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I’m No Longer Dating Boys…I Only Date Myself

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  1. DarkEmpress says:

    I really appreciate this article. It has always bothered me how some black blogs and members of the black community love to claim that Halle is crazy because her relationships don’t work out. Meanwhile there is clear evidence that the men are the ones with issues. Wesley Snipes beat her leaving her with permanent hearing loss, Eric Benett was a serial cheater, Gabrielle Aubry definitely said some racist ish to her as she claimed (I believe it because his ex white Québécois gf said she was shocked he dated someone black bc he has said rascist things about blacks to her, if you’re black and lived in Quebec you won’t find this to be a stretch, if you’ve dated someone outside your race and discovered that the insidious nature of racism seeps out of them overtime, you’ll understand) and Olivier clearly has a temper. What I see is that Halle dates authoritative men. This happens with women like her, Jlo, because they are powerful in their careers and very beautiful, so most men are intimidated by them. The ones who follow through are likely to see them as a prize to be captured and they are attracted to these men because having someone take the lead in their personal life is a change of pace from their work life. It all goes south when the controlling gets out of hand or these authoritative men start to feel emasculated by the woman’s success out shining them.
    Of course both parties are often to blame for a failure in a relationship but only women seem to be deemed failures for ‘not keeping a man’. Whether or not you can maintain a successful relationship isn’t an indicator of your value as a person.

  2. Kyla Ky says:

    I’ve been told I’m picky as well but I’ve never dated any boys so I’ll continue to be picky/selective. I’m not even picky when it comes to looks, I’m picky about everything else that really matters. Does he treat me the way I deserve to be treated? How does he treat others? Does he have goals? The list goes on. I don’t settle and I’ll “talk” to someone for a long time before I decide to date them, I don’t like to waste my time.

  3. roseinweeds says:

    sigh. ok halle. thats relaly all i got.

  4. NRJ says:

    I love this article. I agree, I feel like this is one of the very few Black blogs with articles that haven’t bashed Halle Berry. We all have made mistakes when it comes to relationships and I’m happy that she is coming to this realization. No one should judge her about her choices unless they judge themselves first. I hate that we are so quick to bash our own.

    I also agree with the author in that I have dated boys (and girls). I’ve remained in relationships and friendships, not happy, feeling used knowing I can do better but I wasn’t secure in myself to let that person go or to not allow that person in my life in the first place. I desire companionship and intimacy however, currently I am dating myself, finding the companionship, intimacy and love within myself. I’m working on my healing and I am loving it!!!

  5. Sydney says:

    Hopefully one day, Halle will find a man who can love her beauty, flaws, and financial success. Mariah Carey hooked up with Nick Cannon. Someone she said was fun and supportive even though he made much less than her. People still gave him and her rough time. I believe people outside these relationships especially the public, play a part in these relationships not lasting. My point is if she finds a man outside the public eye and just keeps her relations uber private maybe she’ll have a chance. Best luck to her.


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