I've got a friend who lives to clean. I'm not playing. When she's in a good mood, she wants to clean. When she is totally pissed off, she wants to clean. So, in her world, there is no need to really spring clean because she does it on the regular. Then there's me. Don't get me wrong, my place is in good shape; still, I pretty much have a cleaning day (which is either Thursday or Friday) and there are definitely a few times a year when I'll spend a good three days just going ham on my place. One of those times is during the traditional spring cleaning season. During then, there are some particular hacks that I will apply.
That's what I'm gonna share with you today. Whether you're like my girl and you clean on steroids or you're more like I am and you seasonally go off the charts, here are 15 things that can make getting your house in order so much easier, cheaper and even healthier (because they most don't contain any chemicals) to do.
1. Naturally Increase Your Laundry Smell With This DIY Epsom Salt Laundry Booster
Do you want to make your laundry smell amazingly fresh without the use of any dyes and chemicals? One of the easiest, safest, and most effective ways to do that is to apply a blend of Epsom salt and your favorite essential oil (or oils) to your machine. All you need is one cup of Epsom salt and 20-30 drops of an essential oil (depending on how potent you want your laundry to be). Combine the two ingredients in a bowl, let them air dry for a couple of minutes and then transfer everything to a mason jar. Add about a tablespoon of the homemade booster to your machine before you add laundry and start to wash. You'll wonder what took you so long to add this tip to your wash day routine.
2. Clean Your Kitchen Sinks Naturally with Baking Soda and Hydrogen Peroxide
If it's time to give your sinks a deep cleaning, all you need to do is sprinkle some baking soda onto them and use a sponge to rub it in. Then pour some hydrogen peroxide to deeply penetrate and remove any residue. Ever wonder how to clean your iron? For the record, baking soda and hydrogen peroxide are also unstoppable in cleaning the back of irons too (and we all know that can be a headache!). Mix two-parts baking soda with one-part hydrogen peroxide.
Then heat up your iron on a low setting to soften up some of the gunk that's on it. With a wooden spatula, remove as much residue as possible. Then turn the iron off, let it cool and apply the baking soda and hydrogen peroxide paste. Let it sit for 20-30 minutes and scrub the iron with a scrubbing cloth. Then rinse with cool water and repeat as often as needed.
3. Restore Wood Furniture With Olive Oil and White Vinegar (or Beer) as Homemade Cleaner
Do you have hardwood floors or some wooden furniture that has some surface scratches in it that you would like to remove? A combination of one-part olive oil and one-part white vinegar can do the trick. At the end of the day, you're just making some homemade furniture polish sans the unnecessary chemicals. You can even add a little bit of fresh lemon juice for good measure. Something else that works pretty well on wood is beer. Just pour a little bit of it on a soft rag and rub your furniture down. You might want to test this on a little corner of a table or chair first, simply because some beer is stronger than others; yet if you're looking for an easy way to make your wood shine, ale will do it.
4. Here’s How to Clean and Fluff Your Pillows
Lawd, why don't pillows ever stay white 'n fluffy? If yours are that old dingy pale yellow color, soak them in the washing machine, two at a time. Then pour a couple of capfuls of hydrogen peroxide and white vinegar to your machine's drum and wash them in a light cycle. That should whiten them right on up. As far as the fluffy part goes, before throwing yours in the trash and getting another set, why not toss them into your dryer on low for about 10 minutes? Sometimes, that's all that's needed to spruce them back up a bit. Word on the street is, if you put a tennis ball into the dryer as well, it will help to pound out any lumps that your pillows may have.
5. Put Some Lemons in Your Dishwasher to Clean
Is your dishwasher giving your glasses that spotty look? Oftentimes, that's due to nothing more than calcium deposits. A simple workaround is to cut up a few slices of lemon and let them go through your next washing cycle. Your glasses should come out crystal clear if you do.
6. Use Mineral Oil to Degrease Your Stove
Is your stovetop all sticky 'n stuff? It might sound odd but the way to actually get the stuck-on oil off is to put some mineral oil on it. Literally pour a little bit of mineral oil on the area that you want to clean up, let it sit for a couple of minutes and use a cleaning rag to remove the stickiness. It tends to glide off even faster if you warm the mineral up a bit first.
7. Clean Your Dirty Cast Iron Skillet With a Coarse Salt and Potato Scrub
One of my favorite cooking items is my cast iron skillet. The only thing that sometimes drives me crazy about it is the fact that it can sometimes not be the easiest to clean. A cool hack for cleaning your cast iron skillet is to preheat your oven to around 350-400 degrees. Pour some coarse salt on the pan and then slice a potato in half so that you can rub the skillet with it. Do so in a circular motion and then rinse and pat the pan dry with some paper towels. For tips on how to season the pan following cleaning it, click here (which is where I got the hack in the first place).
8. Need to Pick up Stubborn Pet Hair? Try a Carpet Rake for Pet Hair Removal
If you've got a pet that constantly sheds on your carpet and vacuuming never seems to get all of their hair up, invest in a carpet rake. The long-short of it is it's basically a broom for your carpet in the sense that it does the same job that a broom would do on your tile floors, except the rake is made out of much stronger bristles. If it's something that you'd at least want to read more on, you can check out a list of some of the top carpet rakes on the market by clicking here.
9. Pour Some Kool-Aid into Your Toilet as a DIY Toilet Scrub
Listen, don't shoot the messenger because I wouldn't be surprised in the least if you never saw Kool-Aid the same way after what I'm about to say but it's actually a really great product for scrubbing your toilet. The citric acid that's in the lemonade flavor one is so potent that you can use it to deep scrub your toilet. Just pour the packet in, let it sit for a couple of minutes, and use your toilet brush to clean as usual. Your toilet will sparkle in a way you never thought a popular drink brand could make it do.
10. Unclog and Clean Your Showerheads with Vinegar and a Ziploc Bag
Is it time to unclog your showerheads? Get yourself a Ziploc bag (one that is big enough to cover your showerhead up) and pour some white vinegar into it. Then wrap the bag around the showerhead with a rubber band and let it sit for an hour. Remove the bag, run the showerhead and you should notice that water is flowing from it better.
11. Clean Your Mattress Naturally with Baking Soda and Lavender Oil
Did you know that you can vacuum your mattress? Yep. And if you want to make it fresher, sprinkle some baking soda on it and let it sit for 10-15 minutes before you do. If there happen to be stains on your mattress, a combo of baking soda and hydrogen peroxide can get those out. Just remember that hydrogen peroxide can "bleach out" colors, so using it is best if your mattress is white.
If you simply want to deodorize your mattress, mixing one cup of baking soda with 20 drops of lavender essential oil and then putting everything into a mason jar that has a shaker lid, will make it possible for you to easily sprinkle the mixture (it'll smell amazing too!). And what if you sprinkle too much? Your mattress can pick up the extra. Just make sure to let it all sit for about 20 minutes first.
12. DIY Clean Your Microwave with Some Fresh Lemon Water
Sometimes microwaves can get a little gunky. If yours is basically at that point and you want to give it a thorough cleaning, all you need to do is squeeze 1-2 lemons worth of lemon juice and then add some water to a microwave-safe bowl. Put the bowl into the microwave and let it run on high for about three minutes. It will help to penetrate the gunk so that it's easier to wipe off.
13. Pour Windex on Your Carpet to Remove Stains
If you've got kids and you don't have any Windex in your house, let this serve as a PSA to get some as soon as possible because it's a great way to remove stains. When it comes to ones that may be on your carpet, spray some directly onto the stain and let it sit for a couple of minutes. Then put a lightly colored rag over the stain and your medium-low heat iron on top of the rag. If you let the iron remain long enough, you should see some of the stain coming through the rag. If you repeat as often as necessary, most of the stain should go away.
Just remember to always keep the iron on the rag and get a new rag, if necessary. Oh, and if you've got a toddler who thinks your walls are their canvas, spraying some Windex onto their masterpieces should easily remove the crayons. As far as the carpet goes, only use the blue Windex brand if you've got nothing else. Sometimes, the ironing process can leave a hint of blue behind, if you're not careful.
14. DIY Some Homemade Lemons/Lime Slices Cubes To Clean Your Garbage Disposal
Does your garbage disposal currently smell like, well, garbage? That's what can happen when months of old food residue is stuck inside. A great hack for removing the odor is to make some DIY cubes out of lemons and lime slices. Simply cut them up into small cubes and place them into your ice trays. Then fill the trays up with white vinegar and some lemon or orange essential oil drops. Place them into the freezer for 24-36 hours. Then run some hot water down your kitchen sink for a couple of minutes, pour 1/3 cup of baking down the drain and then place a cube inside and turn the disposal on (remember to move your fingers out of the way). The citrus and vinegar of the cubes will nix the odor and the ice will help to sharpen the blades of your disposal. How cool is that?
15. How to Clean a Painting? Dust Your Paintings with Bread.
Something that I started collecting more of in my mid-late 30s was art. Sometimes paintings can get dusty. Well, here's something that's super off the chain. Rather than trying your luck by trying to dust your painting with a rag, pull out a piece of bread instead. It's gentle enough to not affect your art and yet "spongy" enough to remove the dust at the same time.
Hey, don't knock it 'til you tried it, chile. Welcome to spring cleaning season, sis.
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As some of you know, something that I've been "threatening" to do for a few years now is write another book. Welp, October 2024 was the month that I "gave birth" to my third one: 'Inside of Me 2.0: My Story. With a 20-Year Lens'. It's fitting considering I hit a milestone during the same year.
Beyond that, Pumas and lip gloss are still my faves along with sweatshirts and tees that have a pro-Black message on them. I've also started really getting into big ass unique handbags and I'm always gonna have a signature scent that ain't nobody's business but my own.
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Reset Your Relationship: How To Start 2025 Strong With Your Partner
As the calendar turns and a new year unfolds, many of us are laser-focused on our career goals, fitness resolutions, and vision boards that outline the journey to our best selves. But amidst all the planning and self-improvement, have you made room for another important part of your life? Your relationship.
It's easy for couples to fall into a routine, going through the motions and letting their connection sit on autopilot. While comfort is natural in a long-term relationship, it’s important to remember: that what you don’t nurture, eventually fades. So, why not make 2025 the year you reset your relationship? Here’s how to start the year with a renewed bond, reigniting the spark that brought you together.
Step 1: Schedule Your Reset Meeting
The first step to hitting the reset button is a State of the Union meeting with your partner. This is your chance to take a pulse on the relationship, discuss what's working, and identify areas that need attention. It’s all about creating space to reflect, without distractions.
Grab a pen and paper (or open a shared note on your phone) and come prepared to share your top 2-3 desires for your relationship.
What do you both want to feel more of in 2025? Maybe it’s feeling more appreciated, or perhaps you want to reignite the passion you had when you first started dating. Whatever it is, get clear about it, and make sure both of you are on the same page.
This isn’t just about listing your own wants, it’s also about discussing ways to nurture each other’s needs. Relationship goals should be focused on fostering deeper intimacy, trust, and mutual respect. Use this time to check in, not only with each other but with your individual feelings and expectations. Set the foundation for a fulfilling year ahead.
Step 2: Set A Date (Or Multiple!)
Having the meeting is only the first step. Now, it’s time to take action. One of the simplest ways to breathe new life into a relationship is by reintroducing consistent, intentional time spent together. For many couples, life gets busy, and date nights fall by the wayside. But dating doesn’t stop when you say "I do"—in fact, it’s even more essential.
During your reset meeting, lock in a regular date night that works for both of your schedules. This could be a weekly dinner date or an every-other-week adventure—whatever keeps things fresh. The goal is consistency. It’s easy to push date nights aside when life gets hectic, but if you set a specific date each week or month, you’re making your relationship a priority.
If you’re unsure what to do for your date nights, don’t worry! The key is creating new experiences together. This is what sparks excitement and brings you closer as a couple. Whether it’s cooking a new recipe together, trying a dance class, or exploring a nearby town, it’s about creating shared memories that build your connection.
Step 3: Find an Accountability Partner
Just like you might have a personal trainer to help you crush your fitness goals, an accountability partner for your relationship can do wonders for keeping both of you on track. Consider hiring a marriage coach or therapist—someone who can meet you where you are and guide you in strengthening your relationship.
When selecting a professional, it’s important to choose someone who truly wants the best for your marriage and can provide actionable advice.
Don’t be afraid to set high standards for your relationship, and seek guidance on how to keep it thriving for the long haul. In your reset meeting, discuss your commitment to growth, and be honest about areas where you may need support.
Marriage isn’t a set-it-and-forget-it endeavor—it’s an ongoing process. Regular check-ins with a professional can help keep your relationship in tip-top shape and “divorce-proof” by addressing issues before they become insurmountable.
Step 4: Try Something New Together
Stale routines can easily make a relationship feel monotonous. Spice things up by trying something new! Couples that explore new activities and create new memories together have stronger, more fulfilling bonds.
My husband and I host one of the top luxury marriage retreats, A Weekend For Love, designed to help couples experience new things together. From couples' workshops to outdoor adventures, the retreat provides a platform to rediscover each other and reconnect on a deeper level.
The element of surprise can reignite your connection. It’s exciting, fresh, and shows your partner that you’re committed to growing together. This doesn’t have to be a huge commitment—it could be as simple as trying a new hobby or planning an impromptu weekend getaway.
Your Relationship Should Be A Priority
As you start the year with personal goals in mind, don’t forget the importance of nurturing your relationship. It’s easy to get caught up in work, fitness, and family obligations, but your bond with your partner deserves to be at the top of your list. Resetting your relationship offers an opportunity to reignite that spark and remind each other why you fell in love in the first place.
In 2025, make a commitment to prioritize your partnership, to nurture it daily, and to invest in its growth. Take time to celebrate each other’s victories, support one another’s dreams, and build a foundation of love and respect. When you start the year with a clear focus on your relationship, you’re setting it up for success.
So, before you start mapping out your new workout plan or work goals, do yourself a favor: put your relationship at the top of that list. Your love story deserves a fresh start, too.
Happy New Year, and here’s to a love-filled 2025!
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1 In 4 Men And Women Are Faking It—Science Explains How To Change That
It’s no secret that I can’t stand fake orgasms. There are a billion reasons why — some of which I will get into in just a moment. For now, what I will say is, even if you can rationalize that faking orgasms will “get you out of” the sex that you may be having at the moment, when it comes to long-term satisfaction and benefits, how is faking it really going to get you anywhere? At least anywhere good — which is what you totally and absolutely deserve.
And that is why, while I was recently out in cyberspace seeing what the topic of sex had to offer (of merit), a particular study especially caught my attention. The reason why is because, while the topic of faking orgasms has been explored, pretty much ad nauseam at this point, what I haven’t personally seen a lot and enough of is how to stop them from happening so much and when people do them, what personally caused them to in the first place.
Today, we’re going to strive to get down to the root of some of those queries. And so, if you’ve always been curious about how to make the cycle of faking orgasms stop, this piece just might shed a little light. Here’s hoping anyway, chile.
Faking Orgasms. Why I Loathe It So.
GiphyDo you ever stop to think about certain songs from back in the day and wonder if they were released now, would people try to cancel them (hmph, as if this culture ever really cancels anybody for really anything, right?)? An example of what I mean is Alexander O’Neal’s song, “Fake”. If you’re too young to know it, or it’s been a while since you’ve heard it, feel free to go back and listen to the lyrics in order to grasp where I am coming from.
And why am I bringing it up in the context of today’s conversation? Well, whenever I think about folks faking orgasms, that song almost instantly plays in the background of my mind because, while he’s basically talking about the word from the definition of “to conceal the defects of or make appear more attractive, interesting, valuable, etc.,” when I think of “faking it” in a sexual way, definitions like “to deceive,” “to pretend” and “anything made to appear otherwise than it actually is” are what I ponder — because y’all, I don’t care how many people do it, how can any of those definitions truly be good, right or helpful when it comes to copulation? Deceiving your partner into thinking that you climaxed when you actually didn’t? Pretending to be satisfied when you actually aren’t? Making sex appear like it’s one kind of experience for you when it actually…isn’t? SMDH. Yeah, that is something that I can never personally get behind, which is why I once penned, “Why You Should Stop Faking Orgasms ASAP” for the platform. To me, since sex is about establishing a profound mental, emotional, and physical connection, how can that truly and authentically happen if one or both involved individuals are not being honest with each other about what they want, need and desire in order to make that happen?
Yeah, when it comes to the ever so popular fake orgasms, I’ll pass and will forever encourage others to do the same.
Faking Orgasms. Why So Many People Do It.
GiphyHere’s what’s wild, though — even if what I just said made complete and total sense to you, there’s still a really good chance that you’ve faked at least one orgasm before (check out “So, 10 Women Sat Down And Told Me Why They Fake Orgasms...More Times Than Not”). Know what else? There’s also a good chance that your partner has done the same (check out “Men Fake Orgasms (And 14 Other Semi-Random Things About Them In Bed)”. And why is it that so many continue to do it, even if, in the back of their mind, they believe that it’s at least somewhat counterproductive?
Well, from the personal conversations (and coaching sessions) that I’ve had with both men and women, the top reason for why so many men fake orgasms is because they don’t want to hurt their partner’s feelings by telling them that the sex isn’t as good as they might think that it is, and when it comes to women, they fake in order to hurry up and get the experience over with — which, when you really think about it, for both genders, the motives are pretty much two sides of the same coin: people not being satisfied and trying to avoid sharing that reality with their partner.
OK, butwhat does science say is the main cause for men and women faking it? Well, a top reason for whya lot of men decide to go that route is because they simply want to get the experience over with (although being unable to orgasm due to drunkenness, medication, and/or boredom ranked pretty highly, too). And women? Difficulty achieving an orgasm is the biggest one (check out “How Can You Know For Sure That You've Had An Orgasm?” and “Ladies, Please Stop Pressuring Yourself Over Vaginal Orgasms”). Hmph, when I stop to take this all in, I find both reasons to be unfortunate. On the male tip, is it just me, or does it seem like there is a real disconnect of intimacy if that is why men fake it? What I mean by that is, if you’d rather “hurry up and get done” — are you having sex with your partner or at your partner (some of y’all will catch that later)? And, as far as the ladies go, if you are so uncomfortable and/or self-conscious and/or embarrassed about not being able to climax to the point that you will lie and say that you did — do you trust your partner enough to tell him the truth and then are you willing to work through the process of achieving an orgasm…together?
These types of questions are what piqued my curiosity when I happened upon a study of over 11,000 participants that transpired over in the UK. The focal point of it? Since faking orgasms is so prevalent, what actually causes people to stop? Because listen, none of us are actually going to get anywhere if we only focus on the problem and don’t seek to find some sort of solution (lawd).
Faking Orgasms. What Actually Makes People Stop.
GiphyOK, so from what I’ve read and researched, The Journal of Sex Research hassemi-recently published the study that I was just referring to. Before we get into what caused people to stop lying — umm, faking orgasms, check out these findings first:
·51 percent of participants claimed to have never faked an orgasm before
·Close to 66 percent of men and 34 percent of women say that they have faked an orgasm
·Almost 19 percent of men and 35 percent of women say that although they have faked one in the past, they have since stopped
·Almost nine percent of men and 20 percent of women are currently “faking it”
Yeah, I already know. The discrepancies between the men and women are quite noticeable. Let’s keep going, though, because the reason for why men and women decided to stop is the main reason why we’re all here — plus, it’s pretty interesting.
So, when it comes to the demographic of individuals who no longer fake it, what brought them to that point and place? Fascinatingly enough, around 26 percent of both men and women said that the communication between them and their partner improved while 24 percent of both men and women said that it was because their partner became more attentive. Well looka there — when couples connected on a mental and emotional level, the physical aspect of sex got better. Some other points did come into play, though:
·Around 29 percent of women and 25 percent of men decided to be content without having an orgasm
·Around 19 percent of men and 18 percent of women decided to get orgasms on their own (i.e., masturbate)
·Around 19 percent of men and (wow) two percent of women were caught faking it
·Around 15 percent of men and 10 percent are currently not having sex
OK, so when you read all of that, what tripped you out the most? As someone who works with married couples and is a huge advocate of them gettingthe most pleasure possible out of their sexual experiences, honestly, the first three (because, if you are married, please don’t settle fora sexless dynamic). I’ll break down why for each one.
First, if you used to fake orgasms and no longer do because you have settled for — pardon the pun — anti-climatic copulation…settling is exactly what you are doing. Listen, even if you’re not able to achieve a vaginal orgasm (and many women are not), it’s important to remember that there are oh so many other kinds to choose from (check out “U-Spot Orgasm, Fantasy Orgasm & 6 Other Orgasms You Should Try Tonight”). And what if you’ve tried those and still there are nofireworks? Make an appointment to see your doctor (to get your hormone levels checked) and/or a sex therapist (check out “Have You Ever Wondered If You Should See A Sex Therapist?”). Remember, the reason whyyou have a clitoris is so that you can experience the heights of sexual pleasure. If that’s not happening for you, it’s important to do all that you can to get to the root of why.
Secondly, not faking it because you have taken matters into your own hands — literally. So, here’s my issue with that. Unfortunately, our culture is so lust-crazed that we tend to forget (or is it ignore?) that sex shouldn’t ONLY be about cumming; sex should also be about connecting. And so, while masturbation may help you out in the climaxing department, it’s essential to not get so used to it that you fail to bond with your partner or that you put up walls of resentment because there are things that are happening when you’re alone that aren’t happening when the two of you are together. In other words, don’t let jacking off or solo sex toy experiences get in the way of heartfelt and honest conversations with your partner about your sexual needs (check out “How To Get More Of What You Need In The Bedroom” and “Sooo...What's Your Favorite TYPE Of Sex?”).
Finally, getting caught lying — again, I mean, faking it. Yeah, I know that I’m not the only one who noticed that there is a pretty big difference between how many women caught their man acting like he had an orgasm when he didn’t vs. how many men noticed that their lady acting like she had an orgasm when she didn’t. To that, let me first say that if you thought, “If a man ejaculated, he came. Duh” — look updry orgasms sometime. Believe it or not, it is possible for men to orgasm without cumming. And to the fellas (who may be reading this): I continue to be amazed by how you can’t tell if a woman is faking it because even if she is yelling and screaming at the top of her lungs, if her vagina isn’t contracting, guess what? Yeah, between that and extra lubrication coming from her vaginal area —those are pretty common signs that an orgasm has transpired; this basically means that if you don’t notice these things going down, how attentive of a sex partner are you? #justsaying3 Tips to Avoid Faking Orgasms
GiphyNow that you know what science says about why people fake orgasms, did any of the intel surprise you? More importantly, if you can personally relate to what was said, did any of the information inspire you to make some changes in your own sex life? Yeah, if faking orgasms is indeed a thing in your own world right now, as I close this out, here's three quick tips:
1. Remember the definitions of fake. Never forget them. Deception. Pretending. Making something look like something that it is not. No time to get into all of this today, yet I have worked with many people who fake orgasms and…fake other things in their relationship. You don’t want to deceive your partner or yourself. It’s not going to help the relationship. Ultimately, it’s only going to cause hurt and/or harm. Communicate your thoughts and feelings in the way that you would like to hear someone convey theirs to you (respectfully, thoughtfully, etc.); do make sure to share them, though.
2. Stop “performing”. Start being REAL. Know who fakes a lot of orgasms? Porn actors (I prefer to call them that over “porn stars”). That’s because sex work is…work; it’s a billion-dollar industry that people get paid to act like sex is always the bomb. You’re not a porn actor, so why put that kind of pressure on yourself? No matter what the reasons are for why an orgasm isn’t coming for you, if you are having sex with someone who can’t handle the realness of the reasons or “worse”, doesn’t care — don’t put that on the sex or yourself. Sis, you are simply sleeping with the wrong person/people.
3. If you build it, one way or another, it will come…and you will cum.Do orgasms come easier for some than others? 1000 and 10 percent. That is absolutely not the point, though. If experiencing this type of pleasure is what you long for, with the help of your intentions, your partner’s willingness, and if need be, professional assistance, you can get there. Not by faking it — by being honest about the fact that you need more time, patience, and empathy.
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Clearly, faking orgasms is a common thing; that doesn’t mean that it has to be the case for you, though. As you unpack what has made you start, process how to make it all stop.
Hmph. Better to take a while in order to experience what true bliss feels like than to keep faking it and never really know.
Words to live — and lie down — by. #wink
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