Do You Suffer From Destination Addiction?
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For The Women In The Constant Pursuit Of Happiness

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  1. Ciera Brown says:

    I do. And its so weird because I use to be the happy single girl a few years ago. But I guess now since I’m older and see all of my peers getting married starting families. Those are things I want too. And I’ve been single for years so it’s like when is it gonna be my turn?

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    1. Maybe never. You will never be like your friends but you can build a fulfiling life that is meant for YOU.

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  2. Alicia says:

    One of the main quotes on my vision board is “Don’t Be So Hard on Yourself” its real easy to get down on yourself because of social media or caring about what your friends would say/think about your life. A lot of times we don’t realize the victories we’ve already won because we are too busy looking at the defeat.

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  3. Yes! It’s easy to happen cuz we live in a time where ppl are so focused on the next. “You single today but you gon’ find your Boaz tomorrow just keep working on yourself…You have a sucky job now but keep hustling/grinding for tomorrow”
    No one says…just wake up and be happy and thankful…it is what it is

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  4. Naw…but I do suffer from re-creation addiction…. I like to strip my spirit to the bare minimum, rebuild and reinvent myself…

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    1. Girl! I don’t even have the proper respond to this! #EffinHilarious

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  5. Ebbey says:

    I really needed to read this. I’m always on the pursuit of happiness. Every place I visit makes me contemplate, if my life would be better if I moved there. I think the problem started after I turned 30 because I expected to be married, have my house and a life so much better than I do now. I figured that my life would suddenly become everything that I dreamed of.
    It took me a long time to realize that my happiness starts with me and that I need to love myself before anyone else could.
    Now I’m in the process of starting my Masters, not because all of my friends have one but because it I would like to be more educated and have a career.

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  6. I am happy with my current situation,however I feel like things will get better in the future….ohhh xoNecole your posts give me life. I am working on being a better person,self love and your posts are helpful.Thanks!!

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  7. Naomi says:

    Needed this! Beautifully written and everything I needed right now.

    Thank you!

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  8. Jazii Jay says:

    I do, and I don’t know how to delude myself into happiness in my current situation.

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  9. These posts are going hard today Dawn Madden so many epiphanies today haha

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  10. Toya easily one of the best things I’ve read in forever! I know so many friends/ppl that can identify with this. I’ve been there before too.

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  11. Great Article! I found that quote a while ago and realized I was a destination addict for sure. I soon began to work on being happy with who I am, and where I am in my life. In reality I wasn’t that bad off, in fact I had a great life.

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  12. Brianna says:

    Wow! This article is so easy to relate to. As a 27 year old RN still living at home I really feel like I’m at a stand still in my life. I’m in this “trying to find myself” zone that I never knew really existed. Stuck in a head space of whether travel nursing, moving to LA or even going back to school will bring me the life fulfillment that I’m racking my brain over. Afraid to make the wrong move by not being patient enough or taking the safe route and missing opportunities. I know the true answer lies in God as I also seek to find my purpose in Him and fulfill my destiny. So as I continue make moves towards strengthening my relationship with God and learning how to love myself the answers will be revealed. I don’t wanna be a destination addict. I just wanna enjoy life!

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  13. Raven Jay says:

    This is an amazing read! I’ve dealt with this at the university I’m attending, with friends and relationships. I used to be that girl, but I’m growing and learning to love myself my journey and my happiness–in that moment <3

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  14. I definitely do…

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  15. Lisa Jones says:

    This is such an important topic.

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  16. Tj Jaymes says:

    I will have you know I feel VERY COMPLETE in my life and am NOT running away to Germany! Now yes, there are SOME similarities. Maybe I don’t make work friends because of my work ethic. Okay. Maybe I do apartment hop and state hop. Sure. Maybe I dont have a bf. Maybe I’m not happy with my job. Maybe I do think that happiness is just one big life change away…..

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  17. Maybe… I’m not ready to stop. I’d rather be addicted to destinations than to other things or people.

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  18. Unfortunately yes. but am changing. am learning to stop postponing hapiness

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  19. Kyla Ky says:

    I definitely suffered from destination addiction throughout college and I may even suffer from it a bit now. NYC was the place I just had to be. The companies I wanted to work for did not have any offices in Canada so I was ready to pack up and move to America. However, watching/reading the news started to scare me so I decided to stick to what I knew and stay where I felt at home/safe. I still feel like moving at times to really accomplish my career goals but I’ll work with what I have here in Canada.

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  20. Nafisah says:

    I didn’t know this about myself until I hit my mid twenties. Now that I’m in my mid thirties I at least understand that happiness is temporary based on whatever conditions make each individual feel good. Me being on my grind and hustling is part of who I am but even that doesn’t define my happiness. When I get in this mode I have to actively think about enjoying each day and appreciating the life I have in that exact moment to bring me back to reality! God is good and REAL TALK He didn’t have to wake me up today. That truth has never failed me.

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  21. bee says:

    I so needed this. I have been searching for happiness everywhere but internally. I kept saying that I know that i’ll be happier if I move away. And even when i’m on vacations, there are times where I can’t just focus on the present moment. I don’t even know how I got here, but i’m a work in progress. I need me & I need to be happy where I am.

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  22. Sharon Green says:

    I just need more money to continue my addiction. 🙂

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  23. I love it..ive lived everyehere…currently living in nyc and awaiting a “Stedman” with the same mindset

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  24. Well needed article!

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  25. I just get creative and redecorate my room. The struggle is real. Lol

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  26. Peta-Gaye says:

    This was sooooo awesomely written! Nothing but FACTS!!!! Thank you! I have recently stepped away from all social media platforms just to be a little more present and relieve some of the pressure I was putting on myself. Its always awesome to read pieces from people who just get it! This is encouraging.

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  27. Tammy says:

    This post gave me literal life. I recently moved to LA with my husband for his job and even though I love the weather here, have an amazing relationship with my husband, and like my job – I’m always looking for the next thing! Idk why I do that. It’s been my dream to move to LA for years and as soon as I got here I was like… what’s next? I want a new car, a dog, etc. I’m definitely going to start living in the moment because happiness is not a destination, it comes from within <3

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  28. Wineand Popcorn says:

    Wow. Wonderful read. I was just thinking of going on another social media break. See my boyfriend and I just broke up for the 4th time in 7yrs and my entire feed is filled with proposals and weddings and gender reveals and everything else that should have been our future. I lost sight of how proud I am of myself for going back to school to get my degree is business administration and many other wonderful things that are happening in my life. I will be sharing this with my girlfriends and also my ex.

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  29. Chymere says:

    I absolutely love this piece, because it was very reflective of the path I’ve been down myself: where I convinced myself that a new city would do the trick and all the problems I had up to that point would magically disappear. And I’m finally at a place now where I’ve recognized how damaging that can be and how impossible it is to run away from myself. This line resonates me: “You have to step back every now and then and be honest about the part you play in your own unhappiness” I absolutely agree.

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