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We all have people in our lives that we love and cherish, but a lot of times, some of those people can bring negative energy into your space. You don’t necessarily want to cut them off and so you are forced to love them from a distance. While that may be hard, you have to do what’s best for you, right? That’s something that Alicia Keys had to learn as she got older.


The “Diary” singer is known for her laidback demeanor and positive vibes and she likes the people around her to be on that same wave. Mental wellness is important to her and she shared with InStyle what she’s learned since she’s been on that journey.

"One of the things that I've learned lately that has been resonating with me is monitoring the energy that you allow in your space," she said. "There are a lot of people that we love, people that we've known for years, family members, that we feel obligated to be with and talk to and entertain. And sometimes their energy or their frequency is just not matching yours and not bringing yours up.”

“Even though that's quite hard — trust me, I know — I think that that's something I really, really came to terms with this year. Make sure that the people that are around you bring your energy up, and that's it,” she said.

Alicia recently celebrated her 41st birthday with her husband Swizz Beatz and the mega-producer shared snippets on Instagram of Alicia celebrating in a big way. They never mentioned where they were, but the videos showed the couple on a private jet and then partying all night in a club.

Alicia and Swizz always serve couple goals on social media as they both seem to have one thing in common: they enjoy living life. The singer also highlighted the importance of taking time to experience life and how it plays a major role in your mental health.

"This idea of being able to put yourself first is another part of well-being — making sure that you are okay, making sure that you are mentally stable, making sure that you feel good in your heart and your spirit," she explained.

"I think there are many of us that feel like we're not allowed to or we're not supposed to — like this idea that suffering is a part of life. And surely there are ups and downs for everyone, but there's also the idea that we deserve to be well. It's important to learn how to do that."

Alicia definitely exemplifies that. Being a mother of two and a celebrated, award-winning musician, Alicia continues to be an example of having it all.

"The gift of life is something we can all continue conversations about," she said.

"How are we making the most of our lives? And feeling good and having fun? Because man, life is so short. You can't be stressed the whole time because then it's done."

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