

It's been almost five years now since I cold turkey walked off my news reporter job to blog full-time. Since then, I've experienced so many highs and lows of being an entrepreneur and #girlboss. From overlooking some important business details, to learning (the hard way) to deal with shady clients, losing some of my work benefits and not thinking about financial planning for my later years; I literally had a crash course in becoming a businesswoman.
With entrepreneurship being all the rage these days, so many people only flaunt the glitz and glamour of being in business but forget to share those little nuggets of how to actually make it work. In entrepreneurship, there's a lot of personal and professional business (no pun intended) to handle that can easily be forgotten or missed.
Quitting your job to build your own empire or to bring a passion to life is indeed a risky move to make, but it's also a move that can be both beneficial and fulfilling. Just like everything else in life, you have to weigh out the pros, cons and, "Girl, you sure you wanna do this?" scenarios. Don't be one of those people who quit their job to work for themselves…but forget to build a business!
Keep these four things in mind if you're on the road to entrepreneurship.
Make the business official.
It took me fifty-leven days for one company to run me my check and another flat out refused to book me because I didn't have a business license. Sure, I could do the work and in my head it was easy for them to just write a check out in my name. All companies are different and not everyone can just write the check; they all follow procedures and processes unique to them and sis, you don't want to get caught up in all of that. I found that it made being an entrepreneur much easier when I could supply a client with proper, legal documentation on behalf of my company. Not only does it help you to get paid easier it also proves that you take your business and coins seriously.
Benefits? What benefits?
As soon as you say, "I quit!", one of the first things that disappear are your employee benefits. As a woman, it was super important for me to have some kind of health insurance, but the minute I walked out that door, I was on my own. Some companies are great in that they allow past employees to stay in their group plans but make the payments themselves; others just drop you. I've been making the sacrifice for five years now to pay my health and life insurance out of pocket; because of the way life is set up these days, I can't chance it. If this is important to you, make sure to keep this in mind as you journey to entrepreneurship. Will you need new insurance, can you join a group one…do you even care? And then there's the pension plan. How will you save money for retirement? Will you set up your own plan? This is definitely worth the conversation and discussion.
Where’d the money go?
I'm cheap. And I'm not afraid to admit it. As a freelance writer and TV host and occasional influencer who partners with brands, I know firsthand how fickle this industry can be. I've had partnerships taken away, given the 30-day notice and left to literally count my coins. Learning how to effectively budget and manage money is a great skill to have as an entrepreneur, in any field. All businesses, even the well-off, established ones, experience ebbs and flows in their companies and yours won't be exempt. Buffer those crazy days by saving, budgeting and investing.
It’s not an easy road.
Being my own boss is one of the greatest pleasures I've ever experienced. It's a thrilling journey of highs and lows that stretch you and strengthen you; it's simultaneously fickle and fulfilling, it has its bumpy days and days where everything is going right. More importantly, it's not for everybody. If you've decided though that you can and will do this, you have to commit to the cause and fight through the tough times.
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Ianthia is a freelance Bahamian writer, journalist, TV host and producer and travel and lifestyle blogger with works and features in Essence, Forbes Travel Guide and Sheen Magazine. A TV anchor turned full-time blogger, Ianthia quickly became one of The Bahamas' top influencers; even being awarded the honor at the 2017 Bahamas 40 Under 40 awards. Ianthia's MiniSkirts and Microphones website (www.ianthia-smith.com) is a travel and lifestyle blog for busy millennial women looking for advice and inspiration on how to transition from 9 to 5 to fulltime girl boss while being a woman in the age of social media.
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If Hollywood is looking for its next Black love story, they need to take notes from Jay & Tia. Their journey—from an awkward first date to navigating careers, parenthood, and personal growth—proves that love is not just about romance but also resilience. Their story is full of laughter, challenges, and, most importantly, a love that stands the test of time.
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To kick off this game-changing launch, BLK teamed up with TV personality and socialite Reginae Carter for the ultimate Girls’ Night In, proving that sisterhood is just as important as romance. The exclusive event was a celebration of the new feature and the power of Black women coming together to uplift one another.
“Your circle is everything,” Reginae shares with a smile, and she’s not wrong. She’s all about creating spaces where we can come together, let our hair down, and vibe with like-minded women. “We deserve spaces to meet, uplift, and vibe with each other. BLK is making that happen,” she adds.
A New Era for Friendships—Social Mode Is Here!
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Bahja Rodriguez, Reginae Carter, Breaunna Womack, Lourdes Rodriguez and Zonnique Pullins attend OMG Girlz "Make A Scene" Single Release & Video Viewing Party at Trap City Cafe on March 27, 2025 in Atlanta, Georgia
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Reginae couldn’t have summed it up better: “When you have the right circle, the right tribe, everything just feels easier. And that’s exactly what BLK is giving us—space to connect, laugh, and grow with each other.”
To learn more about BLK’s Social Mode, download or update the BLK app in the App Store or Google Play Store today. Who knows? You might just find your new bestie or your next brunch crew.
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