Steve Harvey Credits His Wife Majorie For Upgrading Him: 'She Transformed Me'
"Dress How You Want to Be Addressed"
This saying couldn't be anymore true for Mr. Steve Harvey who knows a thing or two about welcoming a good old fashion upgrade, per his stylish spouse, Marjorie Harvey. It wasn't long ago that Steve helped single-handedly coin the idea of the baggy tuxedo aka "The Steve Harvey Suit," but those fashion faux-pas days are long gone. Because if you look good, you feel good and if you feel good, you do good. And according to Steve, a complete 180 on his fashion did more than just change his closet, it changed his life!
During a segment on The Steve Harvey Show, Harvey sat down with a married man and his wife, who were both on the show in hopes of changing the husband's extremely casual and youthful wardrobe. The 59-year-old host spoke to the newlyweds, and used himself as an example of how dressing for success literally lead, well, to his success!
According to Steve, transforming his threads helped transcend him to greatness. And he has his wife to thank for that!
"Marjorie changed my style. I was very different. I dressed very different before I married Marjorie Harvey. Here are some pictures (pulls up pics). You couldn't tell me nothing! My pants were this wide, all my shoes matched my hats, I did whatever I wanted to do.But when we were getting married, Marjorie said ‘Steve, where God is going to take you, you have to look different.’ I said, 'Baby, what you talking about? I'm already [successful!]'
She said, 'No Steve. God has something for you, you have to listen. He gave you me, so I could tell you this here!' I ain't lying to you, this a true story. She said, 'Put on a more traditional suit, you can make them any fabric you want to. Put two buttons on your suit, stop wearing them square bottoms, open them up in a pleat. Shorten them pants, all that!'
My wife Marjorie has transformed my life...Posted by Steve Harvey TV on Monday, February 8, 2016
Bloop! Steve also said that after Marjorie asked him how else did he see himself in terms of envisioning a "new him," he admitted he wanted to lose weight and get rid of his famous high top fade since he was "tired of getting hair cuts."
"I turned 50, I lost weight, shaved, got slimmer suits. That how all this sexy came out! [laughs] Look, that girl right there transformed me. But I had the sense to listen! I ain't gonna be on no game show, I wouldn't have a talk show, they're not putting that on TV. She saw that and she changed all of that!"
And 9 years later, Steve went from this:
Voila, magic!
Two points Steve made that really stuck out were A) that he invited the change in and B) that he embraced it.
Sometimes we sign up for something out of pressure but we hardly stick to it, so kudos to Steve for trusting in the process of his growth, through his new clothes.
However, Harvey isn't the only male public figure to be upgraded by his better half, and in some cases the upgrade is a mutual exchange. From a young Carmelo Anthony and Lala to Jay-Z and Beyonce, it's safe to say that it's very seldom when you're blessed to find your equal, but when you do, this happens:
Big Sean (2009) vs. Big Sean and ex-fiance, Naya Rivera (2013)
Carmelo Anthony and Lala (2005) vs. Carmelo and Lala (2015)
Beyonce and Jay-z (2004) vs. Beyonce and Jay-Z (2015)
Like they say, The couple that slays together...
And before anyone thinks the approach to the "New gear, new me" theory is a little on the shallow, think again. Honestly, this all comes down to one of the simplest form of the "Laws of Attraction" theory. According to author Don Samba, who has penned for than a few self-help books, it comes to bettering your brand, adjusting your wardrobe is key:
"Your appearance makes part of a statement of who you are. You will be able to attain your set goals if you cloth yourself for success from the get go. It is more to do with how you feel about yourself than what others feel about you. How comfortable and confident in your clothes will determine first and foremost the strength of energy you will be able to put out into the universe around you.If you are not confident in yourself and how you look, you will not be able to release and attain your true potential as you will be bottling up and shutting yourself down, losing who you really are and could be. Looking at some famous names out there, you will note that they did not become overnight successes all by what they specialized in. It actually ment that they had to work on themselves to gear up and tap into their true potential by dressing right."
Amen. It's all about that suit-and-tie fly!
What are your thoughts on men and women changing their lives through changing their clothes?
A modest goddess who keeps it humble between mumbles. I'm a journalism graduate with a HERstory in digital media, print and radio. Roll the credits: Power 96, VH1, xoNecole, EBONY, SOHH. Deemed "Top 20 Women in Media" by Power 105. Bronx made me, Broward raised me.
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How A Stay At Switzerland's Luxurious 7132 Hotel Reminded Me To Live The Life I Deserve
Sometimes, as women—especially as single Black women—we simply need to be reminded that we are deserving of living a life we dream of. Even if that means creating it for ourselves. I recently set out on a weeklong trip to Switzerland, a trip I’ve been wanting to take for years, and near the end of my visit, I had an epiphany.
“DeAnna, this is the life you deserve,” I thought to myself as I took in the gorgeous bathroom in my suite at the famous 7132 Hotel and Thermal Spa. It was one of the most luxurious hotels (and bathrooms) I had ever stayed in—and that’s saying a lot for someone who often travels for work.
To help you better understand why this was such a mental awakening for me, I first need to give a bit of my backstory. I’m in my late thirties. I’m an attorneyand a journalist. I own a home and have traveled the world extensively. Essentially, I’ve done everything in life I set out to do. However, when it comes to dating, I struggle. Not because there is anything wrong with me per se, but because my career and “lifestyle” often create problems in my romantic relationships.
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I’ve been told everything from, ‘I can’t continue to date you because you seem to choose your career over wanting to settle down and have kids’ by a man after only the second date to ‘Maybe if you just sat down somewhere for a while, I’d actually wife you’ by someone who has honestly never proven themselves to be the settle down type. And these are only a handful of the things I’ve been told over the years.
It’s been frustrating, to say the least, and there have even been seasons where I purposely dimmed my light in hopes that my career wouldn’t push away potential suitors. I know what you’re thinking, “Girl, why would you even consider that? If they’re for you, it won’t matter what you do.” Hey, don’t judge me, but also, I one hundred percent agree.
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That’s why this recent moment in Switzerland was right on time. When I first walked into the hotel to check in, I was blown away by the surrounding beauty. It was a five-star property with one of the world’s most famous thermal bathhouses. Yet, it was something about seeing that 90% of the hotel’s guests were couples, that forced me to sit back for a bit of introspection—while soaking in the thermal spa, of course.
As I went through the mental conversation, there was a battle of sorts. On one hand, I knew that being able to partake in experiences like the one I was having at that moment was important to me. I knew that, at times I actually love being able to dabble in the finer things—after all, I’ve worked hard to be able to afford them. On the other hand, and sadly, I knew that sometimes being a single Black woman that publicly showcases her “luxurious” habits can intimidate men and even scare them off from pursuing you under the guise of them feeling like they “can’t do anything for you, because you have everything.”
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So, what is a girl to do?
Do I minimize/hide the life and experiences that I have? Do I play down the hard work I’ve put in to get where I am professionally? Or, do I risk being single in exchange for being able to have said life, without backlash?
Luckily, the joy that I felt while being at this property won. There was something about taking a full day to simply pamper myself at the bathhouse and in my in-room steam shower and soaker tub, indulging in cuisine from a 2-star Michelin restaurant and doing all of this while surrounded by an amazing group of Black women that reminded me—this is certainly the life I was meant to live and that I deserve. Even if it means that right now, I’ll just have to provide it for myself until the right partner comes along. And honestly, I’m okay with that.
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