
Thou Shall Be Broke: 10 Things That No One Told Me About Entrepreneurship

In the age of instant gratification, it seems people think that entrepreneurship and being an entrepreneur is just a matter of changing your bio on social media.
One might even “fancy it up" a bit and upload a photo or video of their “productivity," neither of which involve any real risks…and entrepreneurship is all about risks. The true definition of an entrepreneur is “a person who organizes and operates a business or businesses, taking on greater than normal financial risks in order to do so."
I told myself that once I successfully became a real entrepreneur and reached $10,000 positive in business capital, I would write a blog post to inspire others who wanted to embark on the journey of entrepreneurship. As I arrive at that benchmark, I'm not sure if this blog post will inspire or if it will send people running for the hills of job security. But as promised, here I am, telling you the 10 things that no one told me about being an entrepreneur. (Or maybe they did, but I was too hard-headed to listen.)
Let's call this, "Chantia's 10 Entrepreneurial Commandments."
1. Thou Will Be Broke
I invested over $8K to get Mantle Learning Center started, 8K that I had to pay back in order to advance my business credit limit. Even once the $8K was paid off, I was still broke because it's not your money, it's the business's money. Even being over $10,000 positive in business capital, the money belongs to the business and should be used to maintain the business and help it grow. Sure, you are out of the red once you are cash-positive but you, personally, are still broke and will be for a long time coming.
2. Thou Will Be Tired And Overworked
You are the business owner, the janitor, the financial advisor, the bookkeeper, the employee, the marketer, etc. It is chaos. There are barely any days off. You will be tired af. I'm talking 0-4 hours of sleep most nights, bags under your eyes, on the verge of tears tired. You will learn to operate in this state, hopefully.
3. Thou Shall Gain Weight
No, but seriously, even entrepreneurs who open fitness businesses fall off the wagon. You are literally not sleeping, overworking, and barely eating. That is a recipe for weight gain. Be mindful so that you can hopefully mitigate any damage done as a result of your circumstances.
4. Thou Will Be Taken Advantage Of And Taken For Granted
When you start your business, you are grateful. If you are lucky enough to have revenue coming in, you can begin to feel like your customers are doing you a favor. The issue with this is, you forget that you are providing a service or product that they want/need. Therefore, the gratefulness should be double-sided.
To the entrepreneur being taken advantage of or being taken for granted, remember: just because customers don't see your value, doesn't mean it's not there. Know your worth, then multiply it. If you're providing something that people want, your target audience will find and appreciate you.
5. Thou Will Have No Time For A Personal Life
This was a hard pill to swallow. My first year of being a true entrepreneur, I missed two friends' weddings, my Godson's christening, my best friend's baby shower, and numerous other things. My fiancee and I hang out on the weekends and say a handful of words to one another during the week. This year has brought about what it really means to be “too busy."
6. Thou Shall Keep A Precise Record Of Income And Expenses
Major Key Alert! I thought I was so organized! I just knew that my records were on point...until it was time to submit them to an accountant and I was scrambling to write stuff off in order to prove that my expenses outweighed my income. Research things that can be written off and I recommend, in your first year, trying to keep your expenses and income in one account. Write off any and everything possible because we all know not to mess with the IRS.
7. Thou Shall Start To Secure Their Future
Sometimes it frustrates me that I didn't come from a family that could teach me about investing, reinvesting, 401(k), stocks, ownership, etc. I am not an expert in the area and I won't pretend to be. I will tell you that a business or personal savings account isn't good enough. The interest rates are too low to matter or make a difference for your future. I will also tell you that entrepreneurs don't have money going into a 401(k). Therefore, it is wise to look into a Roth/Vanguard account. This will help secure a retirement savings account. Please click the underlined terms to learn more.
8. Thou Shall Doubt Themselves And Their Decisions Everyday
This is just a part of the package. It will feel like you're flying and liberated one moment, only to feel as though you are going to crash into something the next. My best advice would be to write down affirmations every morning to serve as a reminder of your purpose. The 5 Minute Journal is super useful in helping you keep your eyes on the prize and organize your thoughts. I would also try some form of meditation to ease your anxieties.
Finally, find a little time to read books that will help you work through doubting yourself. My favorite one as of late is Outwitting the Devil by Napoleon Hill. Hill discusses how fear, doubt, and procrastination all serve as forces of “evil" that keep us from realizing and reaching our truest potential.
9. Thou Shall Know When To Walk Away
This is a major key alert too! Just because it's been a dream your whole life or you gave it too many years doesn't mean that you should spend your whole life trying to get it off the ground. The when, why, and how will ultimately be up to you. For me, when you're drowning financially, emotionally, or creatively, it's time to take what you've learned and pivot to a better idea.
10. Thou Shall Learn From Their Mistakes
Entrepreneurship is hard and exciting. The best part is that it provides you with lessons and experiences that no job can. You learn to budget for yourself, and for a growing business, you learn balance, you learn the true meaning of customer service, you learn how not to give up at the first hint of failure, and so much more. You also learn whether or not entrepreneurship is for you or if you function better as an employee. You'll learn that it's not something you do just because all the “cool kids are doing it." You must be willing to risk it all.
I wish you well on your journey of entrepreneurship and hope that you find light, laughter, and inspiration in the 10 "commandments" detailed above. If you do, please recommend, drop a comment below, and share!
Chantia Singleton is a children's Author and an Educator. You can find her series, "The Little Girl With the Big Hair" at www.littlegirlbighair.com. Keep up with her on social @littlegirl.bighair.
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'He Said, She Said': Love Stories Put To The Test At A Weekend For Love
At the A Weekend For Love retreat, we sat down with four couples to explore their love stories in a playful but revealing way with #HeSaidSheSaid. From first encounters to life-changing moments, we tested their memories to see if their versions of events aligned—because, as they say, every story has three sides: his, hers, and the truth.
Do these couples remember their love stories the same way? Press play to find out.
Episode 1: Indira & Desmond – Love Across the Miles
They say distance makes the heart grow fonder, but for Indira & Desmond, love made it stronger. Every mile apart deepened their bond, reinforcing the unshakable foundation of their relationship. From their first "I love you" to the moment they knew they had found home in each other, their journey is a beautiful testament to the endurance of true love.
Episode 2: Jay & Tia – A Love Story Straight Out of a Rom-Com
If Hollywood is looking for its next Black love story, they need to take notes from Jay & Tia. Their journey—from an awkward first date to navigating careers, parenthood, and personal growth—proves that love is not just about romance but also resilience. Their story is full of laughter, challenges, and, most importantly, a love that stands the test of time.
Episode 3: Larencia & Mykel – Through the Highs and Lows
A date night with police helicopters overhead? Now that’s a story! Larencia & Mykel have faced unexpected surprises, major life changes, and 14 years of choosing each other every single day. But after all this time, do they actually remember things the same way? Their episode is sure to bring some eye-opening revelations and a lot of laughs.
Episode 4: Soy & Osei – A Love Aligned in Purpose
From a chance meeting at the front door to 15 years of unwavering love, faith, and growth, Soy & Osei prove that when two souls are aligned in love and purpose, nothing can shake their foundation. Their journey is a powerful reminder that true love is built on mutual support, shared values, and a deep connection that only strengthens with time.
Each of these couples has a unique and inspiring story to tell, but do their memories match up? Watch #HeSaidSheSaid to find out!
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How Your Rising Sign Is The Key To Unlocking More Financial Abundance In Your Life
Abundance is a mindset and it's one you can obtain more effortlessly by knowing your birth chart. Your birth chart in Astrology reflects your cosmic blueprint for this lifetime and maps out things for you like your purpose, destiny, and financial potential. There are key ways to earn income or increase your finances and Astrology helps you dive into that. By knowing your financial strengths, weaknesses, and gifts, you can enhance the abundance surrounding you and align yourself more with what resonates.
In Astrology, there are a few areas of your birth chart that signify what your financial world looks like and have the potential to look at as well. Your 2nd house, rules your finances, personal income, and values, your 8th house rules your shared finances and the money you receive from partnerships or through marriage, and your 11th house rules your hopes and dreams, manifestations, and what you have accumulated through your career or business. The sign Venus also represents finances and luxury, and the placement of this planet is key to understanding your financial purpose as well.
We each come into this life with specific skill sets and perspectives that have the potential to help us live the life of our dreams and fulfill our intentions. By understanding where you tend to naturally thrive in life, you open the door to financial freedom and empowerment. What the stars say about your financial potential is the inspiration you need to walk through that door.
Read for your rising sign below to see how to unlock your key to abundance.
How Your Rising Sign Unlocks Abundance
ARIES RISING
Your key to unlocking abundance involves creating concrete, long-term, financial plans. With Taurus in the 2nd house, you have a natural gift for money and you know how to build something from the ground up. You create beauty, love, and stability in the world, and your ability to make people feel comfortable will help you financially succeed. Taurus in the 2nd house are collectors as well, and you have a good eye.
With Scorpio in your 8th house, the partnerships and connections you form help you increase your income and earnings. It’s not about overly relying on others financially, but knowing there is support there for you when you need it. Your financial potential overall involves how much you are dedicating yourself to your dreams and doing things that will provide stability and security in your life.
TAURUS RISING
As a Taurus Rising, you have Gemini in the 2nd house, and there are a lot of different avenues in which you can earn an income. You will most likely have multiple streams of income in fact, and your capacity to learn, grow, and expand financially is endless.
You thrive in communication, publication, and collaborative worlds, and your networking abilities will help you succeed in life.
By educating yourself and expanding your mind, you can use this knowledge to help you connect, sell, and raise awareness to others. With Pisces in the 11th house, you have lucky Jupiter helping you make your dreams come true and creating miracles in your life. No one sees things the way you do, use this to your advantage when it comes to your finances and goals here.
GEMINI RISING
For you, you are more emotionally tied to your finances and sense of stability than most. With Cancer in your 2nd house, you have a strong intuition regarding money matters, but you may also feel like things fluctuate a lot for you here. Your key to unlocking your personal abundance comes by finding the things that you hold value in, thinking about your purpose and the legacy you want to leave behind, and owning your nurturing abilities.
You are a natural caregiver, creator, and protector, and can thrive in roles such as these. Cancer in the 2nd house also shows an ability to earn through real estate, antiques, or investments. With Capricorn in the 8th house, your logic will help you execute your plans and goals, and you are always thinking one step ahead. People may underestimate you often, use this to your advantage.
CANCER RISING
As a Cancer Rising, you thrive when you are able to take charge and lead your creative efforts. With Leo in the 2nd house, you are a charismatic soul and you are meant to take center stage in life. Your creativity, confidence, and courage will set you apart from others, and you will financially succeed in roles where you have some type of authority or can express yourself freely.
With Aquarius in the 8th house, you may also find your financial power when it comes to technology or social media. You are a natural influencer and people want to know what you think about things and what your current obsessions are. You are the star of the show, remembering that is your key to unlocking your abundance in this lifetime.
LEO RISING
You have Virgo in the 2nd house, and unlocking your key to abundance involves getting organized, sticking to a routine, and doing things that benefit others or society in some way. You are typically found in roles that involve being of service and you also have a gift with your words. Careers such as writing, speaking, publishing, health roles, and healing treatments all serve you well.
With Gemini in the 11th house as well, you have a gift for networking, communication, building a group or a team, and succeeding in your collaborative efforts. Don’t let your need for perfection take you away from your potential regarding your ability to connect with others and build something inspiring. Your vision, partnerships, selfless attitude, and creativity will help you financially succeed.
VIRGO RISING
As a Virgo Rising, you are a hard worker and have a lot of beauty and wisdom to share with the world. You have Libra in the 2nd house, signifying a creative soul and someone who can earn an income through art, interior design, fashion, or therapeutic and beauty practices.
You have a gift when it comes to creating things appealing to the eye, and you resonate with the more luxurious spheres of life.
Aries in the 8th house signifies a drive to succeed, and you financially move through a lot of transformations in this lifetime that lead you closer to your dreams. Creating a business that you are passionate about or being a part of a legacy that creates something beautiful for the world, helps you financially succeed in life.
LIBRA RISING
Financially, you evolve over time. The key here for you with Scorpio in the 2nd house, is to trust your intuition when it comes to what to invest in and what to spend your time and energy on. Know that with any setback you may encounter financially, you will rise above more abundantly and successfully. You have a unique way of understanding the undercurrents and concept of money, use this to your advantage.
With Leo in the 11th house, you succeed when you are confident, standing out from the crowd, and doing things that feel authentic and natural for you. You are meant to shine and inspire others through your charisma, personality, and strong intuition.
SCORPIO RISING
With a Scorpio Rising, you have Sagittarius in the 2nd, and financial freedom is very important to you in this lifetime. You are working towards building a legacy for yourself through your wisdom, knowledge, and quest for understanding. You inspire others in your own unique way, and this is a placement for many teachers or guides in this world.
Virgo in the 11th house reminds you to get clear on the things you want for yourself and the plans or dedication it will take to get there. Your intelligence and your capacity to see all perspectives and express yourself in a grounded way is what is going to unlock your key to abundance.
SAGITTARIUS RISING
Financially, you have a lot of potential to succeed in this lifetime. With Capricorn in your 2nd house of income, you are business-savvy and have a knack for money. You know what the world needs more of, and you are the one to provide it. Through your work ethic and need to succeed, you are someone who can be found in higher positions within a business or company.
Cancer in the 8th house also shows that you find financial empowerment by dedicating yourself to a cause or career that holds deep importance for you and your heart. The people you meet along the way are also key to recognizing your dreams and financial abundance.
CAPRICORN RISING
As a Capricorn Rising, you have Aquarius in the 2nd house which shows a gift in community, networking, and social media. You are a trendsetter and are ahead of time when it comes to trends, fashion, and ideals. You have a unique vision and ability to succeed in this lifetime through your manifestation potential.
With Scorpio in the 11th house, you can build a team or an organization and lead yourself and others to success. Your acquaintances and friendships throughout life will help you meet the right people and get the right opportunities. You always need to be thinking big when it comes to your finances, and know that you have what it takes to succeed.
AQUARIUS RISING
For you, financial success comes from your imagination and your hope for it all. With Pisces in the 2nd house, you view your financial world through a spiritual and creative lens, and the opportunities for you in this lifetime are vast. You need a lot of freedom within your career and you need to be doing things that allow you to express your creativity.
With Sagittarius in the 11th house of your hopes and dreams, you will succeed when you are stepping out of your comfort zone, traveling, and exploring new things. Your knowledge combined with lucky Jupiter, makes you someone who is more lucky than most when it comes to making your financial dreams come true. Remain positive and know your path to abundance won’t look like everyone else's.
PISCES RISING
You have Aries in the 2nd house, and financially you feel empowered when you are going after your individual dreams and intentions and are in leadership roles. Entrepreneurship inspires you, and you know how to lead a team. Taking initiative when it comes to your financial world is key here, and you need a certain sense of freedom when it comes to your career and working life.
Libra in the 8th house signifies abundance through your love life, marriage, business partnerships, or commitments and people are more willing to lend you a helping hand than most, use this to your advantage. Overall, your key to abundance is taking initiative, creating things never seen before, and using your charming personality to attract the support you need to succeed.
Love is cute and all, but building an empire together? That’s the real flex. Tap into our new series Making Cents to see what financial compatibility really looks like when love and legacy go hand in hand.
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Originally published on February 6, 2025