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Why Becky with the Good Hair Is Bigger Than Infidelity

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  1. MsB says:

    Thank you! Lemonade is more than about infedelity and I wish the media would focus more on that but I guess that’s the only theme that they can relate to. The plight of the black woman is thrown into their faces and they still boil it down to what woman is Bey’s husband creeping with. They will never get it.

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    1. Thank you for reading!

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  2. Good hair is referring to a black woman with a nice grade of hair. Why are we under the impression this is referring to a white woman? At then end of day it’s a song……

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    1. Shaunay Jenkins – I kinda like our code words that they don’t know or understand. They wouldn’t have known about “becky” if beYonce didn’t say it in her dayum video. Now we have to find a new word to say & make sure we don’t let her ass know.*LOL

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    2. Becky is a slang term for white women….”good hair” isn’t just for blacks with a loose hair texture…..it is also used towards non-blacks because their hair is considered the standard of how everyone’s hair should look. Hence all the weaves, blonde hair, bleaching skin, thinning noses, etc.

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    3. RareBird Tia says:

      All grades of black women’s hair is nice. Now, how they take care of it is another issue.

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    4. So many stereotypes it’s ridiculous.

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  3. Allison says:

    Well said! Standing ovation! I spend alot of time reassuring my daughter’s thery are just as beautiful as anyone else. No matter the darker their skin or shorter their hair. No matter what society or the media says.

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    1. Allison, thank you so much for reading and commenting. Bless you for continually feeding your daughter’s self-esteem. It’s important to start that young.

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  4. Awesome article.

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  5. Tye Seabrook says:

    Great read! Sadly too many blacks still have the plantation mentality.

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  6. CKamilah says:

    Great! Sometimes it almost feels like who we naturally are as black women, is only seen as beautiful or appreciated on non-black women. I don’t think we need validation from the masses or anyone for that matter, we need to realize that we are good enough. I am happy that more women are embracing their natural hair, features etc. Even if the world doesn’t appreciate us, at least we appreciate ourselves. I loved Beyonce’s Lemonade and the album is great!

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  7. Sarah says:

    Why are Kim’s surgeries an issue but Kim Kardashian’s aren’t? They both transformed themselves but one is considered a pretty god?

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  8. HoneyButter says:

    To add one more thing, slim redbones, thicker dark women, wide and thin noses, short, long, curly, and kinkies, paper lips or soup coolers…all those women with varying natural features or synthetic get cheated on. None of it promises fidelity. I can assure you kanye is tired of sleeping with Kim. So it definitely shouldn’t be about altering features for a man which for a lot of women it is. I am 100% natural and will have to be excepted that way or he can move on to the women who has what hes looking for.

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  9. Kerry Hurst says:

    DAMN! !!❤️!

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  10. Good Hair – hair that is in good condition. Texture is of no importance. (Definition from a T-shirt I had over 20 years ago).

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  11. i was under the impression that Iggy did not feel like Becky in itself was a racial slur but the person who was tweeting her was calling her Becky in the use of being mean. Atleast thats what i got from the tweets.

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  12. Judaea Payne says:

    Love this article

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  13. Loved the article! I hate when people say “good hair” what the heck is Good hair??? Your own opinion of beautiful hair is “good hair” wether it be kinky curly straight etc.

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  14. Great article! So much truth! And very sad what us women have to go through!

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  15. We’re keeping ourselves behind with these dumbass thoughts. I’ve never seen so many ppl egotistical and insecure at the same time. We need to start placing value on the things that ppl can control like character, ethics and principles.

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  16. EmpressSC says:

    Beyonce bought so much on this album. This is probably my best of her since the very first album because it is so personal. Beyonce was not only talking about her infidelities but womanhood, being proud of who you are as a black woman, sisterhood (because you know thats hard for some of us) and about being a strong woman who grinds and doesn’t depend and wait on no one. Beyonce was mature and she went in. You have to be ready to grasp it. I am proud of her. Come ladies now lets get into formation.

    Thank you for this article.

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  17. Setaglm says:

    Tiffany,
    Thank you so much for speaking to this issue. The “good hair” b.s. Is an ‘in house’ discussion that Needs to continue to be had. I am convinced that if black men (as a whole) treated black women with more dignity and honored black beauty in its natural state culturally we would not have to concern ourselves with the Beckys of the world. There is nothing like being honored and appreciated from the inside. If we had more intracultural positive affirmation then what the outside does and thinks would not matter so much. IJS…
    As an aside and a whole different intracultural discussion is the pain of knowing that one is the very Becky of such songs but not believing the whole light skinned better than crap. There are many lightskinnededed women who ‘get it’ and only seek allegiance with our darker hued sista/sistah/sisters

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  18. HoneyButter says:

    Good hair? Has all to do with how well its taken care of no matter the texture. I hate those words. My fellow black women hate on me because Im black with naturally curly hair. That translates to them hating their own hair which is sad. We have to love how we were made. Sadly its only getting worse the self hate. Infidelity is here to stay. Thats all I have to say about that.

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  19. Becky is a white woman that gives good head!!!!!! “Becky with the good hair” is a very fair skin (non white) woman with a nice grade of hair. In case you all are confused. ..”nice grade” and/or “good hair” means not kinky or nappy.

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