Don’t Kill My Vibe: 4 Ways To Keep Your Inner Peace In Any Environment

Charmaine Patterson

Aug 29, 2018 09:57 AM +0000

There's this meme that's been making its way around social media for a while now that reads: "If it costs you your peace, it's not worth it."

The fact that this quote has been posted, reposted, and shared countless times proves how much its relevance resonates. But it almost runs the risk of coming across as a prerequisite when we're thinking about taking on a new project, job, or relationship.

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If it messes with your peace, don't do it. Simple, right? But what about those situations that you're already in?

It's not always easy to say goodbye to an unhealthy environment. So in the meantime, the least we can do is keep our peace to make sure we don't go loca. There's no reason to feel like we can't get anything out of life until we're out of this situation. Here's how to master peace in an unpeaceful environment:

You know when people joke around and say that admitting something to yourself is the first step to overcoming it? As sarcastic as it can be sometimes, that same idea can serve as truth in situations that constantly test your patience and positivity.
Once you get past feeling like something is wrong but not being able to pinpoint it, and ultimately cross over to recognizing that you may be in a toxic and negative situation, you'll be able to handle it better. Certain things won't catch you by surprise and cause you to immediately react. Instead, you'll almost see it coming and have your response ready.
This doesn't necessarily have to be a clap back or shade session, but you will be able to choose a response that shows you're unbothered and don't have time to feed into the negativity.
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Sometimes we don't even realize when we're internalizing stuff and letting it eat us apart from the inside. I used to be the worst at this. And in some situations, I still am. It's like you have this whole conversation in your head about how something is doing the shoot dance on your last nerve. You may even come up with methods to deal with this issue, but never actually express your feelings verbally.
I know I'm guilty of the, "Well if they say this, then I'm gonna say this," back-and-forth within myself. Unfortunately, it doesn't do anyone any good, and infringes on the Feng Shui of my inner peace.
If you never express these feelings, you're really only hurting yourself. You don't have to tell anyone off, but take the initiative to have a conversation. Allowing that person to acknowledge whatever is making it hard to keep your peace will help you start diffusing any toxic energy in your life. If they decide not to respond in a way that's beneficial to you, at that point, it's their problem, not yours.
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Embrace Self-Affirmations

Those sticky notes that Gabrielle Union posted around the bathroom on Being Mary Jane were legit!

Of course, like most of us, she snatched them down before anyone else could see the self-affirmations that she needed to remind herself of constantly. But having these small reminders in the first place is a major way to keep your inner peace despite everything else going on around you.

It's a small move but will make a major difference in those trying times. If your home is the place that's toxic, then put a few in your car or at your desk at work. Just make it so you can't help but to remind yourself that you're worth keeping your peace no matter what.

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Remember that episode of Family Matters when Carl Winslow was like, "3-2-1, 1-2-3, what the heck is bothering me?" in attempt to calm himself down?
That scene was clearly a classic and as hilarious as it was, at least he was equipped with some type of mechanism to stay calm. One of the main ways to keep your inner peace on 10, is to be intentional about staying calm and keeping your cool within. You don't have to drive yourself crazy by thinking of and preparing for possible worst-case scenarios.
Just start your day by telling yourself that whatever happens, you're not going to let it mess up your peace. Even in those moments when you feel like going off, staying true to your affirmations will help you feel better, even in the most toxic situations. The important thing is that you maintain your peace in any environment. Keep calm, keep your peace, and don't let anybody kill your vibe.
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