15 Date Ideas Based On Your Love Language

Love Language: Words of Affirmation Date Ideas

Someone who has the primary love language of words of affirmation is someone who needs love expressed to them through words. Compliments. Encouragement. Texts throughout the day. Hallmark cards. Handwritten letters (extra bonus points if you actually mail them!). Song lyrics and poetry. If it's loving and in written word form, they will feel totally adored.

Keep reading for some words of affirmation date ideas.

1. Record Video Before a Date

How cute is this? Right before you're headed out on a date, shoot a video about how excited you are to go on it and send it to your significant other. It's sweet, unexpected, and probably something that they've never received before.

2. An Open Mic

As a shoutout to the classic film Love Jones, there's no better way to impress the object of your affection than to share some original poetry or sing a song and dedicate it to them. If you're shy, you'll still earn points for taking them to a place where words flow in abundance (especially if they're the "ooh baby" kind).

3. Have a Cards Night

If you feel like being low-key and staying in, host a cards night—with a twist. Purchase a box of cards that are loaded with questions that you can ask each other. Or, if money's tight, go to your favorite search engine and put "questions to ask on a date" in the search field. You'll be amazed how much you can learn, simply by asking the right kind of questions.

Love Language: Quality Time Date Ideas

Cue in High-Five's "Quality Time" jam right here. A person with a primary love language of quality time wants your undivided attention. They are content strolling through the neighborhood hand-in-hand or binge-watching television shows on the couch, as long as your phone is off and you're totally focused on them.

Keep reading for some quality time date ideas.

1. Go on a “Favorite Things” Date

If you're trying to come up with a unique idea, send a text earlier in the week asking your partner to list some of their favorite things (favorite bar, favorite restaurant, favorite park, etc.). Then, when it comes time to go on the actual date, have it consist of one of the favorite places you like to go and one of the favorite things they enjoy too.

2. Do Something for the First Time—Together

Have neither of you gone ziplining before? How about eating Ethiopian food or taking a cooking class? Create a memory that you'll never forget by doing these first time things together. It's a great way to spend time together and, by trying something new, grow as an individual too.

3. Plan a Road Trip

If you're just getting to know each other, spend some quality time by getting a map of your hometown and playing "tourist for a day". If you've known each other for a while, plan a road trip. After all, nothing says "quality time" quite like riding in a car with someone for hours.

Love Language: Acts of Service Date Ideas

If there is a "practical love language", acts of service would probably it. Getting your significant other's car detailed while they're at work, helping them clean up whenever you're at their house, running an errand for them when you know their schedule is tight—basically, if you are proactive in doing things that will make their life easier, they will feel loved by you.

Keep reading for some acts of service date ideas.

1. Plan Something Community Service/Philanthropy Based

There's something super dope about people who enjoy giving back to others, especially if they are doing it together. If the both of you have a passion for philanthropic efforts, reach out to local churches or non-profit organizations to see if they have any upcoming projects that could use some volunteers.

2. Learn to Do Something the Other Likes

One of the best ways to get to know about your partner is to ask them what they like (and don't like) to do. Say that they love to ice skate but it's something that you aren't the fondest of. It can be a real act of service by going with them to the rink simply because it makes your significant other happy. (If they're an acts of service person, they'll take special note of it too.)

3. Do a DIY Project Together

Chances are, there's a project that both of you need to get done but you either haven't had the time or you need some extra hands to make it happen. Help one another out by ordering a pizza and a bottle of wine and knocking out the projects together. Not only does it show an act of selflessness but it's a good way to get to see how you both handle problem-solving issues as well.

Love Language: Physical Touch Date Ideas

Although some people automatically take physical touch to mean sex, they shouldn't. After all, who doesn't like sex, regardless of what their love language is? This love language is more about the kind of closeness and comfort that physical touch in all forms conveys.

Holding hands, cuddling, kisses on the forehand, faces being held before a smooch on the lips—even a body part like a leg or arm being draped over another while hanging out or a caress during a conversation. All of these things are extra-special to someone with this love language.

Keep reading for some physical touch date ideas.

1. Try a Couples Massage

Whether you both decide to go to a local spa or you decide to, pardon the pun, take matters into your own hands, it's an awesome date to have a couples massage. It's soothing and relaxing and a great way to learn where each other likes to be touched most.

If you'd prefer to DIY at home, click here for some massage tips and here for several DIY massage oil recipes.

2. Take a Reflexology Class

Basically, all of your nerves are connected to your feet. That's why it can only work in your favor to learn reflexology. It relieves pain, improves moods, makes it easier to sleep soundly and de-stresses your body too. If you don't want to take your partner to an actual spa for a reflexology session, there are online courses that you can take. Some for as little as $150 for a 14-hour study course.

3. Go Dancing

If you want to do something that's a lot of fun and really good for you, go dancing! For starters, it burns calories, reduces stress, and builds muscle tone. If you've just started dating, it's also one of the best ways to get some physical touching in without getting too, well, touchy. Go to a club and freestyle your steps or sign up for a salsa, tango, or even ballroom dancing course.

Love Language: Gifts Date Ideas

Contrary to popular belief, having gifts as your love language doesn't make someone materialistic or a gold-digger. It simply means this kind of person prefers tangible expressions of love. Souvenirs from trips, small tokens of affection, handmade presents—something they can hold in their hands and look at years later are what fall into this particular category.

Keep reading for some gifts date ideas.

1. Go to a Place Where You Can Make Items

If your significant other is into gifts, surprise them by taking them to a place where you both can make practical items that are also romantic. Most cities have places where you can make anything from art and candles to jewelry and soap.

2. Collect Souvenirs from Each Date

Something that's super cute and sweet is to create the tradition of getting a souvenir from every date you go on. If it's a restaurant, see if they have a t-shirt or shot glasses for sale. If it's a movie, ask management if they have posters of the movie you just saw that you can buy.

3. Observe “Random” Holidays/Special Days

Who said you had to wait until birthdays or the holiday season to exchange presents? If you both love donuts, get each other a dozen for National Donut Day. If hard candy is more your thing, mail a package of your partner's favorite childhood candies in time for National Hard Candy Day. Or, if you want to go the more sentimental route, celebrate your first date, first kiss, or your first six months together with a token of your love and heartfelt appreciation.

Just the fact that you remembered and werevthoughtful enough to get something at all will earn you major dating points! (By the way, you can learn more about national days of observance by checking out National Day Calendar.)