Listen, I know we all say that Black doesn't crack. Still, that doesn't mean we shouldn't be proactive about maintaining our melanin on a regular basis. Personally, the older that I get, the more interested I've become in oils that come with a myriad of all-natural beauty benefits. And while sweet almond, grapeseed, avocado and rosemary are my personal faves, something that has been piquing my interest more and more is amla oil.
If you're not familiar, amla is another name for Indian Gooseberry which is a fruit that's super rich in vitamins C (antioxidants) and E (moisturizer and healer), tannins (which are astringents) and phytochemicals (which reduce the signs of aging). This combination is causing amla to become another top-tier oil for a myriad of reasons. So, let's take out a moment to explore just a few of them, so that you can treat yourself to some amla oil in the very near future.
How Amla Benefits Your Hair
It strengthens hair. When our hair is dry and brittle, that eventually leads to breakage. Thanks to the Vitamin E that's in amla oil, your hair can remain moisturized in between wash days. This is good to know during the colder seasons when sometimes hard winds and dips in humidity tend to take a real toll on your hair's cuticles and weaken them over time.
It slows aging down. As we get older, our hair ages like anything else. A sign of this is definitely going grey. This is another benefit that comes with alma oil. Because it has off-the-charts levels of Vitamin C and phytochemicals and those help to nourish hair follicles and prevent premature greying, this is another reason why you might want to give it a shot if you're starting to notice a white strand or two popping up (check out "This Is How To Naturally Treat Premature Greying" for other tips on this as well).
It's great for your scalp. If something that you struggle with is either dry scalp or scalp inflammation, this is just one more reason why amla oil can be really good for you. For one thing, it's got anti-inflammatory properties that can help to bring your scalp some real relief. Another thing that's cool about amla oil is it's able to regulate how much sebum your scalp produces. As a bonus, the tannins in amla have astringent compounds in them that can help to keep dandruff at bay too.
Amla Oil Hair Hack: If you've never pre-pooed before, it's basically a process that consists of applying oil to your hair before shampooing it in order to make your hair easier to detangle while preventing your shampoo from removing some of the natural oils that your hair needs in order to remain soft and moisturized after cleansing it. Using amla as your pre-poo is awesome. Just apply it to your unwashed damp hair, let it sit for 10-15 minutes, and then shampoo and condition as usual. You should notice immediate results by doing this.
How Amla Benefits Your Skin
It contains anti-aging properties. As we age, our bodies produce less collagen which can lead to sagging skin along with fine lines and wrinkles. The antioxidants and phytochemicals in amla are amazing at stimulating the production of collagen so that your skin remains youthful looking for a longer period of time. Also, since Vitamin C is able to reduce hyperpigmentation as it protects skin from UV damage, you can be confident that amla is working to be a "shield" for your skin, every time that you use it.
It exfoliates. Something else that Vitamin C has in it is ascorbic acid. This is great to know because it can help to remove old and dead cells from your skin so that your skin appears healthier and more radiant-looking. Skin is definitely better off when you exfoliate it 2-3 times per week.
It deep conditions. If your skin has a rough texture, it itches or, when you pinch your skin (like your cheek or the back of your hand), it doesn't snap right back, these are signs of dry skin and possible dehydration. Amla oil is great for this as well because it contains highly hydrating properties.
Amla Oil Skin Hack: One of the best ways to apply amla oil to your skin is to use it as a "sealant" after you get out of the shower (check out "How To Turn Your Showers Into A Tranquil DIY Spa") or bath (check out "Did You Know There's A Right & A Wrong Way To Take A Bath?"). That way, the oil can deeply penetrate and provide you with benefits for hours on end.
How Amla Benefits Your Nails
It softens your cuticles. I don't know about you, but I absolutely loathe hangnails. Well, did you know that one of the main causes of them is dry skin around your cuticles? By rubbing some amla oil directly onto your cuticles, no less than three times a week, you are helping to soften and seal your cuticles so that your cuticles don't peel and hangnails don't occur.
It has antifungal properties. If for whatever reason, your nails are prone to fungal infections, some more good news about amla oil is it's got potent compounds that help to reduce bacterial, viral, and fungal infections. I've even read that some people use it as a supplemental remedy for yeast infections.
It helps them grow. When nails are well-hydrated and there are no infections around or in them, of course, they are able to flourish. By mixing amla with myrrh oil (which also deeply moisturizes cuticles and strengthens the nail bed), you are well on your way to having long, stronger, and healthier nails, no doubt.
Amla Oil Nail Hack: If you're someone who gets your nails professionally done, make sure to apply a few drops of amla oil to your nails and cuticles before your appointment. Again, it will help to soften your cuticles while also protecting your nails, especially if your appointments consist of drilling, filing, or applying nail tips or gel polish.
How to Find the Best Amla Oil for You
If all of this just gassed you up to get a bottle of amla oil, quick, fast and in a super hurry, just keep in mind that not all amlas are created equal. Make sure that whatever brand you go with is free of synthetic fragrances and preservatives and that if you decide to buy it online you go with a brand that comes highly reviewed. Oh, and if the oil happens to be mixed with other oils (which is semi-common), settle for nothing less than the kinds that are organic and cold-pressed.
If you're so new to amla oil that you'd like some assistance in selecting a brand that is just right for you, the site Beautified Designs published a list of 15 different ones. You can check it out here. Here's to a fall season of unbelievably soft and radiant hair, skin, and nails, sis. Enjoy!
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It's kinda wild that, in 2025, my byline will have appeared on this platform for (what?!) seven years. And yeah, when I'm not waxing poetic on here about sex, relationships and then...more sex and relationships, I am working as a certified marriage life coach, helping to birth babies (as a doula) or penning for other places (oftentimes under pen names).
As some of you know, something that I've been "threatening" to do for a few years now is write another book. Welp, October 2024 was the month that I "gave birth" to my third one: 'Inside of Me 2.0: My Story. With a 20-Year Lens'. It's fitting considering I hit a milestone during the same year.
Beyond that, Pumas and lip gloss are still my faves along with sweatshirts and tees that have a pro-Black message on them. I've also started really getting into big ass unique handbags and I'm always gonna have a signature scent that ain't nobody's business but my own.
As far as where to find me, I continue to be MIA on the social media front and I honestly don't know if that will ever change. Still, if you need to hit me up about something *that has nothing to do with pitching on the site (I'm gonna start ignoring those emails because...boundaries)*, hit me up at missnosipho@gmail.com. I'll do what I can. ;)
Reset Your Relationship: How To Start 2025 Strong With Your Partner
As the calendar turns and a new year unfolds, many of us are laser-focused on our career goals, fitness resolutions, and vision boards that outline the journey to our best selves. But amidst all the planning and self-improvement, have you made room for another important part of your life? Your relationship.
It's easy for couples to fall into a routine, going through the motions and letting their connection sit on autopilot. While comfort is natural in a long-term relationship, it’s important to remember: that what you don’t nurture, eventually fades. So, why not make 2025 the year you reset your relationship? Here’s how to start the year with a renewed bond, reigniting the spark that brought you together.
Step 1: Schedule Your Reset Meeting
The first step to hitting the reset button is a State of the Union meeting with your partner. This is your chance to take a pulse on the relationship, discuss what's working, and identify areas that need attention. It’s all about creating space to reflect, without distractions.
Grab a pen and paper (or open a shared note on your phone) and come prepared to share your top 2-3 desires for your relationship.
What do you both want to feel more of in 2025? Maybe it’s feeling more appreciated, or perhaps you want to reignite the passion you had when you first started dating. Whatever it is, get clear about it, and make sure both of you are on the same page.
This isn’t just about listing your own wants, it’s also about discussing ways to nurture each other’s needs. Relationship goals should be focused on fostering deeper intimacy, trust, and mutual respect. Use this time to check in, not only with each other but with your individual feelings and expectations. Set the foundation for a fulfilling year ahead.
Step 2: Set A Date (Or Multiple!)
Having the meeting is only the first step. Now, it’s time to take action. One of the simplest ways to breathe new life into a relationship is by reintroducing consistent, intentional time spent together. For many couples, life gets busy, and date nights fall by the wayside. But dating doesn’t stop when you say "I do"—in fact, it’s even more essential.
During your reset meeting, lock in a regular date night that works for both of your schedules. This could be a weekly dinner date or an every-other-week adventure—whatever keeps things fresh. The goal is consistency. It’s easy to push date nights aside when life gets hectic, but if you set a specific date each week or month, you’re making your relationship a priority.
If you’re unsure what to do for your date nights, don’t worry! The key is creating new experiences together. This is what sparks excitement and brings you closer as a couple. Whether it’s cooking a new recipe together, trying a dance class, or exploring a nearby town, it’s about creating shared memories that build your connection.
Step 3: Find an Accountability Partner
Just like you might have a personal trainer to help you crush your fitness goals, an accountability partner for your relationship can do wonders for keeping both of you on track. Consider hiring a marriage coach or therapist—someone who can meet you where you are and guide you in strengthening your relationship.
When selecting a professional, it’s important to choose someone who truly wants the best for your marriage and can provide actionable advice.
Don’t be afraid to set high standards for your relationship, and seek guidance on how to keep it thriving for the long haul. In your reset meeting, discuss your commitment to growth, and be honest about areas where you may need support.
Marriage isn’t a set-it-and-forget-it endeavor—it’s an ongoing process. Regular check-ins with a professional can help keep your relationship in tip-top shape and “divorce-proof” by addressing issues before they become insurmountable.
Step 4: Try Something New Together
Stale routines can easily make a relationship feel monotonous. Spice things up by trying something new! Couples that explore new activities and create new memories together have stronger, more fulfilling bonds.
My husband and I host one of the top luxury marriage retreats, A Weekend For Love, designed to help couples experience new things together. From couples' workshops to outdoor adventures, the retreat provides a platform to rediscover each other and reconnect on a deeper level.
The element of surprise can reignite your connection. It’s exciting, fresh, and shows your partner that you’re committed to growing together. This doesn’t have to be a huge commitment—it could be as simple as trying a new hobby or planning an impromptu weekend getaway.
Your Relationship Should Be A Priority
As you start the year with personal goals in mind, don’t forget the importance of nurturing your relationship. It’s easy to get caught up in work, fitness, and family obligations, but your bond with your partner deserves to be at the top of your list. Resetting your relationship offers an opportunity to reignite that spark and remind each other why you fell in love in the first place.
In 2025, make a commitment to prioritize your partnership, to nurture it daily, and to invest in its growth. Take time to celebrate each other’s victories, support one another’s dreams, and build a foundation of love and respect. When you start the year with a clear focus on your relationship, you’re setting it up for success.
So, before you start mapping out your new workout plan or work goals, do yourself a favor: put your relationship at the top of that list. Your love story deserves a fresh start, too.
Happy New Year, and here’s to a love-filled 2025!
Couples, if you are ready to do the work and invest in your relationship register for A Weekend For Love: Heart Retreat Feb 21-23, 2025.
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WNBA star Angel Reese stuns on and off the court, and now she’s spilling her beauty and skincare secrets with us. The 22-year-old gave some insight into her beauty and skincare routine while speaking to Vogue, including her game day routine.
“My grandma used to always put mascara on my eyes when I was younger, and I used to go on the basketball court; that’s how I got the name 'Bayou Barbie' ‘cause I always had my nails, lashes, hair done,” she explained.
Below, Angel shares the skincare products that make her skin glow and her go-to makeup looks.
Check out her routines below.
Skincare
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Angel starts with La Roche-Posay Hydrating Gentle Cleanser. “I love skincare. Makes me feel good, makes me feel cleanse, especially after a long day because I’m always on the go,” she said. “I play sports, so my face is always drenched with sweat, and I always gotta keep it clean.”
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Angel uses two moisturizers. She uses Fenty Skin Hydra Vizor Invisible Moisturizer SPF 30 first and follows it up with Cetaphil Soothing Gel Cream with Aloe.
"You have to use the thinnest layer and then the thickest layer," she said. "I learned these tips because one time I posted a skincare routine and they were like, you need to run that back. And they taught me you need to do thin then thick and then I could see the complete difference with my skin."
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She keeps Laniege Lip Balm with her at all times, including during games.
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One-Size Setting Spray is her go-to for keeping her makeup fresh on the court. “I usually spray my beauty blender with my setting spray,” she said. “People usually wet the beauty blender under the water, but why not set it with this.”
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She rounds out her beauty routine with mascara, brows, and her lip combo using Rare Beauty Kind Words Lip Liner and Covergirl Clean Fresh Yummy Gloss. But before closing, she made sure to give flowers to the WNBA stars before her who were also known for getting glammed on and off the court.
“I gotta give kudos to the girls who were wearing makeup before. Lisa Leslie, Skylar Diggins, Candace Parker. Everybody already had their edges and their lashes, lipstick on," she said. "Tina Thompson; she used to wear a full red lip on her lips during the game, but that’s something I could probably never do.”
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