My relationship with dating apps is a love/hate one. As a single Black woman in my thirties, dating isn't always easy. Not only do you have to navigate the nuances of online dating and weed out the crazies, but deciding where to start can be difficult. In the past few years, I've used every dating app imaginable. Some were good, others were so awful. I vowed never to touch another app again. My dating app sabbaticals never lasted long since I'm single and searching for a life partner online. Wouldn't it be great if there was a guide that told us what the best dating apps are so we could save both time and energy? This article was birthed from that exact thought.
This is your dating app guide for Black girls who’ve considered life as a spinster when online dating wasn’t enough. Hopefully reading this will save you time and hopefully money. Listed below are some of the best dating apps on the market that I have used over the years. From the quantity of the dating pool to whether it provides daily matches to whether it's a free app or a paid service, I took everything into account.
Please be advised that online dating still sucks and you still have to engage and create “interesting” profiles to increase engagement but, based on my own experiences with online dating as a Black woman, these apps are the most promising.
1. BLK
BLK is probably one of my favorite dating apps because it is for us by us. BLK is a dating app that was built after watching Black people being discriminated against on popular online dating sites. The app focuses on connecting people with similar cultural backgrounds to create a more intentional space for Black singles.
BLK is a free dating app for singles looking for long-term relationships. It is a great option for Black women who are interested in finding a mate that shares their values and interests. This site has an intelligent matching algorithm, which can help find your perfect match.
2. eHarmony
eHarmony is an online dating site that focuses on compatibility rather than simply swiping through profiles. It has become increasingly popular due to its quality-over-quantity approach. For singles looking for long-term relationships, eHarmony is a popular dating platform. You will take a "Compatibility Quiz" after you sign up to find out more about yourself. The quiz covers six sections and takes up to 20 minutes to complete.
The site's matchmaking algorithm uses your personality and values from the quiz to match you with potential partners. If you upgrade, you'll get a personalized profile review and relationship tips based on the quiz. You can also check who has viewed your profile.
3. Match
Match is the world’s largest dating site, with over 25 million users. Its goal is to help users find matches based on their criteria. It has a variety of search options and features, such as a "Discover" section, which helps users learn about others in their area. It also has a search option for "top picks," which are matches deemed highly compatible with your stated criteria by the algorithm.
Once you have an account on Match, you can create a profile and upload photos. It also has a chat feature that lets you interact with other users. You can even get a free trial of Match to see how the site works before you commit to a paid subscription. If you do decide to sign up for a premium membership, there are several different packages available to choose from.
4. Tinder
One of the most popular and widely-used dating apps is Tinder. It has millions of users worldwide and offers a simple yet effective way to meet people near you. You’ll need to create a profile, upload photos and start swiping right on profiles that interest you. If two people both swipe right on each other’s profiles, then they’ll match and be able to communicate with one another. This is a feature that I love because every match means mutual interest.
5. Bumble
Bumble is similar to Tinder in that it uses swiping technology but has a few key differences that make it unique. For starters, only women can initiate conversations on Bumble. This gives women more power and control over who they talk to and eliminates getting messages from men you are not the least bit interested in! Plus, Bumble also has added features like Bumble Boost which allow users to unlock additional features such as having their profile seen by more people or extending matches' time limits for an additional 24 hours.
6. Hinge
Hinge is another popular dating app geared towards meaningful relationships rather than casual encounters. The "dating app designed to be deleted" uses an algorithm tailored specifically towards making sure users don't just get random matches but ones that are actually compatible with them based on things like interests and values. Additionally, Hinge also offers helpful icebreakers that can help kick off conversations between potential matches as well as different ways of filtering searches so users can find more tailored results faster than ever before!
7. EliteSingles
EliteSingles is the most expensive app on the list but offers more bang for your buck. EliteSingles is a serious dating site that takes online dating seriously, and its user base consists of educated, committed singles who are looking for a long-term commitment. EliteSingles has an extensive personality test that helps members find compatible matches. The app’s 115-question questionnaire takes about 20 minutes to complete, and you can even pause the test at any point.
The app also has a daily suggested match feature that streamlines profiles into quick overviews to swipe through. Premium members can send messages and winks to matches, as well as like or comment on their photos. Another great feature is the “Have You Met?” feature, which matches singles based on a common interest. It’s similar to a carousel of Tinder-like matches, but it only lists singles who have shown interest in your profile.
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There’s just something about HBCU Homecoming that just hits different. Whether it’s your first time stepping onto the yard since graduation or you’re a regular at every Homecoming tailgate, HBCU pride is undeniable. It’s a vibrant celebration that unites the legacy of excellence and tradition with the energy and resilience of Black culture.
The experience goes beyond a typical college reunion; HBCU Homecoming is a family reunion, a fashion show, a cultural festival, and a week-long turn-up that embodies what it means to be unapologetically Black and educated. For HBCU alumni, the journey back to the yard each year is rooted in a love and pride that’s hard to put into words but impossible to deny.
From statement pieces to tech must-haves, every item represents the intersection of Black pride and HBCU love, ensuring that you show up to the yard in style and with intention. So whether you’re repping your alma mater for the first time since graduation or looking for fresh pieces to express your HBCU pride, these essentials will have you standing out, because, at HBCU Homecoming, it’s not just about showing up—it’s about showing out.
Thread Goals
diarrablu Jant Pants in Alia Noir
High-waisted, wide-legged, and ready to shut down the yard, the Jant Pants by diarrablu bring a whole new meaning to campus chic. Handcrafted in Dakar, Senegal, these free-flowing jacquard pants are perfect for stepping onto the yard with style and ease—making them a must-have for any HBCU alum’s closet.
Silver & Riley Convertible Executive Leather Bag Classic Size in Olive
This all-in-one luxury bag isn’t a bestseller for nothing. The Silver & Riley essential is made of Italian calfskin leather and thoughtfully designed, as it can be worn in four different ways: a shoulder bag, crossbody, a top handle, and a backpack. Chic and elegant, the Convertible Executive Leather bag is “the bag that every woman needs in her collection.”
Renowned Women's Intuition Cotton Graphic T-Shirt
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Renowned’s Women’s Intuition Cotton Graphic T-shirt features a bold graphic print inspired by the power and essence of women’s intuition. With its striking design, this all-cotton tee is a vibrant thing, making it a statement piece that celebrates feminine energy.
Mifland Million M Mesh Crop Shirt
Talk about bold, the Million M Mesh Crop Shirt combines edgy style with comfort, featuring Mifland’s signature print on a semi-see-through mesh fabric. Show up and show out in sophisticated flair.
HBCU Love FUBU
Melanin Is Life Melanated & Educated - I Love My HBCU Hoodie
Show off your HBCU love with this piece that represents everything you gained from your alma mater: a top-tier education, a community that lifts you up, and a deep sense of esteem for yourself and your culture. Wear it loud and proud, because being melanated and educated isn’t just a flex—it’s a legacy.
HBCU Culture Spelmanite Sweatshirt in Navy
Spelmanites, rep your Spelman pride with this unisex crewneck sweatshirt, designed for ultimate comfort and a relaxed fit. Made from a cozy cotton/polyester blend, this classic sweatshirt is as durable as it is stylish—making it an ideal piece for any Spelmanite showing love for their alma mater.
HBCU Culture Howard Is The Culture T-Shirt
Rock the ultimate flex by showcasing your Howard U love with HBCU Culture’s Howard Is The Culture t-shirt. This unisex tee offers a comfortable, relaxed fit that’s perfect for celebrating your HBCU spirit without sacrificing style or comfort.
DungeonForward FAMU - Strike Bucket - Reversible
DungeonForward’s Strike Bucket Hat brings versatility and style to the FAMU Crown collection with its reversible design, giving you two looks in one. Featuring a sleek black snakeskin-embossed brim lining and a bold outline Rattler emblem, this hat is all about repping your Rattler pride in style.
DungeonForward Savannah State University - HBCU Hat - TheYard
The Savannah State University HBCU Hat by DungeonForward is more than just a hat—it’s a symbol of Tiger pride and a nod to the culture. Perfect for gamedays, tailgates, or just showing off your HBCU love, this hat lets you carry a piece of the yard wherever you go.
Tech the Halls
Anker iPhone 16 Portable Charger, Nano Power Bank
Stay charged up with the Anker Nano Power Bank, which features dual USB-C ports, a foldable connector, and a compact design, making it perfect for those HBCU tailgates and late-night parties you pull up to.
Drip Check
Wisdom Frame 14 Square Sunglasses
Elevate your look with these angular square-frame sunglasses by Wisdom, bringing an ultramodern edge to any outfit. The sleek design makes them perfect for blocking out the haters while you stunt on the yard.
Coco and Breezy Eyewear Fortune in Gray Turquoise
The Fortune Glasses in Grey Turquoise is a bold statement piece to any Homecoming weekend ‘fit that “embody our fearless and outspoken DNA.” With their color and edgy design, these frames by Coco and Breezy are perfect for anyone looking to stand out and express their unapologetic confidence.
Howard U Lapel Pin
Rep your Bison pride wherever you go with this Howard U Lapel Pin from Pretty AmbVision. Whether adding it to your jacket, shirt, or bag, this pin is the perfect way to showcase your love for your alma mater while rocking your HBCU love with honor and distinction.
Mifland Standard Rucksack Mini
The Standard Rucksack is designed to evolve like that HBCU pride—getting richer, bolder, and better with time. Durable, stylish, and built to last, this Rucksack by Mifland is a timeless piece equipped with versatile carrying options and fully adjustable back straps for ultimate comfort.
Stay Fresh, Stay Blessed
Slip Pure Silk Sleep Mask in Pink
Keeping it cute starts with beauty sleep. This luxurious silk mask is an essential for a reason. If protecting your skin and waking up refreshed is your priority, look no further than this Homecoming essential.
Liquid I.V.® Hydration Multiplier Lemon Lime - Hydration Powder Packets
Stay hydrated and energized throughout Homecoming weekend with this Liquid I.V.® Hydration Multiplier in Lemon Lime. Just add a packet to your water bottle, and bless your body with 2-3 times more hydration than water with every packet. Because staying hydrated is the key to popping up and showing out all weekend long!
Loop Experience Plus Earplugs High Fidelity Hearing Protection
Designed for your hearing protection, these sleek earplugs reduce noise without compromising sound quality—perfect for enjoying the band’s halftime show, late-night parties, and DJ sets. Whether you’re front row at the step show or hitting the yard, your ears deserve to be protected in style!
Black Girl Magic Glass Cup
Sip in style and celebrate your melanin with the Black Girl Magic Glass Cup. Perfect for morning coffee, your favorite iced drink, or showing off your HBCU pride on the yard—this cup is all about keeping it cute while radiating your endless supply of Black Girl Magic.
Glow Up & Show Out
Black Girl Sunscreen SPF 30
What Homecoming weekend can be complete without an assist from this beauty find? Formulated to blend seamlessly into melanin-rich skin (no white-cast), protect your glow while you turn up with the Black Girl Sunscreen SPF 30.
Sienna Naturals Issa Rae's Wash Day Ritual Set
Issa Rae’s Wash Day Ritual Set from Sienna Naturals includes the H.A.PI. Shampoo, the Plant Power Repair Mask, Dew Magic, and Lock and Seal to get your crown right. Whether you’re repping your coils or rocking a new color on the yard, these products restore and nourish your strands, keeping your hair healthy, strong, and Homecoming-ready!
54 Thrones Ivorian Cocoa + Ghanaian Coconut Beauty Butter
Stay glowing from the tailgate to the after-party with the 54 Thrones Ivorian Cocoa + Ghanaian Coconut Beauty Butter. Infused with African-sourced ingredients, this rich, multi-purpose butter is the answer to keeping your skin soft and radiant through all the festivities all Homecoming long.
Saie Glossybounce Hydrating Lip Oil
Keep your lips looking luscious and nourished with the Saie Glossybounce Hydrating Lip Oil. Perfect for adding an extra pop to your pout before hitting the yard or freshening up between events, this lip oil is a beauty essential for staying camera-ready all weekend.
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Some of the top jobs with the highest salaries also include a unique duty: Managing high levels of stress. And for Black women, this is especially troubling since many already face an added unique barrier of hidden biases, discrimination, and unequal pay.
When it comes to stress, according to a recent report, these jobs made the list:
(Oh, and a quick disclaimer: This is not to deter anyone from pursuing the career of their dreams or calling. Just keep these things in mind and remember that there are both good and not-so-savory aspects of doing any job or getting into any industry.)
Anesthesiologist
These professionals (who, on average, can earn more than $230,000 annually) face occupational risks such as large workloads, intense responsibility, safety issues related to ionizing and non-ionizing radiation, and high instances of suicide. They are also exposed to the usual biological factors present in medical facilities, such as viruses, bacteria, and fungi.
Business Operations Manager
Take it from me, any job title with the name “manager” in it is indeed stressful. As someone who has worked in management positions for over 10 years, it’s a rewarding but oftentimes thankless job, and when something goes wrong, the buck stops at you even if it’s not exactly all your fault.
Research has shown that 67% of managers have admitted to “struggling with heavy workloads, and the pressure exacerbates burnout in the office.” Business operations managers can earn upwards of $89,000 but are often tasked with making sure the engine of a department or a whole business runs efficiently and smoothly. This can mean late nights, overtime, and heavy expectations for results.
Social Worker
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Whether clinical, child and family, or community social workers, these professionals often have to help women, children, and families get through some very tough situations; social workers are susceptible to burnout. Due to services in stressful and complex situations, social workers are “more at-risk for chronic stress resulting in burnout,” according to research. This burnout is associated with “increased levels of absenteeism, higher turnover rates, and negative work attitudes.” Salaries can range from more than $45,000 to $80,000 per year.
Dentist
While it might seem like this is one of the less stressful medical professions to pursue, where you can set your own hours, start a practice, or take on a lucrative niche to meet your career and financial goals, this is still on the list of the most stressful jobs.
An expert told U.S. News & Report that a key stressor for dentists, who can earn salaries of more than $155,000 per year, is dealing with patient anxiety. “The most stressful occupations are those with much responsibility and not a lot of positive reward and feedback,” she explained to the publication.
Nurse Practitioner
One report found that these essential workers, who can earn upwards of $121,000, face constantly having to deal with “doctor's attitude, posting in busy departments (emergency/ICU), inadequate pay, and too much work.” Another found that two out of every 10 nurses have indicated that they are either “highly” or “extremely” stressed due to work, with 82% stating that stress affects their mental health and more than 44% indicating that work stress affects their physical health.
Sales Manager
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As mentioned before, being a manager is not for the faint at heart, especially when you’re managing both processes and people. There’s a sense that there’s always a deal to be made or closed, and revenue numbers directly impact one’s success in this role (as well as their livelihood.) Having to constantly hit targets and KPIs can take a toll on even the most savvy salesperson, and then add to that the responsibility of ensuring your teams are meeting their goals, the reports, the schmoozing, and the constant meetings.
How To Cope With A Stressful Job
Certain levels of stress at any job are unavoidable, and if you’re a professional in any of the aforementioned fields (or plan to be), it’s important to prioritize self-care, finding work-life harmony when balance just isn’t possible, and setting boundaries.
Experts also recommend building a certain level of discipline when it comes to your exercise and fitness habits, seeing a therapist, and building a supportive network. If you’re already in these industries, take micro-breaks (i.e., once every two hours while at work, if possible), commit to a hobby, and find purpose and passion outside of the work that you do.
Join a professional organization specific to your industry where you can relate and network with other professionals who face the same unique stressors that you do, and if all else fails, think about your why and whether maybe a sabbatical, career gap year or a total career change is your next move.
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