Bey is back with her highly anticipated seventh studio album, Renaissance. The 16-track record is her first solo album in six years since Lemonade. And like with everything she does, she's raised the bar.
The album is a sonic masterpiece as Bey delivers her style and interpretation of the house music she was exposed to growing up. Beyoncé credits that exposure to her Uncle Johnny, who died of complications from AIDS, and she dedicates Renaissance to him in the album's liner notes.
"He was my godmother and the first person to expose me to a lot of the music and culture that serve as inspiration for this album," she writes. Uncle Johnny was a pivotal figure in Beyoncé's life and career, designing costumes for Destiny's Child with her mother Tina before high-end labels would dress "four Black, curvy, country girls." As a Black queer southerner living with HIV, Beyoncé’s decision to dedicate Renaissance to Uncle Johnny and to center Black LGBTQIA voices and Ballroom history and culture in the music is one of unconditional love and hope. Music journalist Gerrick Kennedy agrees.
"She's talked about her uncle over the years, but to really celebrate that [with Renaissance] ... If we hadn't had this moment [with COVID lockdown] where we have been sitting and reflecting, I don't know if we would've gotten a project like this,” Kennedy tells xoNecole. “It also feels like [Beyoncé] allowed herself to grieve this family member, but also this part of her and her mother's life and how she was raised and the [queer] scenes that she was privy to as a kid [in the South] before we all really knew her," says Kennedy.
Fans got a taste of her intentions to honor the Black queer community with this album on June 21, when she dropped the lead single from Renaissance, “Break My Soul.” The lead single features samples of Robin S.'s 1990 hit "Show Me Love" and the Queen of Bounce, Big Freedia's 2014 song "Explode."
"For [Beyoncé] to extend her hand to her queer fans, hold us up the way that she did and create a universe for us [with this album]. There's something really magical about it," Kennedy says.
“Cozy,” the second song on the album, serves as a proudly queer-centric affirmation of being comfortable with who you are and features trans icons Honey Dijon and Ts Madison. In verse two, Beyoncé sings about colors that describe Daniel Quasar's 2018 Progress Pride flag design that brings marginalized LGBTQIA+ people of color, trans people, and those living with HIV/AIDS to the forefront. And in the post-chorus and bridge, there's a sample of Ts Madison's video "B**tch, I'm BLACK."
"There are no words to describe my feelings,” Ts Madison tells xoNecole about the opportunity to feature on “Cozy.” “Beyonce is a global phenomenon. For her to add my voice and statement piece on this project means a great deal to not only the Black community, but also the trans and queer community," she says.
My favorite track, "Church Girl," reminds me of Sunday sermons ending at 3 p.m., followed by a community fish fry and great music as the Louisiana heat beams down on my skin. Besides its reminder of my southern roots, "Church Girl" serves as a form of catharsis to let go of your burdens, whether at the altar or on the dance floor.
That form of release is the common theme throughout the album, emphasizing the importance of agency, self-love, and freedom to express yourself.
Renaissance also features contributions from The-Dream, Tems, NO I.D., NOVA WAV, Raphael Saadiq, and Mike Dean, to name a few. Songwriter Diane Warren might have tried to come for Beyoncé crediting 24 writers on one track of Renaissance, but it’s Beyoncé's communal approach to her craft that makes Renaissance flow so beautifully; it's how she's able to merge regional sounds and flip them with some southern spice.
Music historian and author Craig Seymour says that with her collaborations on Renaissance – like featuring live trumpets played by Bastrop, Louisiana native Jamelle Adisa on "Cuff It," – Beyoncé reconnects house music that had been born in places like Chicago back to its southern roots, honoring the foundation of the genre itself.
"People always want to act like Black history is brand new, but the first thing is to understand the huge influence of the Great Migration,” Seymour tells xoNecole. “All those people who created early house music were the grandchildren of Southerners. So those southern cultural traditions and things like that were a part of their lives even though they were in an urban environment," says Seymour. "The kind of yearning, the desire for acceptance that you get with a lot of early house, you can trace a lot of those elements even back to the urban blues, which essentially was the soundtrack to the Great Migration."
Seymour also tells us that the sub-genres of house Beyoncé chose to recreate on the album show her commitment to authentically representing the culture.
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"One of her most significant influences on the album is the sub-genre of house called 'bitch tracks,' which were often made by drag performers who were basically reading somebody on a record. Moi Renee's "’Miss Honey’" is one of the foundational ones, and she sampled Kevin Aviance's "’Cunty’" on [the track] "Pure/Honey," says Seymour.
It’s that track, as well as “Alien Superstar” that season one winner of the HBOMax vogue competition show Legendary Calypso Jetè Balmain relates to the most. But Calypso, who's worked with Megan Thee Stallion and more, is no stranger to how thin the line between homage to the culture and commodification can be.
"Being a Black trans woman and knowing Ballroom, going back to the roots and everything, I don't want this to just be another way of getting people to tune into music," says Calypso. "I'm kind of sad that it took for Beyoncé to do things like this [for the community to get the attention it deserves]. I love it; I appreciate it. But I don't want this to be [seen as] a trend because Ballroom has been around for so long." She hopes that the visuals for Renaissance will showcase the culture authentically.
"It will open the eyes of many who are allies or not LBTQIA+. Because right now, people are just hearing it, and people are probably like, 'Oh, my God, this is a great time because Beyoncé made it,' says Calypso. "If you were to walk into a straight club and say, 'Oh, play Kevin Jz Prodigy.' They'll never play Kevin Jz Prodigy. They don't know who that is."
In recent years, Ballroom — traditionally an underground haven for Black and brown LGBTQIA+ folks — has become a part of the mainstream pop culture discussion thanks to TV series like Pose and Legendary, and a resurgence of house music. While the general public gawks at the beauty, glamour, and voguing, there's a deeper story of resilience, survival and strength in community. "Nobody wants to talk about AIDS because it created a substantial generational gap,” Seymour says. “The government's inaction caused gay men to die disproportionately of AIDS, especially Black gay men."
And now, at the height of anti-LGBTQIA+ legislation and the short life expectancy of Black trans women, who are attacked daily, we must look beyond the surface. Renaissance is more than a musical masterpiece; it’s inherently political and communal as she lends herself and platform to the memory of her Uncle Johnny and to generations of queer folks. Looking back to move forward through music is a form of resistance in her wheelhouse, using this album to bridge young queer folks to their elders, roots, and the ongoing fight for our rights. That's the true essence of Renaissance in every sense of the word.
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Reset Your Relationship: How To Start 2025 Strong With Your Partner
As the calendar turns and a new year unfolds, many of us are laser-focused on our career goals, fitness resolutions, and vision boards that outline the journey to our best selves. But amidst all the planning and self-improvement, have you made room for another important part of your life? Your relationship.
It's easy for couples to fall into a routine, going through the motions and letting their connection sit on autopilot. While comfort is natural in a long-term relationship, it’s important to remember: that what you don’t nurture, eventually fades. So, why not make 2025 the year you reset your relationship? Here’s how to start the year with a renewed bond, reigniting the spark that brought you together.
Step 1: Schedule Your Reset Meeting
The first step to hitting the reset button is a State of the Union meeting with your partner. This is your chance to take a pulse on the relationship, discuss what's working, and identify areas that need attention. It’s all about creating space to reflect, without distractions.
Grab a pen and paper (or open a shared note on your phone) and come prepared to share your top 2-3 desires for your relationship.
What do you both want to feel more of in 2025? Maybe it’s feeling more appreciated, or perhaps you want to reignite the passion you had when you first started dating. Whatever it is, get clear about it, and make sure both of you are on the same page.
This isn’t just about listing your own wants, it’s also about discussing ways to nurture each other’s needs. Relationship goals should be focused on fostering deeper intimacy, trust, and mutual respect. Use this time to check in, not only with each other but with your individual feelings and expectations. Set the foundation for a fulfilling year ahead.
Step 2: Set A Date (Or Multiple!)
Having the meeting is only the first step. Now, it’s time to take action. One of the simplest ways to breathe new life into a relationship is by reintroducing consistent, intentional time spent together. For many couples, life gets busy, and date nights fall by the wayside. But dating doesn’t stop when you say "I do"—in fact, it’s even more essential.
During your reset meeting, lock in a regular date night that works for both of your schedules. This could be a weekly dinner date or an every-other-week adventure—whatever keeps things fresh. The goal is consistency. It’s easy to push date nights aside when life gets hectic, but if you set a specific date each week or month, you’re making your relationship a priority.
If you’re unsure what to do for your date nights, don’t worry! The key is creating new experiences together. This is what sparks excitement and brings you closer as a couple. Whether it’s cooking a new recipe together, trying a dance class, or exploring a nearby town, it’s about creating shared memories that build your connection.
Step 3: Find an Accountability Partner
Just like you might have a personal trainer to help you crush your fitness goals, an accountability partner for your relationship can do wonders for keeping both of you on track. Consider hiring a marriage coach or therapist—someone who can meet you where you are and guide you in strengthening your relationship.
When selecting a professional, it’s important to choose someone who truly wants the best for your marriage and can provide actionable advice.
Don’t be afraid to set high standards for your relationship, and seek guidance on how to keep it thriving for the long haul. In your reset meeting, discuss your commitment to growth, and be honest about areas where you may need support.
Marriage isn’t a set-it-and-forget-it endeavor—it’s an ongoing process. Regular check-ins with a professional can help keep your relationship in tip-top shape and “divorce-proof” by addressing issues before they become insurmountable.
Step 4: Try Something New Together
Stale routines can easily make a relationship feel monotonous. Spice things up by trying something new! Couples that explore new activities and create new memories together have stronger, more fulfilling bonds.
My husband and I host one of the top luxury marriage retreats, A Weekend For Love, designed to help couples experience new things together. From couples' workshops to outdoor adventures, the retreat provides a platform to rediscover each other and reconnect on a deeper level.
The element of surprise can reignite your connection. It’s exciting, fresh, and shows your partner that you’re committed to growing together. This doesn’t have to be a huge commitment—it could be as simple as trying a new hobby or planning an impromptu weekend getaway.
Your Relationship Should Be A Priority
As you start the year with personal goals in mind, don’t forget the importance of nurturing your relationship. It’s easy to get caught up in work, fitness, and family obligations, but your bond with your partner deserves to be at the top of your list. Resetting your relationship offers an opportunity to reignite that spark and remind each other why you fell in love in the first place.
In 2025, make a commitment to prioritize your partnership, to nurture it daily, and to invest in its growth. Take time to celebrate each other’s victories, support one another’s dreams, and build a foundation of love and respect. When you start the year with a clear focus on your relationship, you’re setting it up for success.
So, before you start mapping out your new workout plan or work goals, do yourself a favor: put your relationship at the top of that list. Your love story deserves a fresh start, too.
Happy New Year, and here’s to a love-filled 2025!
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New year, new dating style. Courtesy of a former sugar baby.
Being a sugar baby had its (obvious) perks, but the most significant ones didn’t center around the material benefits. To date, I have a bigger appreciation for the lessons I’ve learned and applied them to my dating life.
Dating men of higher social status shortened my tolerance for a lot of things I was convinced were normal. I blamed the universe for attracting undesirable men when it was my fault for allowing undesirable behavior. An interesting dichotomy between those guys and sugar daddies was the treatment I accepted.
It was easier to put my foot down with men of opulence because their privilege meant there was no limit to meeting my desires. Plus, recognizing my own worth made them (the good ones) want to treat me with the same high regard.
I’ll admit you don’t NEED to be an SB to enhance your dating style, but that’s the path I journeyed. It taught me how to be gracefully tough on men based on the simple fact that I’m invaluable. I’ll never convince anyone to be an SB, but feel free to pick a few gems I learned that might take your 2025 dating style to the next level.
Don’t overdo it by showing gratitude.
Let’s stop praising men for the bare minimum.
Yes, it’s okay to make a man feel affirmed but don’t let those affirmations come off too intensely, especially for things that require minimal effort. Don’t tell him about your ex never opening the passenger door for you, don’t brag about him being "The One" because he texted to make sure you got home safely, and most definitely don’t offer up the cat just because he paid a $150 dinner bill (give it because you want to, not out of obligation).
To be honest, I barely even say thank you when a man finds me attractive. “You are so beautiful.” I would respond, “Aww, you’re so sweet.” When he holds the door open, I graze his arm and smile.
Showing too much excitement about the bare minimum strokes his ego and draws a ceiling, which he doesn’t feel he needs to surpass. It tells him you’re not used to regular treatment, so you’ll be grateful for anything. Why do more than necessary? I like my men reflecting at the end of our date, thinking, “What can I do to impress her?”
Don’t stop having manners, though. Just keep it simple and move on.
There’s no such thing as “dating for potential.”
Hold my hand with this one.
There comes a time when the word “potential” shouldn’t be a part of your dating vocabulary. It’s nothing more than the encouragement of false hope. He’s not flaky with time because his schedule is too busy between balancing family and work. It’s because you’re not important enough to prioritize making time for.
He’s not stingy on dates because he’s having a rough time handling all his financial responsibilities. It’s because he’d rather spend his money on things that don’t involve you.
Trust me when I say men don’t date with potential in mind. Many of them hold themselves in very high regard with an “I can do better” mindset, and so should you. There’s A LOT of weight in the saying, “If he wanted to he would.” So stay away from Mr. Shoulda Coulda Woulda because, at the end of the day, he didn’t.
*P.S. If he ever says he doesn’t deserve you, he’s not being sheepishly humble. Take his word for it and run.
Do NOT be afraid to say no.
How many times have you put yourself through something you didn’t want to do based on feeling obligated? You compromised yourself in order to please the person you’re dating because it seemed like the easier option. Let me just remind you of the old saying, “Nothing good in life comes easy.”
I like comparing men to children, not to demean them but to draw similarities. Children often like to push and see how much they can get away with until the parent says no. Once you allow them to get away with one thing, they’ll nudge the limits to see how often they can skate by.
Dating is just like this. Get comfortable giving rejection. It can be an uncomfortable concept for some, so consider saying no and following it with a light reason. For example, “Do you want to come over and watch Netflix?” “No, I don’t feel comfortable going to strangers’ houses.” If his response is anything but understanding with a Plan B, on to the next.
Those boundaries were created to protect you. Any man who respects you will respect them too.
Don’t lay all your cards on the table.
When a man asks, “So what exactly are you looking for?” The vaguest response comes to mind.
It’s a common mistake to think men (not all) ask questions for unselfish reasons. That one, especially, is basically like asking for cheat codes to a game. Describing your idea of a perfect man, dating intentions, etc. allows him to know who he needs to morph himself into in order to get what he wants. Enter love bombing, physical intimacy, delusions of potential, then ghosting.
I’ve said the below on a few first dates and wasn’t surprised by how quickly the guys weeded themselves out.
"I’ve been having fun figuring things out as time goes on. There are times when I love going out to meet new people and times when I love cuddling up on the couch. It depends on how I’m feeling.”
I just said a whole lotta nothing, leaving it up to him to decipher. It’s open-ended, which forces him to show his intentions and let things play out naturally with as little manipulation as possible.
The first date defines how he views you.
This is where all those conversations leading up to this day come into play.
The perfect first date doesn’t only have to consist of 5-star dining and lavish wine collections. Those are merely perks. The perfect first date is valued based on how much effort he put in to show he’s been listening.
You’ve been dropping subtle hints that tulips are your favorite flowers. Did he show up empty-handed? You shared your discomfort with driving to far places at night. Did he book a 9 p.m. reservation somewhere 30 minutes away? You told him about your new venture into veganism. Did he take you to his favorite steakhouse?
These aren’t small things and they’re DEFINITELY not things for you to take on as a challenge. These could be easy signs of a life full of selfishness and laziness if shrugged off by the belief you should be satisfied with him making time for you.
Will taking my advice find you a husband faster? Who knows? But, ultimately, dating isn’t supposed to be an earnest search for a man. It should be a time of personal growth while sorting through experiences to find a partner who will appreciate the valuable woman you are.
Having high standards for yourself doesn’t make you difficult or unreasonable. To the right man, it definitely won’t make you undateable. Like I said before, nothing good in life comes easy.
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