
6 Motivational Speeches On Leadership, Power, And Self-Confidence From Your Favorite It Girls

We can all make a bit more time for pouring into ourselves, and listening to a few inspiring words that breathe more life into our goals, dreams, and desires is important. While toxic positivity is definitely a thing (and some of us might be so frustrated that we're not really in the mood for preaching and teaching), we can't take for granted the impact of motivation.
Since it's Mental Health Awareness Month, let's get into a few good talks on leadership, power, and self-confidence from Black women who know more than a thing or two about resilience, self-love, and the importance of a good word:
1.Sheryl Lee Ralph, "A 3-Step Guide To Believing In Yourself"
If there's anybody who can boost your confidence on a low day, it's one of our favorite aunties and divas, actress Sheryl Lee Ralph. The Emmy-award-winning activist and OG Dreamgirl always holds space for standing tall, walking with pride, and knowing your worth. In the above speech, she tells her own story of wanting to quit acting after a very discouraging interaction with a Hollywood head, how she pressed forward anyway, and how you, too, can overcome.
2.Sarah Jakes Roberts, "Girl, Get Up"
We all know her father, mega-church pastor T.D. Jakes, but Sarah has made a name of her own, writing multiple best-selling books and co-leading ONE Los Angeles (along with her duties as a leader at The Potter's House Dallas.) Her story of single teen motherhood and overcoming shame and low self-esteem is relatable to many women around the world, and her relatability speaks to why she has more than two million followers on Instagram alone. In the above speech, she touches on themes of insecurity, overcoming doubt, and leaning heavily into believing in the so-called impossible.
3.Denise Francis, "The Power Of The Black Woman's Self-Love Journey"
In this video, Denise Francis, Founder and CEO of The Self Love Organization Inc., speaks on the link between self-love, your ability to thrive, and your purpose. She also talks about the concept of “self-therapy,” where you get to know your own emotions, sit with them, accept, and take empowered actions to heal. Her online platform, Self Love, Therapy and Wellness Club for Black Women, works to end the cycles of transgenerational trauma through community, advocacy, and self-development.
4.Issa Rae, "None Of My Favorite Hip-Hop Artists Are Humble"
Issa Rae has always been unapologetic about being the fullest version of herself, and in this speech, she's bringing that same message of confidence, throwing super-humility out the window and embracing the fullness of how you deserve all the hype and accolades. While comedic, the undertones are full of the perfect affirming self-talk we all need to be doing every day, whether in the mirror at home or when walking into any room.
5.Niecy Nash-Betts "Speak Truth To Power"
We've seen Niecy Nash play a range of iconic bold women leads, from Deputy Raineesha Williams on Reno 911 to money-laundering nail tech Desna Sims on Claws, to activist mother to one of the Central Park 5, Delores Wise, in When They See Us, to Glenda Cleveland, the notorious serial killer's neighbor, on Dahmer — Monster: The Jeffrey Dahmer Story. In her speech, accepting the Emmy for her role in the aforementioned Netflix series, she reminds us all to not only continue to acknowledge the voiceless among us but to speak up for the greatness that is within ourselves.
6.Tracee Ellis Ross, "Run Your Own Race"
Tracee Ellis Ross has always been in her own lane in comedy, acting, fashion, and now business, using "tough moments" to fuel her desire to embrace her unique quirks and take them straight to the bank. She's always redefined womanhood, aging, advancement, and legacy on her own terms, and continues to reinvent what success looks like with Pattern Beauty, a concept, she says in the above speech, that was rejected for a decade. One huge takeaway is that you should stand on business with your ideas and ideals, even if others think it's unpopular or unrealistic, especially when it comes to your ideas and ideas.
"From the very beginning, I set out to start a different kind of beauty company... A company that changes the way people of color are marketed to... Part of my larger mission as a business owner and CEO is to not only prove that Black-owned, Black-founded businesses are mainstream, have immense capital value, and are here to stay, but also to expand the expectations of how Black businesses are cared for and understood by the industry. .. We cannot let people tell us who we should be or what we have to offer."
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Eva Marcille On Starring In 'Jason’s Lyric Live' & Being An Audacious Black Woman
Eva Marcille has taken her talents to the stage. The model-turned-actress is starring in her first play, Jason’s Lyric Live alongside Allen Payne, K. Michelle, Treach, and others.
The play, produced by Je’Caryous Johnson, is an adaptation of the film, which starred Allen Payne as Jason and Jada Pinkett Smith as Lyric. Allen reprised his role as Jason for the play and Eva plays Lyric.
While speaking to xoNecole, Eva shares that she’s a lot like the beloved 1994 character in many ways. “Lyric is so me. She's the odd flower. A flower nonetheless, but definitely not a peony,” she tells us.
“She's not the average flower you see presented, and so she reminds me of myself. I'm a sunflower, beautiful, but different. And what I loved about her character then, and even more so now, is that she was very sure of herself.
"Sure of what she wanted in life and okay to sacrifice her moments right now, to get what she knew she deserved later. And that is me. I'm not an instant gratification kind of a person. I am a long game. I'm not a sprinter, I'm a marathon.
America first fell in love with Eva when she graced our screens on cycle 3 of America’s Next Top Model in 2004, which she emerged as the winner. Since then, she's ventured into different avenues, from acting on various TV series like House of Payne to starring on Real Housewives of Atlanta.
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Eva praises her castmates and the play’s producer, Je’Caryous for her positive experience. “You know what? Je’Caryous fuels my audacity car daily, ‘cause I consider myself an extremely audacious woman, and I believe in what I know, even if no one else knows it, because God gave it to me. So I know what I know. That is who Je’Caryous is.”
But the mom of three isn’t the only one in the family who enjoys acting. Eva reveals her daughter Marley has also caught the acting bug.
“It is the most adorable thing you can ever see. She’s got a part in her school play. She's in her chorus, and she loves it,” she says. “I don't know if she loves it, because it's like, mommy does it, so maybe I should do it, but there is something about her.”
Overall, Eva hopes that her contribution to the role and the play as a whole serves as motivation for others to reach for the stars.
“I want them to walk out with hope. I want them to re-vision their dreams. Whatever they were. Whatever they are. To re-see them and then have that thing inside of them say, ‘You know what? I'm going to do that. Whatever dream you put on the back burner, go pick it up.
"Whatever dream you've accomplished, make a new dream, but continue to reach for the stars. Continue to reach for what is beyond what people say we can do, especially as [a] Black collective but especially as Black women. When it comes to us and who we are and what we accept and what we're worth, it's not about having seen it before. It's about knowing that I deserve it.”
This interview has been edited for length and clarity.
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Tracee Ellis Ross Is Still Living A 'Robust' Life Despite Sometimes Grieving Not Being Partnered
Tracee Ellis Ross sat down with former first lady Michelle Obama and her brother Craig Robinson for their IMO podcast to have a candid discussion about dating, marriage, and family. At 52, the beloved actress is single, but is still open to finding her person. However, she realizes that she has to navigate dating differently, describing herself as a "unicorn."
“I’m a very unique sort of unicorn of a woman, so it's gonna take a unique person,” she explained. "And in the meantime, I've really learned how to live my life and enjoy it and not sit around waiting."
Calling herself a "choiceful woman," she has had to push against culture norms and found that many of her experiences with men around her age were challenging due to the toxic masculinity they had been raised in. Many of their views about relationships conflicts with how she lives her life, so she tends to date younger.
“It's not just that I'm older. I’m also very embodied. I am a full, very whole person who knows myself, who is in charge of my life and who lives a very full, just robust life," she said.
Regardless if they're younger or older, Tracee has made it clear that she isn't settling and won't be in a relationship for the sake of having a partner. Even when loneliness creeps.
“As much as grief does surface for me around not having children and not having a partner, I still wouldn’t want the wrong partner. At all, I’m not interested in that. You have to make my life better, it can’t just be ‘I’m in a relationship just to be in a relationship,” she said.
Fans have watched pieces of Tracee's life played out on social media and TV. Just one look at her Instagram, you see that the black-ish star lives her life to fullest and it's filled with fashion, family, and all-round fabulousness.
"Even though the grief does emerge, and that comes, and I hold that, I think of what I’ve done. I think I woke up every morning trying to do my best. I didn’t wake up one morning and be like I’m gonna mess this day up. So I must be where I’m supposed to be.”
She added, “And sometimes I think of all of the things I’ve done—the courage that I’ve had to have, what I had to learn to how to navigate as a single person with no one to hide behind. It's built a really beautiful experience around me and I have incredible friends."
The Black Mirror actress has spoken about dating before and has always stated that she doesn't allow singleness stop her from living her best life.
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