

Television plays an important part in how we see ourselves. We love to feel seen through our favorite characters and we hold them near and dear to our hearts, but we don't often stop to consider how WHERE we're feeling "seen" on TV impacts us.
Thanks to the debut of the Robin Thede-created and Issa Rae-produced A Black Lady Sketch Show (and other contemporary television shows with Black leading ladies), we are receiving some much-needed representation for Black women and girls outside of the reality TV realm. The sketch comedy show, written by a team of Black women, takes an if-you-know-you-know approach to comedy by refusing to explain jokes for an audience that the jokes weren't intended for. In starring roles, Robin Thede (who also writes and produces the show), Quinta Brunson, Ashley Nicole Black, and Gabrielle Dennis take the lead week-to-week in various skits.
The hit series is also packed with cameos from some of the biggest Black actresses in the world (like Angela Bassett, Laverne Cox, Kelly Rowland, and Nicole Byer), displaying a type of silly humor we aren't used to seeing from them. And as of this week, A Black Lady Sketch Show has been renewed for a second season by HBO! What makes the show's existence even more refreshing is that for a while there was quite the black-girl drought on scripted television series.
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From a young age, I was able to turn on my TV and immediately feel represented due to shows like That's So Raven, Moesha, and Sister, Sister. These shows featured regular Black girls being just that - regular Black girls. The shows didn't center around race, and the characters portrayed weren't based in racist stereotypes. It was a great time to be a little Black girl in her formative years, but as I became a teenager, shows like these all but disappeared from the small screen.
Gone were the days of flipping through channels and seeing Black girls who both looked and acted like me. Gone were the days of seeing Black girls living normal teenage lives with their Black friends having a good Black-ass time.
Gradually, we were being shifted into a new era of television; one where the only place I could find Black women on TV was reality TV. While Black women like Tiffany Pollard are ICONIC in their own right, for an impressionable teenage Black girl to only be able to see herself on TV in "real" characters like Natalie Nunn and Tiffany Pollard was detrimental.
Around the time of this black-girl drought, I was attending a mostly white middle school in an even whiter program. They regularly conflated me with the stereotypes of Black women they were seeing on TV. They told me I reminded them of New York (because what other negresses have we seen?) They decided they'd call me "Shaniqua" instead of my actual name, and they regularly treated me like I was scary and aggressive.
While I knew who I was at my core, being around white people all the time and also not being able to see healthy black girl representation on TV took a toll on my teenage psyche.
A Black Lady Sketch Show is shifting the narrative around black womanhood and what we are capable of creating.
Aside from being outstandingly well-done, it shows little black girls that we don't have to be confined to whatever box non-black show creators put us in. We can create our own shows, and take back the narrative of what black womanhood looks like. Black womanhood can look like my personal favorite sketch from the premier, Hertep, or it can look like Bad Bitches who need a Bad Bitch Support Group!
The existence of this show means we finally get to display as many facets as we actually have.
It means expanded opportunities for other black creators to get their shot. We deserve choices the same way white people have choices in what type of content they'd like to consume. We should have never been banished to The Land of Reality Television, and it is amazing to see Black women taking it upon themselves to make sure that never happens again.
Black women deserve to be able to watch reality TV, scripted series, sketch shows and everything in between and see themselves accurately represented. As Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie says, "The single story creates stereotypes, and the problem with stereotypes is not that they are untrue, but that they are incomplete. They make one story become the only story."
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'He Said, She Said': Love Stories Put To The Test At A Weekend For Love
At the A Weekend For Love retreat, we sat down with four couples to explore their love stories in a playful but revealing way with #HeSaidSheSaid. From first encounters to life-changing moments, we tested their memories to see if their versions of events aligned—because, as they say, every story has three sides: his, hers, and the truth.
Do these couples remember their love stories the same way? Press play to find out.
Episode 1: Indira & Desmond – Love Across the Miles
They say distance makes the heart grow fonder, but for Indira & Desmond, love made it stronger. Every mile apart deepened their bond, reinforcing the unshakable foundation of their relationship. From their first "I love you" to the moment they knew they had found home in each other, their journey is a beautiful testament to the endurance of true love.
Episode 2: Jay & Tia – A Love Story Straight Out of a Rom-Com
If Hollywood is looking for its next Black love story, they need to take notes from Jay & Tia. Their journey—from an awkward first date to navigating careers, parenthood, and personal growth—proves that love is not just about romance but also resilience. Their story is full of laughter, challenges, and, most importantly, a love that stands the test of time.
Episode 3: Larencia & Mykel – Through the Highs and Lows
A date night with police helicopters overhead? Now that’s a story! Larencia & Mykel have faced unexpected surprises, major life changes, and 14 years of choosing each other every single day. But after all this time, do they actually remember things the same way? Their episode is sure to bring some eye-opening revelations and a lot of laughs.
Episode 4: Soy & Osei – A Love Aligned in Purpose
From a chance meeting at the front door to 15 years of unwavering love, faith, and growth, Soy & Osei prove that when two souls are aligned in love and purpose, nothing can shake their foundation. Their journey is a powerful reminder that true love is built on mutual support, shared values, and a deep connection that only strengthens with time.
Each of these couples has a unique and inspiring story to tell, but do their memories match up? Watch #HeSaidSheSaid to find out!
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How Power Women Protect Their Finances With Smart Money Boundaries
No matter what it is, setting boundaries can be challenging, especially when those boundaries involve money. But if you want to sustain success and financial freedom, boundaries are important, both with yourself and with others.
Many wealthy successful women have mastered setting boundaries and prioritizing accountability so that they can ensure they remain that way. Let's face it: If you want a certain quality of life and you work hard to achieve that, you don't want to risk it by taking on habits that jeopardize your financial stability.
Be inspired to not only set money boundaries but keep them by taking heed to the common financial boundaries power women of today establish:
1. They pay themselves first.
Building consistent savings habits is important to wealth-building no matter how much you earn, and the practice is often one that continues even after you're well-booked and well-paid. Actress, producer, and philanthropist Queen Latifah has always been a proponent of this after learning from her mom to "save your money."
This is the epitome of the energy behind paying yourself first. You squirrel something away and take care of yourself by taking care of your future first, before paying any bills. You invest in yourself (within your means and with a budget in mind, of course).
2. They don't loan money without clear repayment rules and expectations are agreed upon.
It's awesome to be able to help people out by loaning them money, but when you don't communicate clearly about repayment (or what will happen if the money is not repaid) you set yourself up for a cycle of taking on other's debts and maybe even building more debt of your own.
Unless you're doing charity, set those boundaries early about when and how a loan will be repaid. And if you know you won't get the money back, rethink the loan altogether.
3. They create budgets that are realistic and reflect their current lifestyle.
In her book, What I Know for Sure, Oprah Winfrey wrote, “I hope the way you spend your money is in line with the truth of who you are and what you care about.” This is key for many successful women, especially when they're budgeting and investing.
Issa Rae told Money.com, "I don’t splurge just because. I will never have 17 cars. I will never have expensive jewelry. I don’t spend that much on my clothes, or shoes. I will spend money on a stylist, and a makeup artist, because those things feel necessary for work. But material things? No."
There's a clear indication that there are clear value systems sustained by what matters to them no matter how much they make, and budgeting is a huge part of that.
4. They consider the long-term effects of a rash purchase before proceeding.
It's totally okay to treat yourself, but if you find yourself impulsively buying things you don't really need or always living check to check because you've maxed out your credit card to take that sixth trip in one year, there's a problem that might put a damper on those financial freedom plans. (That is unless your trip is part of how you make your money, and it's a worthy investment into expanding your prospects.)
Successful women are conscious of the long- and short-term effects of purchases, small and large. They're always thinking about how one action can impact the bigger picture.
5. They are givers and believe in the reciprocity of that.
Many of us are familiar with the famous quote, "To whom much is given, must is required," and there's that undertone of service and charity that is a common thread for wealthy, successful women, especially those who run businesses or lead brands. Involving yourself in acts of service not only enriches your development and that of communities, but it increases your exposure, network, and credibility, often leading to more opportunities to make more money.
Most leading CEOs, entrepreneurs, and professionals are big on giving back, whether it is through resources, a nonprofit, money, or their time. "As you become more successful, it's important for you to give back. Even if you can't financially give back, kind words and sharing about other businesses on social media mean so much. Every little thing counts. Help out your friends and family with advice, encouragement, and support," said Angela Yee, award-winning radio host and entrepreneur.
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Originally published on August 16, 2024