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5 Pieces Of Dating Advice I Wish I Could Give My Younger Self!

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  1. Kyla Ky says:

    The only advice I would give my younger self (and even now) would be to open up more. I have a hard time letting people in so I’ve never had any dating “issues” because I never let anyone get close enough to hurt me. However, there have been a few guys I wish I had opened up to as they were good guys but I just couldn’t open up/let them in.

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  2. MzAbraham says:

    I agree with everything 100 percent! Especially number one.

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  3. Juju says:

    Preach!!!! Very well written 😊

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  4. Katu says:

    Amazing post! Loving yourself is key and without having the strength to love yourself unconditionally and accepting all that makes you you, it’s impossible to love anyone else. it starts with you. <3

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  5. Have fun with the process! I think we are so focused on finding “the one” at a young age we forget to enjoy and learn during the process. I wish I would have though more about long term stability instead of wanting the person who was making me feel good at the time even tho I knew he was No good lol

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  6. Fungai says:

    the only advise I would give myself is stay true to who you are, I am a man who was raised by strong African women who taught me to be a gentleman, they taught me compassion ,empathy, respect. I am a product of a broken home and growing up in a male dominated African society ,my views changed as I grew up ,I let society tell me that being a gentleman and being courteous was being weak and “thirsty”. A couple of failed relationships later ,when I look back ,I know I should’ve done better coz I knew better

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  7. Ra says:

    Don’t fall in love after one or two pleasant acts of kindness. You need a lifetime of kindness. Wait & see a bit before you share heart & mind space with a rascal.

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  8. I’m still learning but I would say take it easy, but also don’t ignore the red flags. Run fast. Lol

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  9. Blueberry01 says:

    I’m glad that you had enough courage to leave that abusive relationship, Ruu.

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  10. Alicia Brown says:

    To piggy back off what Stacey said….the book “Boundaries in Dating” said “its ok to have romantic feelings but don’t believe them.” Those romantic feelings or thoughts of a potential bae may cause you to overlook reality

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  11. Don’t open to people real quick and don’t get your feelings involved so fast. Don’t put yourself out there unless he’s taking you seriously.

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  12. Don’t claim anyone before they claim you.

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  13. Just date and get to know people. Not everyone has to be your boyfriend.

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  14. Worry about you you and you. Love your parents with your whole being.

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  15. I would have told myself Never get comfortable in anything. Work ,relationships, goals. It’s good to be humble but don’t forget what you’re worth. … Yeah that’s it lol

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  16. Bee says:

    Mine would be (like you said) trust your intuition, believe people when they show you who they are, there is no need to rush into anything. Oh, and not every guy that you date will potentially be your husband. lol I had a problem with putting the cart before the horse and wondering, “Is this my future husband?” LOL Big mistake .. laugh-worthy at this point, but i’m glad that experience has taught me how to manuever better in this savage dating world. lol

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  17. Genesis Aries says:

    Always remember It’s not a person’s intent that matters, it’s what they do that counts.

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  18. Ciarra says:

    Great article.

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  19. Good for you. Awesome article .

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  20. Meeka says:

    This was really good!!

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  21. Man I would have a book of instructions lol Kristin RodriguezAisha Scott

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  22. Hmm what would I say to my younger self. In the words of the great Maya Angelou .. “When ppl show you who they are the first time around, believe them!”

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  23. Alicia Brown says:

    When a man tells you he isn’t ready for a relationship believe him and move on if you’re not ok with being a place holder

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    1. JoJo Davis says:

      This!!!! A life lesson learned

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    2. Alicia Brown says:

      JoJo Davis yes ma’am! Same here. Sometimes we try to hang in there hoping he’ll change his mind but he isn’t and he’s ready to throw that “I told you I wasn’t ready for a relationship” card down at any moment

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  24. Stacey Gould says:

    Don’t be so open. Don’t see the good or the potential self, see people as they are and act accordingly. Forgive yourself. It’s okay to cry n make mistakes just don’t meditate on it. I will tell her don’t trust so easily. Lesson learnt n still learning.

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  25. Angela Love says:

    They going to stare anyway so make it worthwhile lol

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  26. Keep ignoring all of them. Focus

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  27. Shydeia says:

    Really great article, its always refreshing to read things like this online. Such positivity.

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  28. Be a serial monogamous

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  29. Akin Alina says:

    Like most are saying and with any relationship spot and respond to the red flags.

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  30. Sophia Hoyte says:

    Leave marriage alone. It’s over rated.

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  31. Car Michelle says:

    Trust your own eyes and ears and not what others say. Trust your intuition

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  32. Put yourself first,if he wants to join that’s fine if not that’s fine to.set your own standards and if he don’t play by your rules then make room for the next ONE.im 35yrs old and this is still my advice and i will teach my teenage daughter the same

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  33. Diam says:

    My piece of advice would be, “don’t be afraid to say no.” In so many cases, guys begged and pleaded to date me, and because I was so nice, I would say yes. They were persistent, and really nice guys at the time. We were friends, but they wanted to make it exclusive, although I wasn’t pressed about it. Well, I regret being pressured into saying yes because it totally ruined the cool friendship and turned me into the overbearing, needy girlfriend. It literally was like I had a switch when I changed titles from friend to girlfriend with some of my good guy friends. Today, I don’t have as many guys begging me to be with them, but if I had stood up for myself, followed my intuition, and not been fearful of losing my good guy friends for turning them down, I would have probably enjoyed my early 20’s a lot more, being stress free from relationships that I didn’t even want to be in, initially. Please check out more of my thoughts at diamspeak.com.

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    I’ve been trying for quite a while however i never appear to arrive there!
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