Kevin Hart On Meeting Eniko Pre-Money, Prenups & Why You'll Never Catch Him Cheating
Let's be clear--Kevin Hart's soon-to-be wife, Eniko Parrish, was here for her man way before he became a brand. But that doesn't mean the multimillion-dollar comedian won't do what he has to do before the two swap "I do's."
Although Kevin is willing to go half on his Hart, that's pretty much where he draws the line. The 36-year-old father and funny guy recently stopped by The Breakfast Club to dish on his upcoming summer nuptials to his longtime girlfriend of seven years, Eniko Parrish.
After getting engaged last year, the actor confirmed their August 8th wedding date, in which Kevin's eight-year-old son and best friend, Hendrix, will be his best man.
But before he and Eniko make that formal walk down the aisle, they'll casually be signing off on a prenup! According to Kevin, he and Eniko both agree that it's the best thing to do!
"If you don't [get a prenup] you're stupid! That's not even an issue with her and I. When I say I got a good one, I got a good one. A logical, thinking woman. Do you understand how hard that is? To get a woman that can think on a logistic, reality term, not just emotional level? We have great conversations and understanding moments where she gets my platform and where I am, and where I came from, and what is at stake, and what I'm protecting."
That's what's up! Most people find the discussion of a prenuptial agreement (prenup) to be tricky since many feel that it foreshadows the fate of your marriage. However, during a time when the divorce rate is still 40-50 percent, we say you may want to consider placing your pride aside to pick up that pen and fill out that paperwork.
And for those wondering why a prenup would even be up for debate between Kevin and Eniko, it's because, like any other woman who has been with a celebrity before he was a household name, some may assume she'd feel entitled, because FYI: she is not his trophy wife, she's been down!
"I didn't meet Eniko when I was 'Kev' (famous). I met her when it was 'Oh, it's about to get crazy.' I was doing some shows in the theatre I wasn't in arenas yet or movies. She's been around. Through public eye, it looks like 'Aww man, that's your money chick. She popped around when the money came.' Nah, she been around. We've got seven years!I got a good one. I can't play any games. I call her 'My Rib' and I don't think people understand what that means. It's from the Bible. A rib is something you can't live without, you're not supposed to live without."
You go boy! Some may try and make the argument that Eniko may have been drawn to Kevin's hustle and probably predicted his forthcoming success, giving further incentive to stay outside of love. After all, he may not have been in movies yet, but there is no denying Kev was at least steady booked. But does the ability to believe your man is about to blow up mean you should back off? Not at all. The reality is, hard work will always beat talent when talent fails to work hard. And clearly Kevin Hart has both. What isn't there to find attractive about a man chasing his dreams while still managing to cash a check?
Being attracted to a man with ambition who's winning doesn't necessarily make you a gold-digger. And when you've known someone before all the money, and for so long, don't even bother finishing the last line to "that" song.
Kevin also opened up about why he feels his marriage to Eniko will work better than his first one to ex-wife and actress, Torrei Hart, and let's just say, time and experience are key:
"I can say on record, within my last marriage, I take full responsibility for the mistakes I made. I'm not sitting up here saying I don't understand why it didn't work. I'm Guilty! *raises hand* I did wrong. That's why I got out of it because I said [to Torrei] 'You should be happy. You deserve better.' At that age of 22, I wasn't ready to be married. I didn't understand what it was. I'm 36 now. I got a good woman. She's 30 about to be 31. What else am I looking for? What else is out there?You can always try to find something that's better. Bigger ass and some breasts. But that never ends. So when you do find something that stimulates you in a mental and physical and emotional level, at this age, what else do I need?"
And as far as whether or not the father of two and soon-to-be husband (again) finds it hard to be loyal while in the prime of his success- not at all! When asked about his feelings on cheating Kevin made it clear that between loving his soon-to-be wife, social media, and being a grown man with responsibilities- he has no time for that!
"Today, at today's time, it's too risky to cheat. And not to say all women are opportunists, because that's not fair and that's not true, there are some women that have given other women a bad name. With the social media and the positing of 'In the bed with, boom. Look who's house.'
There is no safe return from [cheating]. I wouldn't be a good cheater right now because I don't even feel like I can trust you to cheat [with me]. I'd be like 'What you doing? You taking a picture? Why you going in there? You about to post that?' It's to much. There is no sanity that comes with it so why risk it? What am I going to throw it all away for? It's not worth it at all!"
Love it! Kevin Hart currently has also just signed a deal with Nike for his "Move with Hart" sneakers and fitness campaign. The colorways for the kicks are inspired by his kids, Heaven and Hendrix's, favorite colors (blue and red). He is the first comedian to snag an athletic endorsement deal with the shoe line. And on top of his mega movie deals this year (Ride Along 2, Central Intelligence, Secret Life of Pets), and his comedy tour, it's safe to say can't nobody knock his hustle!
Check out Kevin's full interview with the Breakfast Club here:
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ItGirl 100 Honors Black Women Who Create Culture & Put On For Their Cities
As they say, create the change you want to see in this world, besties. That’s why xoNecole linked up with Hyundai for the inaugural ItGirl 100 List, a celebration of 100 Genzennial women who aren’t afraid to pull up their own seats to the table. Across regions and industries, these women embody the essence of discovering self-value through purpose, honey! They're fierce, they’re ultra-creative, and we know they make their cities proud.
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THE ITGIRL MEMO
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II. An ItGirl celebrates all the things that make her unique.
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IV. An ItGirl leads by example, inspiring others through her actions and integrity.
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When discussing the topic of raising children, discipline is often the first thing that comes to mind. Children need discipline. Full stop. But what is discipline? And how do we draw the line between discipline and revenge?
The origin of the word "discipline" can be traced back to the Latin word "disciplina," which means "instruction" or "teaching." Over time, however, discipline has come to be synonymous with punishment, with parents relying on shame, fear, and/or physical pain to curb undesirable behavior.
Teaching takes time, so nipping it in the bud in whatever fashion parents deem necessary (within reason) has become the norm. But is this what’s best for children? And when does it become less about curbing undesirable behavior and more about getting our licks back for offenses we feel our children should know better to do?
In my work as a parenting coach, I’ve often heard parents say, “I asked him nicely three times before spanking him. He didn’t stop doing it until I did, so clearly talking doesn’t work.”
And the parent isn’t wrong. Talking often doesn’t work the first, the third, or the even the 10th time. And the reason is directly tied to brain development.
Children cannot and do not process information the way an adult can. Auditory processing is not fully developed until a child is 14 or 15 years old. And even then, if a child has auditory processing delays or Auditory Processing Disorder (APD), they may always struggle with processing auditory commands. According to Susie S. Loraine, MA, CCC-SLP, the term auditory processing refers to how the brain perceives and interprets sound information. Several skills determine auditory processing ability—or listening success. They develop in a general four-step hierarchy, but all work together and are essential for daily listening.
Without this understanding, discipline can easily become revenge because parents will then view their child’s misdeeds as a personal slight. Instead of teaching them to do better, parents now want to show them the consequences of not doing better. This is why it's imperative for parents to discern between discipline and revenge to maintain healthy relationships with their children.
5 WAYS TO DISTINGUISH BETWEEN PARENTAL GUIDANCE AND RETALIATION:
Understanding The Intent
Discipline is rooted in love and concern for the child's well-being. It focuses on teaching lessons and helping children understand the consequences of their actions. Conversely, revenge-driven actions stem from a desire to inflict pain or punishment as payback for perceived slights or disobedience. Parents should reflect on their motives before taking disciplinary actions. Ask yourself whether your intention is to help your child learn or to make them suffer for upsetting you.
Example: If a child accidentally breaks a valuable item, a disciplinary response would involve discussing the importance of being careful and working with the child to come up with a way to replace or fix what they’ve broken. On the other hand, a vengeful reaction might involve yelling, harsh punishment, or bringing up past mistakes to intensify guilt.
Maintaining Emotional Regulation
Effective discipline requires parents to remain calm and composed, even in challenging situations. It's natural to feel upset or frustrated when children misbehave, but responding with anger or resentment can escalate the situation and blur the line between discipline and revenge. Before addressing the issue, take a moment to breathe and collect your thoughts.
Example: If a child cannot follow instructions, a disciplined response would involve calmly explaining why their cooperation is necessary in working with the child to accomplish the goal. Conversely, a retaliatory response might involve shouting, name-calling, or resorting to physical punishment out of anger.
Promoting Growth and Learning
Discipline should always aim to promote growth and learning. It involves guiding children toward making better choices and understanding the impact of their actions on themselves and others. Effective discipline strategies include positive reinforcement, setting clear expectations, and providing opportunities for reflection and growth.
Example: If a child repeatedly forgets to complete their chores, a disciplinary approach would involve discussing the importance of responsibility and finding solutions together, such as creating a chore chart or setting reminders with Siri or Alexa. In contrast, a revenge-driven response might involve imposing overly harsh punishments or belittling the child, which can undermine their self-esteem and hinder their ability to learn from their mistakes.
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Building Trust and Communication
Trust and open communication are essential components of a healthy parent-child relationship. Discipline should strengthen this bond by fostering trust and encouraging children to confide in their parents without fear of judgment or retaliation. When children feel safe and supported, they're more likely to accept discipline as a form of guidance rather than punishment.
Example: If a child admits to breaking a rule or making a mistake, a disciplined response would involve listening to their perspective, discussing the consequences of their actions, and working together to find a solution. Conversely, a retaliatory response might involve accusations, blame, or shutting down communication, which can erode trust and damage the parent-child relationship.
Seeking Professional Guidance
Parenting is a learning journey, and, disciplining children is a delicate balance between guiding them toward responsible behavior and nurturing their growth. By understanding the intent behind our actions, maintaining emotional regulation, promoting growth and learning, building trust and communication, and seeking professional guidance when needed, as parents we can help our children built on love, respect, and understanding.
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