Everything That Has Happened In Rachel Lindsay And Bryan Abasolo's Divorce...So Far

Rachel Lindsay Says She Learned About Bryan’s Divorce Filing Through Text  

In June, five months after Abasolo filed for divorce, Lindsay responded with a declaration. Court documents obtained by People Magazine reveal that The Higher Learning host was notified about the divorce through text 30 minutes after Abasolo left their shared home.

The message read: "Hey ... I just wanted to let you know that I officially filed." Lindsay reportedly replied, "Wait, what?" and immediately turned off her shared location settings. The documents allege that both parties were aware of their dissolving marriage and had agreed to handle the divorce filing discreetly. However, this changed when Abasolo filed earlier this year and released a public statement on social media.

In her declaration, Lindsay also claimed that Abasolo refused to settle the matter quickly and amicably in court. Weeks later, Abasolo responded in new court documents, refuting claims that he blindsided her. The chiropractor shared text messages indicating he wanted to discuss legal matters with mediators due to communication issues between the pair.“

Rachel, walking in to the room because I didn’t reply to your text per your timeline then raise your voice for not getting the immediate answer you want is the kind of one-sided controlling aspects of our relationship which has brought us to this point. My inability to communicate, as you’ve called it, is to prevent these kinds of reactions. It often feels like you must have what you want without considering any state of mind I’m in," he wrote. "I’m sorry for not replying to your text but honestly, I don’t really want to be on the receiving end of your wordsmithing anymore. I don’t want to be here any longer than I have to. I want to regain some aspect of my self-respect back."

Abasolo concluded his message, stating: "Please, let’s keep future communications in writing (written down on paper, email, text) to prevent any additional friction as we move to the next step. We can speak in the future in the presence of a neutral party or something. Right now, I just can’t do it. I haven’t been able to for a while. Respectfully. Good night.”

Rachel And Bryan Didn’t Sign A Prenup

Amidst the turmoil of their split, Lindsay disclosed on the Hidden Gems podcast with Natasha Parker that she and Abasolo didn't have a prenuptial agreement. The 39-year-old explained that they opted against a prenup because the former couple was in a different financial situation when they got married.

“A lot of people are like, ‘You’re a lawyer. … Do you have a prenup?’ I don’t,” she said. “The reason I didn’t is because the place I’m in now … financially … is totally different than when I got married. We were more leveled, and I wasn’t in California.”

Later, Lindsay revealed that after meeting Abasolo on The Bachelorette and getting engaged, they discussed a prenup to protect their assets. However, the media personality decided not to pursue it further when she realized they weren't on the same page about the issue.

“I didn’t want it to be a bigger issue, so we didn’t have one,” she added. “Hindsight is 20/20. I would’ve done it.”

Bryan Is Asking For Over $16K In Spousal Support

In July, court documents obtained by TMZ revealed that Abasolo was requesting $16,275 a month in spousal support from Lindsay. While Lindsay initially offered $9,882 monthly, Abasolo claimed this amount was insufficient to maintain his lifestyle, even with his chiropractor business covering expenses such as car insurance, food, and entertainment.

At this time, it is unclear if Abasolo's request has been approved.

Rachel Lindsay On When She Knew It  Was Time To Divorce

As news of Abasolo's spousal support request circulated online, Lindsay discussed the moment she realized her relationship with her ex was officially over in an interview with Scott Evans.

"I think I read this somewhere, I'm not sure, but by the time women decide they want a divorce, they're done [and] I was done," she said."Doesn't mean it wasn't hard or a re-adjustment. It's still a struggle daily, but emotionally, I felt I was very sure this was what I wanted to do."

In the same discussion, the attorney expressed that despite her divorce, she remains open to dating and embraces her journey as a single person.

"My dating life right now is for fun,” she stated. “I would have to be swept off my feet to really be like, ‘Oh, he's the one.' I'm trying to have fun and have a roster."

Lindsay described her ideal partner as loyal, adventurous, charming, ambitious, and understanding. The Real Love author also shared that therapy helped her recognize a pattern in her past relationships: she often dated men for their potential rather than their present reality. Lindsay expressed she is committed to changing this approach in future relationships.

Given the recent developments, Lindsay and Abasolo's divorce proceedings remain ongoing and unresolved.

Rachel Lindsay Is Ordered To Pay More Than $13K In Spousal Support

According to recent court documents, Rachel was ordered to pay Bryan $13,257 a month in temporary spousal support after he was requesting more than $16k a month. She also has to cover his legal fees, which are $15k. Their next court date is scheduled for September 23rd.

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