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Her captivating command of the pole left many of us intrigued, perhaps even tempted, to explore pole dancing ourselves after witnessing the mesmerizing performances at Mercedes Sunday. But it wasn’t just her physical prowess that kept us hooked. Mercedes is a character of depth—empowering, complex, relatable, and deeply human.
These are qualities that Brandee embodies both on and off the screen.
(L-R) Marque Richardson and Brandee Evans on 'UnPrisoned' Season 2
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A Memphis native, Brandee is no stranger to dance. She boasts an impressive career as a choreographer, having worked with renowned artists like Katy Perry, Monica, Ke$ha, and Ledisi. But while it has been a significant part of her journey, Brandee has her sights set on more—expanding her acting career beyond dance-inclusive roles. This ambition nearly led her to pass on the opportunity to appear alongside Kerry Washington in Hulu’s UnPrisoned, where she plays Ava, Mal's (Marque Richardson) new girlfriend.
“When Kerry Washington slid into my DMs, I nearly said no,” Brandee revealed with a laugh. “She mentioned pole dancing, and I told myself and my team that once I was done with Mercedes, I wasn’t going to do that again.” Fortunately, Washington assured her that the role would be vastly different, leading to what Brandee described as an invaluable masterclass in comedy under the guidance of Washington herself.
“Kerry is a force of nature,” Brandee reflected. “She’s everything you’d hope she’d be—strong, compassionate, and incredibly talented. Working with her was like a masterclass in acting.” This opportunity was no mere stroke of luck; it was something Brandee had manifested years earlier. But make no mistake–she credits her faith and praying hands for her success. “I’m praying, you know what I mean? I’m asking God for what I want and working for it too,” she said.
"When Kerry Washington slid into my DMs, I nearly said no."
(L-R) Brandee Evans, Kerry Washington, and Marque Richardson on 'UnPrisoned' Season 2
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This role marked Brandee’s first foray into comedy, and while she was eager to embrace the challenge, she found herself in the hands of an incredible mentor. “Kerry was always so kind in her critiques,” Brandee noted. “She’s not a diva by any means. She knows exactly what she wants, but she’s gentle and encouraging in bringing it out of you. That’s something I’ve taken with me to other sets—I want to lead with the same kindness and openness that Kerry showed me. It’s a lesson I’ll carry for the rest of my life.”
Brandee speaks with profound respect and gratitude for her peers and fellow actresses as many have shown her genuine sisterhood and support in an industry often notorious for its competitiveness. “Danielle Brooks sent me a prayer the other day, and I was just so touched. Those are the moments that people don’t see,” she shared. “I call Sheryll Lee Ralph my fairy godmother, and Loretta Devine is like my auntie. Being able to pick up the phone and seek advice from these incredible women is a true blessing.”
And she pays it forward.
Brandee Evans
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But her commitment to supporting others extends far beyond her career. As an advocate for health and wellness, she empowers women to prioritize their well-being. “Azaria [Carter], who plays my daughter on P-Valley, mentioned wanting to start a weight loss journey and get more fit. I told her, ‘Well, let’s work out together,’” Brandee recounted. But her dedication to healthy living goes beyond physical fitness, encompassing a holistic approach to wellness. “When she came to my house and tried to microwave something in plastic, I said, ‘Let’s use glass instead. At 20, I wasn’t thinking about that, but let me share some tips now so you’re not battling fibroids in your 30s.’”
Because she was.
While filming the first season of P-Valley, Brandee faced enormous stress—not only as a caregiver for her mother, who was diagnosed with multiple sclerosis, but also due to the physical demands of the role. Yet the impact on her body was far greater than she expected. “I was literally on my cycle every day while playing a stripper, which is far from ideal,” Brandee revealed. It was Harriet D. Foy, who plays her mother, who urged her to get checked for fibroids.
"I was literally on my cycle every day while playing a stripper, which is far from ideal."
Brandee Evans graces the 2024 ESSENCE Black Women In Hollywood Awards Ceremony.
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The statistics are staggering—80% of Black women develop abnormal uterine growths by age 50, making them more likely to suffer from fibroids than any other racial group. But like many, Brandee was initially unaware of these growths and their debilitating effects, and the prospect of surgery was daunting. “I was scheduled to have a myomectomy on my birthday, but I thought about what it would mean for my career. How am I going to climb the pole? The healing process is similar to a C-section.” Determined to avoid surgery, she committed to healing herself naturally.
After a deep dive, she sought treatment at The Herb Shop of Vinings in Atlanta, which ultimately led to a remarkable recovery. “This man saves lives. His name is Jeff, and I call him my doctor.” Brandee shared. “I started detoxing my body with herbs and following his program. During my follow-up with the gynecologist, they said, ‘We don’t know what you’re doing, but your fibroids are shrinking.’”
Emerging on the other side of this journey not only fibroid-free but with a regulated cycle and a renewed outlook on life, Brandee is now focused on sharing her story and advocating for women’s health. “I know y’all want to hear about P-Valley, but I want to talk about regulating your period,” she said with a laugh.
Of course, she didn’t leave fans hanging when it came to what to expect in the upcoming season. “It is worth the wait. The world is about to go crazy. Oh, the world is about to lose it,” Brandee teased. “Y’all might be mad at us right now, but baby, it’s going to be worth it.”
All episodes of Season 2 of UnPrisoned are now streaming on Hulu.
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Now, for the life of me, I don’t understand why anyone would want to marry someone who doesn’t consider their partner to be the best at these types of things; especially since you are vowing before God and loved ones that you are going to keep them around for the rest of your life. C’mon now.
Yet even beyond who you choose to be your spouse, you really should be uber-selective about your friendships, across the board. Know what else? You should be big on taking inventory of your friendships too. Why? Well, think about some of the purposes of this practice within a company. Knowing what you have at say, a retail store, helps you to know what you have to offer, it makes the company run more efficiently and it helps you to provide better service overall.
At the end of the day, friendships aren’t much different. Taking inventory by asking — rather than assuming — your friends certain questions (oh, I’d say once or twice a year), helps you to get a good idea of where they stand (with you), what they need (or expect) and how you both can work together to make your friendship stronger.
As far as what kind of questions to ask, a few years back, I penned, “10 Questions To Ask Your Close Friends Before The New Year Begins” for the site. It can at least inspire you to come up with some inquiries of your own. Today, though, I want to share with you a question that I’ve asked most of my friends over the past several weeks. To tell you the truth, I’m not exactly sure what inspired me to do it.
What I will say is that, with some insights intact, I’m hella glad that I did.
The One Question You Should Ask Your Friends…Soon.
GiphyPersonally, I think it’s very easy to become lazy in a friendship; especially if you consider it to be a good one. Kind of again like a marriage, once you and your friend “get into a groove,” you can find yourself making a lot of assumptions, potentially taking one another for granted, and not really “digging deep” to see if the relationship is truly fulfilling — or if it’s just…well…familiar. And honestly, I think that’s why some friendships end up drifting apart.
It’s not because of some ridiculousness or even a serious issue or underlying problem. What ended up happening is someone stopped being proactive with the other and so…there was a shift…sometimes to the point of shifting away from each other.
Charge it to the journalist and life coach in me yet I think that one way to keep all of this from happening is to ask your friends some questions. What I have learned is doing this can cause you both to pause and really think about the friendship and the role that it currently plays in your lives.
One question, in particular, that can offer up a real ah-ha moment for you if you’re willing to ask it and you’re open to discussing their answer, is this one:
“What is one thing that I bring to your life?”
As someone who has performed this lil’ social experiment, in my opinion, it’s beneficial on a few different levels:
First, more times than not, you’d be amazed by how quickly your friends will be able to provide you with an answer — and you might be surprised by what that answer is. And whatever “it” may be, it can help you to understand certain things about your personality, your communication skills, and how you relationally prioritize things.
Two, it can help your friend to understand what they need you (most) for or why they keep you around beyond surface things like you both have a lot of fun together or you’ve known each other for a certain amount of time.
Three, it can shed light on if you provide for yourself what you offer to others…because some of us have a tendency to be better friends to the folks around us than we even are to ourselves (AMEN?! — check out “Self BFF: 7 Signs You're Your Own Best Friend”).
Four, if your friend then asks the same question, you both can discuss the good things about what you each offer and what also can be (potentially) challenging about it.
And finally, five, if multiple people say the same thing — ask yourself what that says about you and your character overall.
For me, I heard two specific things a lot: clarity and loyalty.
And while, initially, those are things to be very proud of, I also chuckled as a few of my folks and I “unpacked” those words a bit. On the clarity tip, sometimes I have a habit of “counseling my friends” (even when they don’t want it) because yes, clarity is what I’m seeking — even when clarity is not what they need from me all of the time. In other words, sometimes folks just want to talk without you working with them to find a solution (at least initially).
And loyalty? Oh, it’s the running joke within my circle that I am a straight-up chihuahua for my friends. Don’t mess with them, period. Yet sometimes, the challenge with that quality is you have a shorter line of mercy and grace for the people in their lives than they do. A self-aware friend knows that you’ve got to make sure that you support others without trying to damn near force them to act like you would…or even prioritize traits like loyalty on the level that you do (because they might not).
So yeah, as I was listening to my friends and also doing some self-reflecting and journaling, knowing that I provide clarity and loyalty to most and above other things (make sure to hold each other to one word or thing only; it will help you to stay focused), I saw that yep, if someone were to put that on my epitaph, I wouldn’t be mad at all — I’m always gonna seek answers and even my last name means “loyal protector”…it all tracks.
At the same time, it’s not good enough to just be those two things. When you love someone, you want to give them the best of you — and so, it’s now time to provide clarity and loyalty on a higher level…so that I can become an even better friend.
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So, when you get a sec, text the question over to some of your friends. See what answers you get. Then ask them why they said what they did. Again, if you’re open (and they are willing to ask the question too), it can help you to see how others see you. It can also help you to be better at what you offer them…after taking (relational) inventory — which ultimately benefits you both.
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