faith, and growth, Soy & Osei prove that when two souls are aligned in love and purpose, nothing can shake their foundation. Their journey is a powerful reminder that true love is built on mutual support, shared values, and a deep connection that only strengthens with time.
Each of these couples has a unique and inspiring story to tell, but do their memories match up? Watch #HeSaidSheSaid to find out!
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Yes, Spring Fever Is A Very Real Thing. I've Got Some Tips For How To Manage It Well, Tho.
Now that the spring season is officially here (can you believe it?!), let’s talk about something that tends to come up quite a bit yet you may have wondered if it’s just a saying or popular myth: spring fever.
I don’t know about you but when I heard it while growing up, it was always in the context of a relationship — you know, “Shellie, you’re just thinking about that boy because you’ve got ‘spring fever.'” However, because I enjoy knowing the origin story of hell, just about everything, I’ve discovered over time that not only is spring fever an actual phenomenon, although it can affect your romantic life (as well as your libido), it has the ability to impact you in a few other ways too.
So, before we look up and — boom — we’re just a few weeks away from summer (because that really is how this year is going, y’all), take a moment to learn more about spring fever and how you can actually make it work for you in ways that you may not have ever even considered before.
Spring Fever. What Is It All About?
A fun fact about me is I was born in Lincoln, Nebraska. If you add to that the fact that my mother is a New Yorker, perhaps that is why my favorite times of the year are fall and winter (check out “There Are Actually Scientific Reasons Why So Many Of Us Adore The Fall Season”) — including the fact that, yes, I like it cold and dark. Oh, I so enjoy cuddling up in cable-knit blankets in a room that is filled with candles. It is absolutely my thing.
In fact, I hate that I didn’t plan better this year, so that I could take a vacation to Colorado during this month since, reportedly, March is when a lot of the state tends to have the most snow. And if you add to that the fact that I am a bona fide ambivert — listen, if anyone is perfectly content with spending most of my time indoors (my house, specifically) with a cup of hot chocolate and a book or a good movie…she is I and I am her.
Still, that doesn’t mean that, over the past week or so, I haven’t felt the urge to get out more than I typically do. And from what I’ve read, that is probably due to, yep, spring fever — a time when many people feel more restless and/or like they have more energy than usual. And although it’s not technically a medical condition, many experts on the topic say that spring fever should be taken quite seriously.
The main reason is because when daylight savings time “springs forward,” it gives us extra daylight. When that happens, it actually has an impact on your circadian rhythm (the pattern that your body experiences every 24-hour cycle). There are actually pros and cons to this because while, on one hand, “losing an hour of sleep” can up your stress levels (including when it comes to your heart) which is a con, more sunlight also has a way of increasing your serotonin levels which is a pro. You see, serotonin is one of the “feel-good hormones” in your body that causes you to feel happier; it also makes you want to stay awake for longer periods of time.
Something else about spring fever that has some science to back it: You do tend to take a bigger interest in dating and sex (even though fall is reportedly the best time of year for copulation — check out “Did You Know Fall & Winter Are The Best Times To Have Sex?”). There is actually a pretty scientific basis for why this is the case (that you can read here). For now, I guess the best way to explain it would be that sunlight hits your optic nerve which influences the part of your brain known as your pineal gland. When that happens, less melatonin is produced and, since melatonin can actually lower your libido — there you have it: suppressed melatonin can increase your interest in flirting, dating, and intimacy, and being out in the sun more helps to make all of this happen.
Not to mention the fact thatother reports have stated that spring is a time of the year when people tend to be more body image conscious too. Since layering season is gone and yet it’s not quite time to pull out a bathing suit (check out “These 12 Tips Will Make You Feel More Confident In Your Swimsuit”), springtime is a time of preparation. And since you’ve got all of that extra energy — and potential dating interest — spring fever can help to make you more focused on getting your body in the shape that you want it to be in over the course of the next few months.
A final thing about spring fever — it may causeyour moods to be a bit…erratic. That makes sense when you really stop to think about it because spring weather tends to be the same way with all of its roller-coaster ride temperatures, “April showers” and whatnot. So, more than usual, you may feel like you want to hang out for hours with friends one day and then not even want to answer your phone another — which is pretty much a reminder that spring is a season when you should really listen to your mind, body, and spirit to see what it needs.
5 Ways to Handle Spring Fever (So That It Doesn’t Control You)
Okay, so now that you know that spring fever isn’t just a saying, that it actually has some solid truth to it, here are a few tips that can help to keep it from throwing you off course:
1. Be intentional about stabilizing your moods. It’s not good enough to know that certain things will impact your moods in a random way and then do nothing about it. And since spring fever may have you a bit all over the place, eat foods that will help to make you feel better (check out “In A Bad Mood? These Foods Will Lift Your Spirits!”), look into supplements that will boost your moods (like probiotics, magnesium, and vitamin D), and do some meditating outdoors. The combination of sunlight and deep breathing can do wonders.
2. Get on a sleep schedule. More sun really can throw your sleep patterns off, so you might want to consider putting your body on a sleep schedule. Y’all, I actually read that spring is the season when heart attacks and strokes increase, in part, due to sleep deprivation — so please don’t be out here thinking that just because you may not feel like sleeping that you don’t actually need to. YOU. DO. (Check out “12 Monthly Sleep Habits To Transform Your Rest In 2025”).
3. Exercise…even if it’s in baby steps. There are a billion reasons why we all need to exercise, no matter what time of year it is; however, if the body image thing is really on your mind, there are so many ways to get your body toned up. Jumping jacks, lunges, squats, mountain climbers, bicycle crunches — these are all things that you can do from the comfort and convenience of your house. And walking around your neighborhood either before work or after dinner (or both), especially now that it’s warmer — that is a cool way to get some cardio in. Anyway, Healthline has a helpful article on this topic. Check out “30 Moves to Make the Most of Your At-Home Workout” when you get a chance.
4. Date with a “sober” mind. A wise person once said, “Feelings don’t have intellect.” Yeah, don’t get me to preachin’ up in here (again) about just how much I hate the saying “Follow your heart” when the Good Book clearly says that the heart is deceitful (Jeremiah 17:9-10). For now, let’s just leave it at this: You get that science says that your urge to, umm, entertain more, may increase right now. Just make sure that you don’t just “go with the flow of your feelings”. Bring some common sense, street smarts, and even patience to the table. Springtime is just one season. Make choices that will make the rest of the year awesome as well.
5. Put all of that extra energy to wise use. You already read that feeling restless is pretty normal these days; that doesn’t mean that you’ve gotta do reckless things, though. The way that I see it, extra energy can help you to make some plans, reach a goal (whether it’s long-term or short-term), or try something new that you’ve always wanted to do. Bottom line: just because spring fever may have you feeling like you’re all over the place, that doesn’t mean that you can’t cultivate some real direction. Use this time to make you end this year in a way that makes you smile. All because you used spring fever…instead of allowing it to use you!
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