Terrence J Leaves E! News To Pursue Big Dream -- Watch The Trailer To His First Project As A Producer
In the words of Steve Harvey, "Your career is what you're paid for. Your calling is what you're made for." And with that said, Mr. Terrence "J" Jenkins, is humbly on to the next!
Last month while everyone was announcing their 2016 plans, former BET host turned E! News correspondent, Terrence J, had a "new year, new moves" announcement too-- he was ditching his gig as a media personality to pursue acting and production full time!
The announcement came as somewhat of a shock to fans, who felt as though Terrence was already successfully balancing both roles; not only did he star in the Steve Harvey productions Think Like a Man and Think Like a Man Too, he was also on our TV screens as our favorite E! News host weekly. Needless to say, the man who once couch-surfed his way onto that "106 and Park" stage was collecting checks and setting the standard for other dream chasers.
However, back in December, Terrence J took his final walk across that E! News room to confirm his departure from the series, while going over his history as a host:
"I started hosting when I was 16 years old back in North Carolina, and I've been now on national television for over 10 years. "Seventeen years [in total], that's a long time, and I think in order for someone to grow it's important that you try new things and you create new challenges, create new dreams for yourself."
Terrence also went on to discuss his new movie, The Perfect Match, which, unlike his past projects, he not only starrs in, but also helped produce!
Terrence J and Draya on the Set of 'The Perfect Match'
"I took some time off this summer and I produced and I starred in my first feature film, and I'm really excited about it and it's coming out at the top of the year. It's called The Perfect Match. I knew I would have to leave to go on a promo run for that...I've had a lot of opportunities come in in the acting space, both behind the camera and in front of the camera. And so, with all of that said, I wanted to announce today that I'll be leaving E! News."
Ok young Harvey!
Now a month later, striking the iron while it's hot (can't stop, won't stop!), Terrence has kept true to his consistent hustler's ambition and released the official trailer for The Perfect Match. The Perfect Match is a romantic comedy centered around Terrence's character "Charlie," a ritz, raunchy Hollywood agent and bachelor who also narrates the film. Charlie makes a bet with his close friends that he will court a woman and find a date (not a fling) in time to bring to his best friend's wedding. According to the synopsis:
"Charlie (Terrence) who is doubtful of love and relationships, even after his sister (Paula Patton) tries to tell him otherwise. He then takes on a bet with his friends, testing his success on finding one woman and dating her for a month without falling in love. All seems smooth until he meets a woman named Eva (Cassie) who throws him off his game..."
It's safe to say, Charlie is the exact-polar opposite of "Michael," Terrence's marriage-ready, sweet mama's boy character from the Think Like a Man franchise.
The Queen Latifah Flavor Unit executive-produced film snagged an all-star cast which not only boasts the likes of Lauren London, Cassie, Dascha Polanco (OITNB) and Donald Faison, but also includes both Terrence J and Hit the Floor’s Rob Riley, who will serve as producers alongside director Billie Woodruff. Cameos will include Brandy, Robin Givens, French Montana and Draya. This should be interesting!
Sometimes it is difficult to let go of what you know to pursue what you don't. Hosting was once Terrence's "in" to Hollywood, and a solid guaranteed gig for years. Although he has had success with acting and managed to do both jobs as a media personality and entertainer for years, sometimes spreading yourself thin can have long-lasting effects on both the work you produce and your mental and physical health. Cheers to Terrence for taking a leap of faith and focusing his energy in one thing, in an effort to produce his absolute best work.
Onwards and upwards!
Check out the full trailer below. The Perfect Match hits theaters March 11.
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ItGirl 100 Honors Black Women Who Create Culture & Put On For Their Cities
As they say, create the change you want to see in this world, besties. That’s why xoNecole linked up with Hyundai for the inaugural ItGirl 100 List, a celebration of 100 Genzennial women who aren’t afraid to pull up their own seats to the table. Across regions and industries, these women embody the essence of discovering self-value through purpose, honey! They're fierce, they’re ultra-creative, and we know they make their cities proud.
VIEW THE FULL ITGIRL 100 LIST HERE.
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THE ITGIRL MEMO
I. An ItGirl puts on for her city and masters her self-worth through purpose.
II. An ItGirl celebrates all the things that make her unique.
III. An ItGirl empowers others to become the best versions of themselves.
IV. An ItGirl leads by example, inspiring others through her actions and integrity.
V. An ItGirl paves the way for authenticity and diversity in all aspects of life.
VI. An ItGirl uses the power of her voice to advocate for positive change in the world.
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When discussing the topic of raising children, discipline is often the first thing that comes to mind. Children need discipline. Full stop. But what is discipline? And how do we draw the line between discipline and revenge?
The origin of the word "discipline" can be traced back to the Latin word "disciplina," which means "instruction" or "teaching." Over time, however, discipline has come to be synonymous with punishment, with parents relying on shame, fear, and/or physical pain to curb undesirable behavior.
Teaching takes time, so nipping it in the bud in whatever fashion parents deem necessary (within reason) has become the norm. But is this what’s best for children? And when does it become less about curbing undesirable behavior and more about getting our licks back for offenses we feel our children should know better to do?
In my work as a parenting coach, I’ve often heard parents say, “I asked him nicely three times before spanking him. He didn’t stop doing it until I did, so clearly talking doesn’t work.”
And the parent isn’t wrong. Talking often doesn’t work the first, the third, or the even the 10th time. And the reason is directly tied to brain development.
Children cannot and do not process information the way an adult can. Auditory processing is not fully developed until a child is 14 or 15 years old. And even then, if a child has auditory processing delays or Auditory Processing Disorder (APD), they may always struggle with processing auditory commands. According to Susie S. Loraine, MA, CCC-SLP, the term auditory processing refers to how the brain perceives and interprets sound information. Several skills determine auditory processing ability—or listening success. They develop in a general four-step hierarchy, but all work together and are essential for daily listening.
Without this understanding, discipline can easily become revenge because parents will then view their child’s misdeeds as a personal slight. Instead of teaching them to do better, parents now want to show them the consequences of not doing better. This is why it's imperative for parents to discern between discipline and revenge to maintain healthy relationships with their children.
5 WAYS TO DISTINGUISH BETWEEN PARENTAL GUIDANCE AND RETALIATION:
Understanding The Intent
Discipline is rooted in love and concern for the child's well-being. It focuses on teaching lessons and helping children understand the consequences of their actions. Conversely, revenge-driven actions stem from a desire to inflict pain or punishment as payback for perceived slights or disobedience. Parents should reflect on their motives before taking disciplinary actions. Ask yourself whether your intention is to help your child learn or to make them suffer for upsetting you.
Example: If a child accidentally breaks a valuable item, a disciplinary response would involve discussing the importance of being careful and working with the child to come up with a way to replace or fix what they’ve broken. On the other hand, a vengeful reaction might involve yelling, harsh punishment, or bringing up past mistakes to intensify guilt.
Maintaining Emotional Regulation
Effective discipline requires parents to remain calm and composed, even in challenging situations. It's natural to feel upset or frustrated when children misbehave, but responding with anger or resentment can escalate the situation and blur the line between discipline and revenge. Before addressing the issue, take a moment to breathe and collect your thoughts.
Example: If a child cannot follow instructions, a disciplined response would involve calmly explaining why their cooperation is necessary in working with the child to accomplish the goal. Conversely, a retaliatory response might involve shouting, name-calling, or resorting to physical punishment out of anger.
Promoting Growth and Learning
Discipline should always aim to promote growth and learning. It involves guiding children toward making better choices and understanding the impact of their actions on themselves and others. Effective discipline strategies include positive reinforcement, setting clear expectations, and providing opportunities for reflection and growth.
Example: If a child repeatedly forgets to complete their chores, a disciplinary approach would involve discussing the importance of responsibility and finding solutions together, such as creating a chore chart or setting reminders with Siri or Alexa. In contrast, a revenge-driven response might involve imposing overly harsh punishments or belittling the child, which can undermine their self-esteem and hinder their ability to learn from their mistakes.
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Building Trust and Communication
Trust and open communication are essential components of a healthy parent-child relationship. Discipline should strengthen this bond by fostering trust and encouraging children to confide in their parents without fear of judgment or retaliation. When children feel safe and supported, they're more likely to accept discipline as a form of guidance rather than punishment.
Example: If a child admits to breaking a rule or making a mistake, a disciplined response would involve listening to their perspective, discussing the consequences of their actions, and working together to find a solution. Conversely, a retaliatory response might involve accusations, blame, or shutting down communication, which can erode trust and damage the parent-child relationship.
Seeking Professional Guidance
Parenting is a learning journey, and, disciplining children is a delicate balance between guiding them toward responsible behavior and nurturing their growth. By understanding the intent behind our actions, maintaining emotional regulation, promoting growth and learning, building trust and communication, and seeking professional guidance when needed, as parents we can help our children built on love, respect, and understanding.
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