Dear Queen,
“Sometimes the beauty is in the attempt, you tried everything, you fought and it still didn’t work..”
Dear Queen,
“Sometimes the beauty is in the attempt, you tried everything, you fought and it still didn’t work..”
Celebrate the love that hurt you.
celebrate the person who couldn’t love you right.
The one who kept you guessing and lead you on,
who would kiss you and under the same breath say, “we are just friends”,
Who would say “I love you” and disappear,
Who made you feel like a desperate version of yourself.
Celebrate that you recognize and see now what inconsistent, unbalanced love does to a person and remember to never give it yourself.
Celebrate in knowing you are better off without that kind of love,
celebrate to know that love changes and shifts, just like life.
So sometimes “the one” isn’t really “the one” and just a lesson needed in that moment of your journey.
Celebrate that love had power to move you and that’s how you know it was real — it changed you.
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Instead of crying tears of hurt
pop a bottle, put on your beautiful smile
and celebrate what you gained, not lost —
you lose nothing, they do.
Celebrate that this insane, crazy, miraculous life is much more than just one unbalanced love -
celebrate that you deserve more.
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Demetra Demi Gregorakis is a writer, dedicated to sharing her soul with the universe. Her debut book of poetry "Love Letters In The Wall: Agapé Edition" is coming soon! For more adventures on love and life follow her at medium and twitter!
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As they say, create the change you want to see in this world, besties. That’s why xoNecole linked up with Hyundai for the inaugural ItGirl 100 List, a celebration of 100 Genzennial women who aren’t afraid to pull up their own seats to the table. Across regions and industries, these women embody the essence of discovering self-value through purpose, honey! They're fierce, they’re ultra-creative, and we know they make their cities proud.
Don’t forget to also check out the ItGirl Directory, featuring 50 Black-woman-owned marketing and branding agencies, photographers and videographers, publicists, and more.
I. An ItGirl puts on for her city and masters her self-worth through purpose.
II. An ItGirl celebrates all the things that make her unique.
III. An ItGirl empowers others to become the best versions of themselves.
IV. An ItGirl leads by example, inspiring others through her actions and integrity.
V. An ItGirl paves the way for authenticity and diversity in all aspects of life.
VI. An ItGirl uses the power of her voice to advocate for positive change in the world.
Black women of the 90s and early 2000s had incense, and Black women of today are fully embracing our luxury candle era. Candles have become just as important as our perfume selections, and as a luxury candle connoisseur, I keep all of my favorites in stock in my storage closet.
Whether you’re moving out for the first time and want to try new scents or looking to set the mood for a self-care day or sexy evening, consider these Black-owned candle brands to curate the vibe you’re looking for.
If you’re the bougie friend of the group, this candle is for you. Hanifa has become a staple luxury brand; with celebs like Tracee Ellis Ross, Jennifer Hudson, Naomi Campbell, and Danielle Brooks seen in her designs, they have become everyone's favorite brand. They recently launched their first candle, The Original. The candle is infused with notes of mandarin, orange blossom, caramel, sandalwood, jasmine sambac, and vanilla.
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Need some inspiration to get up and section that hair so you can get to washing? Not to worry. This pineapple, mango coconut milk, and sugar candle will have your house smelling as good as your favorite conditioner.
If you’re a girl who loves clean scents that clear the energy in your home and feel like the best Sunday you ever had, you need this candle. Infused with wild basil and lemongrass, it’s guaranteed to help you find your zen.
Champagne Showers is the perfect candle for a birthday celebration, Sunday brunch night in, or toast to your next big win! The candle includes a blend of bright bergamot, peach fizz, and creamy woods. It’s a bubbly fragrance that’s as sophisticated as our girl, Jackie Aina.
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Let the tears flow, and let the healing begin. This rainwater, lavender, vanilla, and bean and bourbon candle is just what the doctor ordered if you’re getting over a breakup. But once you’re done crying, just remember you're worthy of much more, okay?
If you’re done crying and have found the one you’ve been waiting for, let this candle burn as warm as your love for your new boo. Harlem Candle Co.'s "Love" fragrance represents a dramatic, romantic theme with both masculine and feminine accords melding beautifully together, infused with crisp apple and watery green notes.
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