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The Godparents Title: Who Really Deserves It

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  1. Miss Roe says:

    Godparenting is tough because life changes. People grow and start their own families and live their own lives. However, what is important is how they step up if God forbid you were to pass away. That’s what a true God parent is.
    A lot of my friends that have kids choose God parents based on the amount of money the God parents make. And expect the God parents to be at every birthday party, recital, buy the most expensive christmas/birthday gifts, and things that they can’t afford to buy for their child. News flash nobody has to do for your child but you.

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  2. That term is used so loosely! People aren’t really willing to take your child on in case something we’re to happen to the parent. I just choose no one. Lol

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    1. Right! These days it’s just the girls BFF and don’t let the mother be a young mom….how is the god parent also 19 years old lol

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    2. People are willing to say anybody are their kids god parents. Even people they see not taking care of their own kids right.

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    3. YESSSSS!!! I don’t understand it at all!

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  3. Mel says:

    I love my God-parents. They are 2nd parents. I call them mom and dad and my parents have learned who I’m talking to by the way I say mom or dad, its that deep lol. My baby calls them granny and papa and now has a extra set of cousins because of my God siblings. My parents did great at picking them and I;m so happy they did. Remember god parents day is the 1st Sunday in June, so far I’m the only I know who celebrates it lol.

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  4. Elle jai says:

    I wish I could’ve choose mine. I thought she loved me. My godmother used my credit and took $$$ from me when I was younger. When I was 17 I got an account with her over it of course I was working and saving everything to the point I was going to school with holes in my shoes and dirty clothes( I grew up with an abusive alcoholic mother) so I was saving because I was trying to get enough to move out and away at 18. Well when it was time to move she had taking money out everytime I put some in, I found out that I had only about $400 but I started working at 16. So heartbroken. I say choose carefully if u choose to hv em because you’re entrusting them with your child and your child will be trusting them too. Well maybe I’m just bitter idk but hey it’s my 2 cents

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  5. Bernl says:

    I am a Godparent. I took an interest in my Godchild before he was even born. I was there at his birth. His mom is currently homeless so the child lives with me. I love being a Godparent. I take my role to heart.

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  6. HoneyButter says:

    To the first commenter THANK YOU. I was a God parent to a little girl and when I didnt cave to her mothers demands she dropped me and chose another woman. Your child your responsibility. The fact that im willing to take on raising your child should something happen even though Im not a parent is more than enough. I used to be out and just buy things for her just because. Every birthday party, coming over visiting, bathed her and put her in her jammies, baby sat allll the time. When I became busier and more absorbed in my own life which is inevitable, the mother called me on it. I was like I do what I do because I want to. No obligation. Thats your child. She went with someone else and I dont care. Cold part about it, the daughter was so attached to me and mom got jealous. So which is it? People get the definition of the role twisted. The writers definition is just that. The writers definition. But for me, your child your responsibility. I got your back when you need me.

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  7. GP says:

    People are always asking me to take on such roles. I give a yes out of loyalty but quite frankly I don’t want to deal with anyone’s kids until they are a certain age. They know I’ve always been seen as a great nanny so they assume I would be a great godparent. I don’t have children for a reason. Now, you want me to help you raise yours? I didn’t lie down with that man and have a child. Honestly, I’m being petty because this in the internet but in my real life I’m great with my godkids.

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  8. jerelynn says:

    Such a good topic. I’m currently pregnant and this has so much meaning. I have people suggesting to me who should be the godparents and when I ask them why they say girfts. To me that’s not important I want someone who is going to help mold my child and be dependable if anything were to happen to me

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  9. roseinweeds says:

    i didnt hv godparents. so i guess i dont really understand it. luckily, i have siblings. arent they by default God parents??!!

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  10. Aisha Kelson says:

    Only people I trust with my son if something happens to me are my parents….no god parents here

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  11. Shay Daley says:

    I thought back in the day a god parent was an actual member of the church? My christening certificate names the deacon and deaconess of my childhood church as being my God parents lol

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  12. I don’t have parents. I also don’t have children. I’ve only seen poor examples of the relationship which included money and Easter outfits. Faith is the most important aspect for me. Being my bestfriend does not automatically give you the title either.

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  13. I chose my daughter’s godparents based on knowing that if something happens to me, they’ll instill the same values in my daughter that I would. I am big on what a true godparent is. My godmother is my second mom. She helped raise me and in some areas, raised me better than my mom. I’m the same with my goddaughter.

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  14. KM says:

    Love this topic! When I was pregnant with my son there was no question on who would be his Godparent(s). We gave our son his Godfather’s middle name & though he lives in another state, he is an EXCELLENT member of our team. We keep him updated on his day-to-day life, our son knows exactly who he is, and he is one of the most spiritual people we know. My Godparent’s are the most amazing people ever, and have emotionally and spiritually supported me my whole life.

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  15. Chala Hannon says:

    Yes! Godparents titles are very important! It has nothing to do with friendship and good times. It’s about about who’s going to handle my baby with love and care in my absence.

    I was honored to be the godparent of my lovely VonDorian. I took my title seriously. Although, over fed him, spoiled him, bought toys instead clothes, inappropriate video games and junk food. I also handle all his legal affairs, missed allowance payments, but most importantly, he knows if mommy & daddy is ever unavailable I’ll step in without question.

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  16. Elle Bennett says:

    I can relate to this article in many ways. I picked my “best friend” to be the godmother of my first child and she and I are no longer friends at all although she’s been a great godmother to my daughter her whole life. I’m pregnant now and the criteria for selecting godparents this time around is completely different. Although the article is clearly written for Christians by Christians (and some people have different faiths), for me, faith isn’t a driving force at all. The three people I’ve chosen to be godparents are wonderful parents to their own children. They are raising well-rounded children. They foster their children’s interest and make sure that they play an active role in their children’s activities and make well-considered decisions regarding their education. They make sacrifices and give up their own play time as adults to be there for their kids. In essence, they parent in the same way that I do. That’s what was important to me this time around.

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    1. Please enlighten me on how your daughter’s godmother is still able to be a godparent to your daughter though you are no longer friends. I need guidance on how to navigate that relationship with my godson and his mother. We are no longer friends and i would love to see him but it not be stress and anger-filled.

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      1. Charli says:

        Hi. It’s the same way as when two parents divorce. It’s all built on what’s best for the child. If you take care of the child and you and the parent(s) fell out it’s up to adults to still be there for the child. Just my opinion.

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    2. Elle Bennett says:

      At this point my daughter is older (15) and they’re able to have a relationship without me having to be involved. We only stopped being friends about nine months ago so it may be a little easier in my case. Also, ending the friendship was the best decision I could’ve made based on very specific things but I don’t feel any anger toward her. I just don’t fuck with her because I found out she was kind of pretending to be my friend for many years so for me, it was easy to just clear her out. If your son is still really young, it may prove to be more difficult. If you feel like she still has something to offer as his godmother and there are mutual catalysts you can go through (your mom, his dad, siblings, etc), then that may work. If you feel like who she is fundamentally isn’t who you want your son around, then just let it go. Anyone that causes you anger and stress is probably not someone you want your child around especially if it’s not his other parent.

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  17. My best friend has been thru my highest and lowest moments in my life. She follows the same ideas and values i do for my kids. I know she loves them as much as i do. I have her Godsons…she gave me Goddaughters …we complete each other

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  18. Kay Dané says:

    I chose someone who I thought would be capable of caring for my son if I were not around. Someone who has similar values to mine and has good morals. Someone who would be able to teach my son and guide him well if anything were to happen to me. I chose my sister. She’s a year younger than me but has a really good head on her shoulders.

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  19. My best friend is the Godmother to both my children. Because she is amazing and because she has a strong spiritual relationship with God.

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  20. Kyla Ky says:

    This article and comments made me rethink the Godparent title. I have many Godparents and only one of them has called me on pretty much every holiday and birthday for as long as I can remember, and she’s the oldest one as well (she’s probably well into her 70s or 80s). I don’t know half of them and the other half are still family friends but I rarely see or hear from them unless we all get together for something.

    A close friend is pregnant and recently asked me to be her child’s Godmother and I accepted. I know it’s a serious title but I didn’t take in how serious it was until now. This has me thinking of who I would choose if I have children. I was going to choose a close friend or two but now I don’t even want to do that.

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  21. Meghan says:

    I do have Godparents and am a Godmother myself now. A Godparent does not mean you take the children if something should happen to both parents. It means being in the child’s life and helping them grow in there faith. If something should happen to both parents then you are responsible for showing and leading the child into a Christian life.

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  22. Lisa says:

    I am a Godparent of two loving little boys. I cherish the fact that my friends chose me to be a role model for them.

    At first I was nervous, I hear people who are Godparents but really do not interact with the children because of a falling out with the parents; I feel that has nothing to do with the relationship between you and that child.

    I chose the accept this role because I feel that 1. I know I would do anything for them 2. It gives me practice for when I have my own little one 3. I finally know what it feels like to love a little human more than I love myself.

    I would do anything for them and I love and thank my friends very much for even giving me the opportunity.

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  23. LoudestWhisper19 says:

    It’s true that the title is usually given without too much thought. I have two God kids and I was given the title well before either of them were baptized. I’ve assumed the role and my responsibilities but the parents (who aren’t frequent church go-ers) haven’t done their part by taking the steps for the actual baptism. I was honored for being chosen for the title but what’s the titles with no actual ceremony.

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    1. Camile says:

      The ceremony is not important. The work is what’s important. No one has to know. You don’t have to be crowned in front of multitudes. You’re doing important work being a force in those children’s life and I applaud you!

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  24. Cianni Jay says:

    My eldest daughter and I were just talking about this yesterday!

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  25. Vonna Jay says:

    I absolutely agree! I’m not opposed to pairing child and godparent according to their signs. Some people just don’t vibe as well with others. What if I make you the Godparent of my first born but you have a better connection with my second. Idc what anyone says- we’re all bound to bond with one more than the other, more so based on similarities. With that being said , I’ll still punch you in the eye of you try to treat one of em like the step child Vita Applebaum 💅🏾

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  26. Awww yay!!! Hopefully they are just like me and they drive you crazy lol

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  27. Jasmine Carr says:

    Nearly shed a tear 😢..I’m honored to be thought of in such a high regard and I can’t wait to spoil my (future) god baby!! Lol

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  28. I don’t get it…my kids will NOT have God parents and I don’t want nobody asking me to be a God parent anymore

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  29. Love it! Very candid.

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  30. Kristin McGuire says:

    I am currently raising my Godchild. So yeah, it’s a big deal.

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  31. My sister and aunt are my child’s God parents, can’t go wrong

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  32. Stephanie says:

    I have 13 god children and one on the way and they all think they are my birth children. I have take them to church, sometimes all together. I am raising them on my end to have respect, know God, experience life in different ways and most importantly know that they always have me and each other. I have at least two of them every week and make sure that they are all creating a bond with each other. I don’t buy presents and Jordans on Holidays and Birthdays but I buy school clothes in September and necessities when their parents ask. I also have started a fund for each of them in my bank account. Everyone knows how crazy I am about MY God children, everything I do is to make sure I’m established enough to step up in any of their lives as guardian if need be! Love this topic, thank you for sharing

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  33. Talitha says:

    I have(had Godparents) both are deceased now but they played an intrical part in my lives. Oddly enough, they were my moms sister and brother in law and had dual responsibilities in my life as aunt/uncle and God parents. Growing up my nanny meant the world to me and was there through every milestone, taught me all that she could and remained a constant positive role model well into adulthood. I belive that God Parents are essential because of the impact that mine had on me. And no, not everyone needs them but my children will have them.

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  34. Camile says:

    I haven’t seen my god daughter in like 3 years. The last time I saw her was at my baby shower for my own child. And it’s not because I dropped her because I had a baby. Her mom pulled away. It’s unfortunate. But I took it seriously and even though I have my own kids I would help her if she needed it. I take the title seriously.

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  35. NM says:

    I didn’t want that title…I refuse to even put that possibility into the Universe.
    But trust and believe…I would give my last dying breath to protect them from any harm.
    There is nothing I wouldn’t do for them if they need me.
    Nothing!

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