5 Things You Might Be Doing Wrong Before And After A Brazilian Wax
This post is in partnership with European Wax Center®
If you get Brazilian waxes regularly, chances are you are accustomed to the process. That means you know exactly when to take a deep breath right before each strip is removed (I know, the pain is quick but real) and you also know how much time it'll be before you're due for another session. You've probably got a good rapport with your waxer and, if you're like me, love to chat it up every time you see her. But no matter how experienced you are with the process, there might be a few missteps you're making before and after every session.
Here are some common faux pas you could be making when it comes to getting a Brazilian, and how to do better for your next session.
1) Drinking Coffee or Alcohol Before Your Appointment
You might not have known this, but sipping on any kind of stimulant before your wax can and will make the process more uncomfortable. Coffee, energy drinks, and alcohol can cause the pores on your skin to tighten...and not to mention, it makes you more anxious. So next time, schedule your coffee date or happy hour meet-up for after your wax appointment. You'll notice the difference!
2) You're Wearing The Wrong Underwear!
After a wax, it's crucial to make sure you're wearing the right undergarments, especially if you'll be out and about afterward. Cotton underwear is best to wear post-wax since it's a natural and breathable fabric. Many of the underwear you might have in your drawer that you think is 100% cotton may surprisingly have a blend of other synthetic fabrics that could irritate freshly-waxed skin. So be sure you pick out a pair of undies that fits the bill before heading to your session. You could also go commando while wearing a light, breathable outfit like a maxi dress!
3) You're Having Sex Right After Your Wax
I know, I know. This one's a tough one to accept since the only thing that comes close to feeling rejuvenated by a fresh wax is showing it off to your boo. But unfortunately, having sex right after a Brazilian wax will do more harm than good. "Sex right after a wax is going to cause you to sweat and open you up to bacteria getting into your freshly waxed pores," says European Wax Center's senior manager of field training Deidra Green. "So we just recommend that you would wait at least 24 hours. Now, we all know that there are people out there who are going to test that. So my advice is if you're going to participate in these activities, make sure that you are able to shower immediately after, and that you're using something like our ingrown hair serum or the ingrown hair wipes immediately afterward to lessen the chances of a breakout."
4) You're Not Exfoliating Enough
A freshly waxed bikini area is a wonderful thing, but like anything else, you have to maintain it. Using a quality exfoliating product in between waxes does wonders for keeping dead skin cells at bay and the skin on your pubic area smooth and supple. European Wax Center also offers some exfoliating products that work double-time by also slowing down the growth of the hair. If you're a veteran with Brazilian waxing and exfoliation isn't already a part of your routine, shop some of the brand's gentle yet effective exfoliants that will help maintain and prepare your skin pre-wax.
5) You're Waiting Too Long In Between Waxes
Contrary to popular belief, waxing isn't supposed to be excruciatingly painful. So if it is, it might mean you need to up the frequency of your wax sessions. European Wax Center's expert and corporate field trainer Stacie Harding says "your first wax will be uncomfortable, however maintaining a consistent waxing regimen of every 3-4 weeks will ensure that each experience is more tolerable." So if you're going 4 weeks in between waxes and find yourself wanting to tap out after every strip, talk to your waxer about coming every 3 weeks instead.
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A Cosmic Guide To Love In 2025: What The Stars Have In Store For Your Heart
The most important lesson we are learning about love in 2025 is change. Many major Astrological transits are happening this year, and these will last for years to come. As we walk through this new year, we are being asked to let go of the things we can’t control, and give more grace to the things we can. This is a year of a new perspective on love, finding gratitude in the little things, and watching as the universe supports us and the dreams we build for ourselves here.
At the beginning of the year, we are being shown how significant 2025 will be for love. From March 1, 2025, until April 12, 2025, Venus, the planet of love and relationships, will be retrograde. Venus goes retrograde approximately every 18 months and hasn’t been retrograde since the Summer of 2023. With love taking a step back at the beginning of the year, we move through a time of understanding the emotional world better and letting go of trying to control outcomes here.
What Does 2025 Have in Store for Love?
It’s time to refocus your relationship priorities overall, and with this retrograde happening in both Aries and Pisces, Aries being the first sign of the zodiac and Pisces being the last; there is a chapter we are closing and a new one we are walking into.
Another significant factor that is influencing relationships this year, is Jupiter’s entry into Cancer. Jupiter brings blessings, abundance, luck, and expansion, and in water sign Cancer, brings these gifts to your emotions. Cancer rules emotional safety, foundations, close loved ones, family, support, and emotional well-being, and with Jupiter in this sign from June 9, 2025, until June 30, 2026, we experience blessings in stability within love. This is a good year for building stronger foundations in love, aligning with those who are loyal and supportive, knowing what you need emotionally, and being a lot clearer on it.
Letting Go of the Past: The Astrological Theme of 2025
Overall, the guideline for the year when it comes to love is to focus on the bigger picture and let things work themselves out without forcing them to. Magic will come in for you this year when you can assess your needs and wants, let go of illusions or smoke and mirrors, and focus on the things you want for yourself rather than what you don’t. Your focus and beliefs on love are the priority right now, and things will be coming full circle for the better.
Read below to see your personal 2025 love forecast. Read for your sun, moon, and rising signs.
What Does Your Zodiac Sign Say About Your 2025 Love Life?
ARIES
2025 is one of the more significant years for you, Aries. A lot of the major transits are happening in your sign, which includes Venus retrograde in Aries at the beginning of the year, Neptune in Aries from March 2025 until 2039, and Saturn in Aries from May 2025 until 2028. Not to mention, Chiron, the wounded healer is currently in your sign until 2027.
What this means for you when it comes to love, is that you have learned a lot about where you want to be here, and it’s the year to implement more of these tools and knowledge of the heart.
This year for love is about honoring your integrity and what you need personally to thrive in life and creating that space to let it in. You need someone who will be there for you through whatever you are experiencing in life and not someone who adds to these challenges. This year is a time of rising above, and choosing better for yourself.
TAURUS
2025 for you when it comes to love, is all about perspective and taking better care of your heart, Taurus. Uranus, the planet of change, rebellion, progress, and upheaval, has been in your sign since 2019, and this year you get a break from all of the surprises. From Jul. 7, 2025, until Nov. 7, 2025, Uranus leaves your sign and enters Gemini, giving your mind and your heart some time to breathe.
This year you are being given the opportunity to see things for what they are, rather than what you fear them to be. You are able to see your relationship dynamics clearer, allowing you to feel more confident in what you are building and creating for yourself in this area of your life. What you are working on this year is letting go of overthinking, and allowing things to play out the way they are meant to in love.
GEMINI
This year you are feeling in balance when it comes to love, Gemini. Relationships are important to you in life overall, as you are a relationship-oriented sign, but it can be difficult at times to keep the balance and perspective here. This year, with lucky Jupiter in your sign until June, you have the opportunity to be blessed with some fortunate circumstances personally and within romance.
You are feeling yourself this year, and this is attracting you success and new opportunities within love.
Uranus will also be in your sign this year from Jul. 7 until Nov. 7, and some surprises are in store for you. Pay attention to what happens in your love life during this period, as similar themes will be coming back around for you when Uranus officially enters its Gemini transit from 2026 - 2032. Overall, this year is about balancing what’s coming and going in love, and finding your peace within your inner confidence for it all.
CANCER
2025 for you, Cancer, is about stability in love. You are growing emotionally from the ground up, and are feeling a sense of support, confidence, romance, and receptivity in your love life this year. You are one of the lucky signs of 2025, and this is due to Jupiter, the planet of blessings, entering your sign from June 9, 2025, until June 30, 2026. While Jupiter is in your sign, your life expands and you are able to see the gifts of your world that may have been harder to come by previously.
This is a year of spending more time with your loved ones and feeling more heard and supported emotionally. Safety and security are especially important to you this year, and you are only entertaining the people who feel that way about you and provide that. Many Cancers will be expanding their families this year or developing a long-term relationship, and overall this is a year of feeling stronger when it comes to love.
LEO
When it comes to love this year for you, Leo, it’s about trusting your intuition and listening more to what your heart is telling you. There are not many major transits happening in Leo in 2025, which means there is a lot of room to grow, but you may be feeling a lack of support or encouragement to do so. A lot of Leos are taking a step back to look at where they are currently in love, and yearning for some change and a new direction here.
Neptune will be in your 9th house of adventure for most of this year, and you are being asked to get inspired and do things differently, but don’t take unnecessary risks in love that may not serve you in the long run.
It can be easy to get lost in the fantasy of love rather than the actual reality you’ll live in here, and taking more time to understand yourself, your relationships, and the dynamics in your love life will be necessary. Overall, your heart is healing this year and you are moving away from the past and creating your new future.
VIRGO
This year when it comes to love, you are going through changes that are aligning you closer to your goals and dreams here, Virgo. You are focused on making things work that you want to see bloom, and also letting go of putting effort into people that aren’t reciprocating the same energy. With the North Node entering your sister sign Pisces and the South Node moving into your sign from Jan. 11, 2025, until Jul. 26, 2026, you are doing a lot of letting go over the next year.
However, with the North Node being in your 7th house of love, new doors and gifts are also opening up for you and your partnerships. The more you can let go of perfection and overworking your mind and your heart, the more blessings you will experience when it comes to love this year. In 2025, you also have two Eclipses in your sign, and there are overall a lot of changes Virgos are moving through this year. Your main guidance for love is to stand by the things that serve your heart and release yourself from what burdens it.
LIBRA
Love is coming to fruition for you this year, Libra. You have been through a lot in your personal life these past few years, and walking into 2025, you are ready for some positive change. This is a year of feeling in balance with your personal goals and dreams, and what you are experiencing romantically and financially as well. Relationship dynamics are serving you and your sense of abundance, and many gifts are coming your way in love this year.
With Neptune, Chiron, and Saturn all being in your 7th house of love, your love life and partnerships are the main focus for you in 2025.
You are moving through changes, overcoming previous obstacles, and bringing back the dreamy energy here. With Chiron in the 7th, you are still doing some healing of the heart, but with Neptune now entering, it all feels a little more romantic and spiritual at the same time. This year is about believing in the impossible in love, taking care of yourself, and allowing someone else to take care of you as well.
SCORPIO
This year is all about opportunity when it comes to love, Scorpio. You have your eyes on the prize and are focused on what you want for yourself, but also how you want to show up for love as well. You have goals and intentions that you are setting for your love life this year, and a lot of them reflect the passion and strength you are feeling as you enter the year. Vesta is in your sign this year until September, and you have a spark within you that is a magnet for success and love. You are walking forward confidently and are feeling inspired, sexy, and magical this year.
This is a very sensual and powerful year for you, and this energy is being reflected in the relationship experiences you are having. Jupiter also enters your 9th house of adventure halfway through the year, and there is something special about the trips you are taking and the risks you are taking in love. Overall, this is a year of doing things your way and attracting love to you through your inner confidence and charisma.
SAGITTARIUS
This is a beautiful year of feeling balanced and abundant in love, Sagittarius. There is a lot of energy coming in and you are giving a lot of love as well. This sense of synergy you are feeling within your love life this year has a lot to do with Juno, the asteroid of soulmates, in your sign from Feb. 19 - Apr. 15. Your people are coming in and you have options this year, Sag.
This is a year of feeling loved for the inspiring, outgoing, and unique being you are, and meeting more people who match your energy.
Saturn also enters your 5th house of romance this year, and you are learning a lot through your experiences with others. You are learning how to be more confident in who you are and what you want for yourself and also recognizing the importance of making more time for fun and playful experiences. This is the year to see love as a more light-hearted experience and to not take yourself too seriously.
CAPRICORN
You are letting things come to you when it comes to love this year, Capricorn. You are feeling beautiful, capable, and worthy, and you are receiving the gifts that come from this sense of confidence and patience. This past year, you were setting a lot of new goals for yourself and your relationships, and in 2025, you are experiencing the results of these efforts.
Jupiter moves into your sister sign Cancer from June 9, 2025, until June 30, 2026, and enters your 7th house of love, partnerships, romance, marriage, and harmony. Your love life and experience of it all are expanding this year, and benevolent Jupiter is sending blessings to this area of your life. This is a year of things coming full circle for you in love, and you feel less confused about it all and more sure of yourself and what is becoming for you here.
AQUARIUS
Love is a highlight for you this year, Aquarius. You are coming together with another, and many Aquarius’ will be forming new relationships or growing within a strong relationship. You are experiencing the fruition of your dreams in love, and are also able to heal and let go of past emotional experiences that have been overwhelming for you in the past.
The North Node enters your 12th house of closure this year, and you are motivated towards change, cleaning house, and releasing the cobwebs of the past.
You are walking into new emotional experiences with less baggage and self-doubt, and are experiencing a fresh start in love. This is a year of asking for what you need emotionally and receiving it. Love is coming in for you in harmonious and magical ways, and you are rewriting your story in love in 2025.
PISCES
You are moving through a lot of changes when it comes to love in 2025, Pisces. This is a year of closure, healing, and giving yourself a fresh start, and the way you enter the year will be a lot different than the way you end it. The North Node of Destiny enters your sign this year, and the South Node of Karma enters your 7th house of love. So, a lot of your focus this year is on your personal goals and path, and there may be some neglect or lack of focus on your relationships.
This can create some discord with those close to you, and your guidance for this year is to try to balance the personal successes and wins you are experiencing, with the love changes that also need your attention right now. Know that what leaves your life this year is being replaced by something better, and also know that your healing doesn’t need to have a timeline and you can take as much time as you need to grow. Overall, you are turning a new page in love in 2025.
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Here's Why 'Dating Sunday' Is The New Year’s Tradition You Didn’t Know You Needed
Since I write about relationships so much, this is the time of the year when I am especially intentional when it comes to reading about which dating trends are predicted to be hella popular over the next several months. Well, according to some research that Hypebae did on the BLK dating app, collabor-dating (bonding over shared interests), slow dating (which is pretty self-explanatory) and something known as crewsing is what a lot of folks (especially those in the Gen Z demographic) are going to be interested in.
What exactly is crewsing? It’s a trend that involves singles not only using dating apps for romantic connections but also for finding people to go to Sunday brunch or upcoming music festivals with. Learning about that is what got me to thinking about something that is coming up out in these internet streets: Dating Sunday.
Dating Sunday: Why It’s a Big Deal for Singles in 2025
If 2025 is the year that you’ve declared to yourself (and your homies) that you are going to find the love of your life, one way or another, Dating Sunday is something that you definitely should know about and consider — just so that you can keep as many options open as possible.
Let me explain why.
What Is Dating Sunday?
GiphyAlthough I do pride myself on knowing a lot about relationship-related stuff, I must admit that I was a late bloomer as it relates to Dating Sunday. I think it’s because I can honestly say that I have never used a dating app, for any reason, before.
It’s not that I’m against them, it’s just that — remember, I’m someone who doesn’t even have social media accounts, so…I just prefer more organic approaches to meeting people. That doesn’t mean that I knock dating online, though, because I actually know individuals who have used dating apps to meet their bae; plus, I’m aware of what statistics say about dating via cyberspace connections.
Okay, but I’m getting a little ahead of myself.
As far as what Dating Sunday is all about, it is what’s considered to be the busiest day of the year, as far as online dating goes, and it just so happens to go down on the first Sunday of the year — each and every year. This means that, in the year of our Lord, 2025, Dating Sunday will transpire on January 5. Interestingly enough, there is even a time on Dating Sunday when it seems that singles are the most active on apps.
When will it be this year? Approximately at 9:05 p.m. (EST), there will be a 40 percent uptick on various dating apps, including Match and Tinder (although if you would prefer to get on apps that cater especially to our demographic, there are ones like BLK, BlackPeopleMeet, BlackGentry, BlackCupid. Also, some dating experts say that Coffee Meets Bagel, OkCupid, Bumble, and sometimes Hinge have some good options for Black women. Oh, and First Round on Me is somewhat gaining in popularity, too — just an FYI).
And what if you are interested in meeting someone new, but you’re a bit hesitant or even leery about doing it online? Although it appears that Gen Z is using dating apps less than perhaps any other demographic, that doesn’t mean that dating online is obsolete.
Read on to see what I mean…
15 Things You Should Know About Online Dating (Stats-Wise)
GiphyIn a world that’s full of opinions, both online, as well as offline, when it comes to making decisions that are personally best for you, it’s always a good idea to factor in some cold hard facts — and when it comes to dating apps and online dating, here are 15 statistics to keep in mind:
- Currently, the most popular dating apps are Tinder and Bumble
- Tinder has led to 25 percent of married or engaged couples who met online
- People ages 18-29 prefer Tinder, while those 30-64 prefer Match
- 31 percent of Black people, 28 percent of Hispanic individuals, and 29 percent of white folks have used dating apps before
- 56 percent of adults who use dating apps find them to be pretty safe
- 53 percent of adults who use dating apps say that the experience was positive
- 54 percent of women are overwhelmed by the messages that they receive on dating apps
- 42 percent of adults say that using dating apps has made finding a partner easier/more convenient
- 39 percent of dating app users make a relatively high income
- 54 percent of folks say that online dating relationships were just as successful as “in-person” ones
- One in 10 serious relationships met online
- 29 percent of dating app users find matches pretty quickly
- 26 percent of online daters aren’t looking for anything serious
- 19 percent of online daters are talking to 11 or more people at the same time
- It could take almost 4,000 swipes before you meet “your one” online
As you can see, as with most things in life, dating online is a bit of a mixed bag. Still, the actual research and data do reveal that so long as you keep your expectations realistic, it could prove to be at least somewhat of a wise investment of your time — so long as you keep the following pros and cons in mind.
3 Pros and 3 Cons to Online Dating in 2025
GiphySo, what are the (generalized) ups and downs that come with using apps in order to date?
PRO:
There’s no way around the fact that dating online is super convenient. You can engage with people at your leisure, whenever and from wherever works best for you — which is great, not just for those who have a hectic schedule, but also for individuals who may consider themselves to be introverted or shy. When you think about it, this also gives you more control when it comes to your privacy and how fast or slow you want to move when it comes to dating (online) as well.
CON:
Hands down, the misrepresentation of folks is a huge con; I mean, there wouldn’t have been the MTV show Catfish if that weren’t the case. I don’t just mean folks who lie about their looks either; there is also a good amount of scamming that goes down in the online dating world as well. For instance, I semi-recently read that as many as 70,000 people were “romance scammed” out of somewhere around $1.3 billion back in 2022, with 40 percent being contacted on social media and close to 20 percent on websites or apps. So yeah, keeping in mind that not everyone has the best of intentions is a good rule of thumb.
PRO:
You’re definitely going to have more access to a variety of people via dating apps — although, when you come to think about it, that can have pros and cons because if it really does take (whew) 4,000 swipes to meet your (long-term) boo, the process to get to them could be pretty overwhelming. Still, if you’re someone who is growing weary of the dating scene in your area, online dating can expose you to a whole ‘new world of possibilities.
CON:
Again, if it can take you close to 4,000 swipes to find someone who you’re really into, that means the same thing for others, which means that while there can be a lot of potential with online dating, there can also be quite a bit of rejection. If that is something that you know that you don’t handle well, dating apps may not need to be the dating route that you should take at this time.
PRO:
Something else that I would consider to be a plus about online dating is you have more than one way to communicate with folks — you can stick to direct messages, you can text, you can talk on the phone, you can video chat, and you can do all of these things, for as long as you want, before deciding to meet someone in person. Not only that but if you are engaging multiple individuals at the same time, based on your comfort level, you can talk to each one in a different way (meaning, you can strictly text with one and video chat with another).
CON:
Since you are interacting with more people, unwanted attention very well could spike. In fact, reportedly, on dating apps, close to 40 percent of individuals have unwanted sexual messages and/or images, 30 percent have been contacted by someone after saying they weren’t interested in them, and 24 percent have been called an offensive name. Yet even dating in person comes with its own pros and cons list, so be willing to somewhat keep an open mind that for every jerk, there can also be a true gem.
How to Prepare for Dating Sunday
GiphyAnd what if, after weighing in all that I just shared, you decide to make 2025 the year that you participate in Dating Sunday? Well, to get the most out of the experience, keep the following tips in mind:
Vet the apps beforehand. There are a lot of dating apps out here, and absolutely one size does not fit all. And so, spend some time researching, not just what are considered to be the best dating apps for each year but which ones are most suitable to your particular demographic, too. Luckily, online dating has been around for so long at this point that you can even find reviews on them via social media. For instance, if you go to TikTok and put “dating app reviews” (like these here, here, here, here, and here), you will get quite a bit of information from different opinions and perspectives to choose from.
Make sure your profile is on point. First impressions are always important — even more so when it comes to online dating. That said, please make sure that your pictures are clear and that you choose ones that showcase more than one side of your personality. Have a bio that is creative and enjoyable to read yet is also as detailed (in a concise way) as possible when it comes to who you are, your interests, and what you are looking for. And lawd, y’all, definitely check for grammar issues (like please use “your” and “you’re” accurately).
It’s also a good idea to go with a username that is easy to remember and reflects you well. Oh, and you should probably get someone you trust to read your finished product before going live — just to get an objective opinion.
Be honest. Stay realistic. Have fun. And finally, although it’s definitely going to work in your favor to go into online dating with a positive attitude, make sure that you are honest about your intentions, that you stay realistic about what to expect, and, more than anything else, that you don’t put a lot of pressure on yourself or the people who you connect with; instead, HAVE FUN! One way to make sure that all of this happens is to follow the advice of online dating experts who say that you can pretty much avoid dating app burnout by spending no more than 30 minutes a day on them.
That way, you can keep a fresh set of eyes on the profiles you are checking out, you can keep the content from overwhelming you, and if it takes a while to make a real connection because you’re only devoting a half-hour daily, you won’t feel like you are wasting a ton of your precious time.
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I’ve already shared that 25 percent of folks on Tinder found their “forever” on the app. Reportedly, 35 percent on Hinge and 20 percent on Bumble have done the same. In comparison to the 15 percent of couples who met each other through mutual friends…what do you have to lose?
As Helen Keller once said, “Life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all,” chile. So, take a chance on Dating Sunday. At best, you’ll meet someone awesome. At worst, you’ll have some entertaining stories to tell. Promise you that!
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