Angela Bassett and her husband Courtney B. Vance have one of those timeless love stories that prove an A-list marriage in Hollywood can stand the test of time. They met as classmates at the Yale School of Drama in the '80s and have remained peak relationship goals for each generation they have reintroduced themselves to throughout the years.
Since, the duo has accumulated years of accolades as a team (Vance winning his second Emmy in 2021, and Bassett’s highly-anticipated first Oscar win for Marvel’s Black Panther: Wakanda Forever, which takes place this weekend). We love them because they exemplify Black Love in definitive terms, and they value family and privacy despite starring in blockbuster shows and movies for decades.
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And the best part is that their marriage is a real-life fairytale, complete with making their way back to each other years after initially meeting.
Here's the relationship timeline of Angela Bassett and Courtney B. Vance’s love over the years:
1980s
Angela and Courtney were first introduced to one another at the Yale School of Drama. Vance had already obtained his BA from Harvard and attended Yale alongside Bassett for their MFAs. Their initial meeting in grad school wasn’t in a romantic capacity, as at the time, each of them was dating other people.
Angela Bassett and Courtney B. Vance in 1999.
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1990s
Roughly 14 years after meeting, the two had a reunion in LA, which was the first time the two had a budding romance. Bassett told People, “I was single. He was single. And I had such an appreciation for him over those years — of his consistency, how he treated other people, of what a supporter he is, what a connector of people he is, how passionate he is.”
The high-profile romance as we know it today almost didn’t happen, revealing first date details to Oprah, Bassett recalled, “Dare I say, it wasn’t memorable. He just seemed like a really, really nice guy, which translated to kind of boring. That was it. Wasn’t going to give him a second thought.”
The Vances eventually got married in 1997, trading off his and hers box office smashes --he starred in movies such as Dangerous Minds, The Preacher’s Wife, and Space Cowboys, and she, Malcolm X, The Jacksons: An American Dream, Boyz in the Hood, and What’s Love Got to Do With It.
Angela Bassett and Courtney B. Vance in 2002.
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2000s
After seven years of IVF, the pair’s children, fraternal twins Bronwyn and Slater were born in 2006, via surrogacy. A year later, they co-wrote a book about their relationship titled, Friends: A Love Story, where they opened up about the difficulties they’ve faced in becoming parents, Angela telling Oprah in 2007 after welcoming the twins, "I had a dream about seven years ago that we were going to have twins. I didn't know how it was going to happen. Just standing there together, holding each other with the realization that this is the moment that we've been working toward, praying for … [it's a dream come true]."
Bassett regularly shows off the twins, who are now 16 years old (omg!), on Instagram. Bronwyn reps the 2022 Los Angeles Team Member of the Year title for her work in raising money for the Leukemia & Lymphoma Society (LLS). Slater is a musician, releasing music and even an album in 2021.
Angela Bassett and Courtney B. Vance in 2022.
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Present Day
The Vances celebrated their 25th wedding anniversary with a party, surrounded by family and friends in October of 2022, joining the ‘forever teammates’ class with other long-term couples such as Denzel and Pauletta Washington, Grant Hill and Tamia, and Magic and Cookie Johnson.
And although 2023 may be Auntie Angela’s season as Black Panther: Wakanda Forever is up for a string of awards, Vance is never far away, admiring his wife and filming her speeches on his phone.
“We’ve had successes, we’ve had failures; we’ve had spectacular wins, we’ve had devastating losses … But through it all, there’s been one, beautiful constant: We’ve always had each other!" Angela wrote in an Instagram post celebrating their anniversary.
A 25-year energy I wish on us all.
Happy 25th anniversary to the Vances!
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The pair often says they’re two sides of the same coin. Skylar is an Aquarius. She attended art school, paints, and loves poetry. She’s more than happy to let the couple’s management firm and agency, Kensington Grey, handle their admin work. And, she loves to sleep in. Temi, on the other hand, wakes up early. He’s a Virgo. He loves a to-do list and regularly checks in on the couple’s brand partnerships spreadsheet to make sure everything is on track.
Because his storytelling was steeped in his love of technology, he didn’t always think of himself as a creative person. “Where I [am] the dreamer who wants to pluck things out of the sky and spend all day with my head in the clouds, Temi [is] so good at grounding me and helping me figure out how to make things make sense on paper. We just work together in such a complimentary way,” Skylar says.
It’s been more than six years since Brooklyn-based couple Temi and Skylar started dating, and nearly four since they cemented their working relationship. On TikTok and Instagram, the couple’s travel, fashion, and home content regularly rack up hundreds of thousands of views. They’ve worked with brands such as Coach, Aesop, Away, and Liquid IV, bringing their vibrant perspectives to every campaign they execute. Still, nearly two years since both Temi and Skylar committed to full-time content creation and creative directing, the couple says their romantic connection remains their priority.
“We told each other we would much rather go back to full-time jobs and preserve our relationship than to be full-time freelancers, barely getting a night's rest [and] barely kissing each other because we're so busy shooting,” Skylar says.
Working from home can make it hard to separate work from personal life for any entrepreneur. It can be even more challenging when your business partner is also your lover. Temi and Skylar had already used couples therapy as a tool to help them effectively communicate with one another. When they ran into challenges while working together, their therapist helped them set physical boundaries to help combat the issues.
"We told each other we would much rather go back to full-time jobs and preserve our relationship than to be full-time freelancers, barely getting a night's rest [and] barely kissing each other because we're so busy shooting."
“It actually took us doing very specific physical things to create boundaries between work and play in our relationship,” Skylar says. “So, for instance, we will only have conversations about work when we're out of bed or we're at the table or in the office. Initially, when we started, we had to light a candle to say that, 'Okay, this is a space where we're connecting, we’re not talking about work.' We needed really hard boundaries at the top. And then it became a little bit more organic.”
The boundaries have been crucial to implement, especially because the couple began working together so naturally. When the pair first met, Skylar was NY-based a social strategist for BuzzFeed and was using content creation to drive business to her lingerie company. She was shooting her own content. Temi was working for Microsoft in D.C. He’d recently traded in his DJing equipment for a camera. “I've always loved taking pictures,” he says. “Even when I was a kid, my African mother would wake me up at 3:00 a.m. [during a] party, and be like, 'Come take the family picture.'”
Growing up, Temi says he watched his parents support each other and be the true definition of partners. He knew he wanted the same for his own relationship. But, the couple also wanted to make sure they were being financially responsible. The pair didn’t quit their traditional jobs until they’d saved up two years' worth of their cost of living. And, Temi received his Master of Business Administration from New York University with the knowledge that it could either help him advance in his corporate career or be applicable to his business with Skylar.
Temi and SkylarCj Hart @hartbreakToday, they say their working relationship is more of a “quiet dance.” They still implement some of the boundaries they learned in therapy, but they also lean into their natural strengths and deep love for one another. When we speak, Temi has planned a date for the couple to see Princess Mononoke in 4K IMAX and added it to their Notion so they can factor it into their busy schedules. “I fully plan to date for the rest of my life,” he says.
Skylar says the couple doesn’t just wait for date nights to check in with one another, though. This often happens in the mornings, after Temi has made her peppermint tea and poured himself a cup of coffee. When they ask each other how they slept, she says, it’s not just a “nicety.” It’s a genuine question meant to foster connection.
“A lot of it happens during the day in the midst of work. We'll stop and we'll hug. Or we’ll slow dance in the kitchen,” she says. “Sometimes it's hard to set a whole date night when you have 7,000 things going on. So, we must grasp these moments and check in when we can. And I think it's become so organic to us that I actually didn't even realize how often we do it. But all day long, we're like, 'Are you good? I felt like your energy shifted,' because we're best friends, we just know. We just feel it happen.”
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