Here's Why Your 9-5 Might Never Go Out Of Style
The average person checks their social media at least 17 times a day - which in turn is almost equivalent to every waking hour in the day.
When we get up, we check in on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook and post a selfie before we even brush our teeth.
It doesn't matter what time I check my Instagram or Facebook, my timeline is always flooded with self-proclaimed entrepreneurs - you know those people that don't work 9-5's and try to sell the entrepreneurship lifestyle to anyone that will listen.
In this new era, everybody is screaming “I'm an entrepreneur," but honestly the reality is that everybody isn't meant to be an entrepreneur. Everybody doesn't have that type of hustle ingrained in them and are not built to own their own business - and that is okay. Just because you work 9-5 doesn't make you less of a girl boss or successful in your own line of work.
There is nothing wrong with working for a company as long as you work hard to be the best at what you do and are never complacent.
There are so many misconceptions that people have about working 9-5's and it causes people to run away from careers and companies that they were destined to work with. In my 9-5, I'm not sitting at a desk all day, staring at a computer, and sending unnecessary emails. I'm doing rewarding work everyday, and I am living out my dream of managing people and projects - and I do a damn good job at it too! Even outside of my 9-5, I am able to indulge in my hobby of writing every night because my work schedule is consistent and conducive to my lifestyle.
Despite what you may gather from self-proclaimed entrepreneurs on social media, you can still be popping with a 9-5. Listed below are my top 5 reasons why working a 9-5 can be the bomb.com.
1. A consistent, weekly schedule.
The theme for the year is being balanced, not busy. It is something that I have heard all over my Instagram feed. It is important that you find a way to be balanced and not busy in your life and learn how to be consistent as well. Everyday I know exactly what time I will go to work, and what time I will leave because my consistent 9-5 schedule allows me to. If you are an entrepreneur, you can still find a way to have a consistent schedule, but it becomes easier when you already know exactly what time your work starts and ends so that you can make room for other things.
2. The luxury of being off and getting paid on holidays.
When the holidays roll around, I am able to press snooze on my alarm a few extra times, watch The Real, chomp down on some pancakes, and then go back to bed for a mid-morning nap whenever I like. With most companies, depending on your position and the industry, you will have paid time off during the holidays. Throughout the year I work hella hard, so I love it when paid holidays roll around because it gives me the time off that I need.
3. Weekends are normally free.
Who doesn't love a good mimosa and a bomb brunch? I know I do! As I mentioned before, one thing that I love about having a normal 9-5 schedule is that I have weekends off so I am able to take care of my own business, partake in my favorite hobbies, and of course have a mimosa (or two, or three) at my favorite brunch spots.
4. Work normally stays at work.
Now, this can vary depending on what type of 9-5 that you have, but for many 9-5 type of jobs, once you leave at 5 P.M., then it is okay to leave “work at work." You won't get in trouble if you are not answering emails on the weekend or after hours, and often you will not be expected to bring projects home. I would advise that if you have your e-mail connected to your cell phone, try your best to not check emails until you are back at work. If you don't, it defeats the purpose of having a simple 9-5 schedule because you go from working 40 hours a week to 24/7.
5. You can get practice and the knowledge you need in business, before starting your own.
So, while you are working your 9-5, let's say you do want to one day pursue your hobby full-time, or partner with a friend in their business. If this is the case, you can get valuable experience in your own 9-5 job and you can apply what you learn to your own endeavors.
Even if you don't desire on being an entrepreneur, you can still get quality experience and knowledge on running a business without the heavy duty of being fully responsible.
If you didn't already, I hope you see that having a 9-5 can be just as great and rewarding as being an entrepreneur. Oftentimes, I don't think we give enough credit to our careers and our own successes in these spaces. As I mentioned before, everybody isn't built to be an entrepreneur and this is okay. You can be great in your own career path and can still make a difference.
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Brittani Hunter is a proud PVAMU alumni and the founder of The Mogul Millennial, a business and career platform for Black Millennials. Meet Brittani on Twitter and on the Gram at @BrittaniLHunter and @mogulmillennial.
ItGirl 100 Honors Black Women Who Create Culture & Put On For Their Cities
As they say, create the change you want to see in this world, besties. That’s why xoNecole linked up with Hyundai for the inaugural ItGirl 100 List, a celebration of 100 Genzennial women who aren’t afraid to pull up their own seats to the table. Across regions and industries, these women embody the essence of discovering self-value through purpose, honey! They're fierce, they’re ultra-creative, and we know they make their cities proud.
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How To Tell If You're Disciplining Your Child Or Seeking Revenge
When discussing the topic of raising children, discipline is often the first thing that comes to mind. Children need discipline. Full stop. But what is discipline? And how do we draw the line between discipline and revenge?
The origin of the word "discipline" can be traced back to the Latin word "disciplina," which means "instruction" or "teaching." Over time, however, discipline has come to be synonymous with punishment, with parents relying on shame, fear, and/or physical pain to curb undesirable behavior.
Teaching takes time, so nipping it in the bud in whatever fashion parents deem necessary (within reason) has become the norm. But is this what’s best for children? And when does it become less about curbing undesirable behavior and more about getting our licks back for offenses we feel our children should know better to do?
In my work as a parenting coach, I’ve often heard parents say, “I asked him nicely three times before spanking him. He didn’t stop doing it until I did, so clearly talking doesn’t work.”
And the parent isn’t wrong. Talking often doesn’t work the first, the third, or the even the 10th time. And the reason is directly tied to brain development.
Children cannot and do not process information the way an adult can. Auditory processing is not fully developed until a child is 14 or 15 years old. And even then, if a child has auditory processing delays or Auditory Processing Disorder (APD), they may always struggle with processing auditory commands. According to Susie S. Loraine, MA, CCC-SLP, the term auditory processing refers to how the brain perceives and interprets sound information. Several skills determine auditory processing ability—or listening success. They develop in a general four-step hierarchy, but all work together and are essential for daily listening.
Without this understanding, discipline can easily become revenge because parents will then view their child’s misdeeds as a personal slight. Instead of teaching them to do better, parents now want to show them the consequences of not doing better. This is why it's imperative for parents to discern between discipline and revenge to maintain healthy relationships with their children.
5 WAYS TO DISTINGUISH BETWEEN PARENTAL GUIDANCE AND RETALIATION:
Understanding The Intent
Discipline is rooted in love and concern for the child's well-being. It focuses on teaching lessons and helping children understand the consequences of their actions. Conversely, revenge-driven actions stem from a desire to inflict pain or punishment as payback for perceived slights or disobedience. Parents should reflect on their motives before taking disciplinary actions. Ask yourself whether your intention is to help your child learn or to make them suffer for upsetting you.
Example: If a child accidentally breaks a valuable item, a disciplinary response would involve discussing the importance of being careful and working with the child to come up with a way to replace or fix what they’ve broken. On the other hand, a vengeful reaction might involve yelling, harsh punishment, or bringing up past mistakes to intensify guilt.
Maintaining Emotional Regulation
Effective discipline requires parents to remain calm and composed, even in challenging situations. It's natural to feel upset or frustrated when children misbehave, but responding with anger or resentment can escalate the situation and blur the line between discipline and revenge. Before addressing the issue, take a moment to breathe and collect your thoughts.
Example: If a child cannot follow instructions, a disciplined response would involve calmly explaining why their cooperation is necessary in working with the child to accomplish the goal. Conversely, a retaliatory response might involve shouting, name-calling, or resorting to physical punishment out of anger.
Promoting Growth and Learning
Discipline should always aim to promote growth and learning. It involves guiding children toward making better choices and understanding the impact of their actions on themselves and others. Effective discipline strategies include positive reinforcement, setting clear expectations, and providing opportunities for reflection and growth.
Example: If a child repeatedly forgets to complete their chores, a disciplinary approach would involve discussing the importance of responsibility and finding solutions together, such as creating a chore chart or setting reminders with Siri or Alexa. In contrast, a revenge-driven response might involve imposing overly harsh punishments or belittling the child, which can undermine their self-esteem and hinder their ability to learn from their mistakes.
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Building Trust and Communication
Trust and open communication are essential components of a healthy parent-child relationship. Discipline should strengthen this bond by fostering trust and encouraging children to confide in their parents without fear of judgment or retaliation. When children feel safe and supported, they're more likely to accept discipline as a form of guidance rather than punishment.
Example: If a child admits to breaking a rule or making a mistake, a disciplined response would involve listening to their perspective, discussing the consequences of their actions, and working together to find a solution. Conversely, a retaliatory response might involve accusations, blame, or shutting down communication, which can erode trust and damage the parent-child relationship.
Seeking Professional Guidance
Parenting is a learning journey, and, disciplining children is a delicate balance between guiding them toward responsible behavior and nurturing their growth. By understanding the intent behind our actions, maintaining emotional regulation, promoting growth and learning, building trust and communication, and seeking professional guidance when needed, as parents we can help our children built on love, respect, and understanding.
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