4 Affirmations To Help You Through Your Break Up
Breaking up is hard to do. At times, drama in the form of conflict, constant arguments, verbal abuse, and cheating can make it slightly easier to put an end to dead end relationships.
Other times, break ups last for years – languid and slow – dragging because neither party involved wants to say goodbye to what they know. Comfort and security becomes more important than happiness and healthy love. A significant part of you settles and whether it's realized or not, self esteem takes a blow because essentially you've forgotten yourself and your worth.
One day you come to your senses and say “it's over." Finally. But despite the fact that you've done what's best for you by moving on and putting yourself first, there will be parts of you that need repair: heart, mind, and soul. The start of that necessary self care journey begins with healing inwardly, a result that can be achieved through the method of affirmations.
Affirmations are a means of affirming what is and act as a means of emotional encouragement and support for yourself. What we say to ourselves in our time of need is so crucial. Especially that two-week timeframe where we get tempted to go back to what we know. Don't let nostalgia fool you. It can be quite the bitch.
"Don't let nostalgia fool you. It can be quite the bitch."
Below are four affirmations that will help guide you in your post-break up healing:
I Exist, Therefore I Am Love
Often times we believe that love is something to be felt externally, separate from ourselves, but in fact, the fact that we are living, breathing reflections of God and the universe (whatever your beliefs), means that you are a being of love. So the next time you are feeling devoid of love, look at yourself, look inward into the self, and remember that affirmation of love being something cultivated from within that extends to the outer world.
I Am Love Therefore I Am Loved
Again, simply being a being of love means that you are loved unconditionally. Sometimes we wish we had a choice of where that love comes from, but that isn't always the case. In instances like that, it's important to remember that it's not about the details as much as it's about the feeling. What you put out into the world returns to you tenfold, so when you say this affirmation to you post-breakup, remember the beautiful friends, family members, and even strangers you encounter everyday who embrace you just because you are you. They give you the love that you give yourself. Focus on that positive energy.
It's Okay Not to Be Okay
Cue the Adele Spotify playlist. There's an emphasis in this world to go, go, go, and there is no exception to that when applied to breakups. While I believe it's important to inject positivity in all ways always, it is okay to be realistic about how you feel in the moment. A breakup is still a loss and that means grieving comes into play. It's okay to be sad for a while; it's natural, and it is important to forgive yourself for the emotional hurdle you must overcome. So if you're not feeling 100% and aren't ready to sing the single ready to mingle "I'm every woman" anthems in the clubs just yet, don't fret. You'll get there rest assured and assure yourself that not being okay is the process of getting to okay.
I Love Myself in Every Aspect of Me & of My Life
While it is okay to give yourself assurance that you're not feeling like your best self, it is important to not get too caught up in the woes of a breakup. Don't backpedal and ask yourself what you did wrong, what could have gone right, and most importantly don't question what is wrong with you. Nothing is wrong with you. The relationship just didn't work. There are things that could have been better but if it has left you feeling inadequate or being self critical, it undoubtedly wasn't the relationship for you. Love yourself and embrace all of you, flaws and all. Don't punish yourself for losing something that wasn't for you and the life you're trying to lead for yourself. Think of that lesson as a blessing.
What are some affirmations that help you heal through your break ups?
ItGirl 100 Honors Black Women Who Create Culture & Put On For Their Cities
As they say, create the change you want to see in this world, besties. That’s why xoNecole linked up with Hyundai for the inaugural ItGirl 100 List, a celebration of 100 Genzennial women who aren’t afraid to pull up their own seats to the table. Across regions and industries, these women embody the essence of discovering self-value through purpose, honey! They're fierce, they’re ultra-creative, and we know they make their cities proud.
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THE ITGIRL MEMO
I. An ItGirl puts on for her city and masters her self-worth through purpose.
II. An ItGirl celebrates all the things that make her unique.
III. An ItGirl empowers others to become the best versions of themselves.
IV. An ItGirl leads by example, inspiring others through her actions and integrity.
V. An ItGirl paves the way for authenticity and diversity in all aspects of life.
VI. An ItGirl uses the power of her voice to advocate for positive change in the world.
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6 Flexible Entry-Level Remote Careers That Truly Require No Experience
It’s always frustrating when you’re new to the job market, transitioning into something new, or you’ve taken a few gap years to care for children, and a so-called entry-level opportunity actually requires experience. If you’ve just graduated from your program or you’ve been working in another field for years, how is this possible?
Well, there are job opportunities, according to the experts at FlexJobs, that require no experience and are perfect for those who are looking to make a change or are new to an industry or role. And many of these roles are fully remote, allowing you to make money while at home (or almost anywhere in some cases.)
Here are six remote jobs that require little to no experience to help you get an idea of where to start:
1. Administrative
According to FlexJobs, there’s a demand for virtual and executive assistants who can provide support to others using the transferable skills they’ve learned either working in another industry or that they’ve been trained to do in college or a trade school. These roles require “clear communication skills and efficiency will impress potential clients and employers.” And the fun factor: You can choose what type of company or type of assistance work you want to do, oftentimes can set your own hours, and if you find purpose in helping a visionary reach their vision, this is a hit.
2. Language & Translation
Working as a translator involves “translating verbal files into written documents, using video to interpret virtually, or proofreading and cleaning up translated files.” You can also use these skills in education or for corporate communications, so if you have certifications or you’re fluent in multiple languages, this might be a good fit.
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3. Social Media
We all know social media is here to stay, and there are lucrative ways to leverage. Brands and larger companies need passionate professionals to manage their pages, automate posts, or provide strategy, and while some professionals bring marketing degrees to these jobs, this industry is wide open for those who have skills in using popular platforms, videography, art direction, and creative voice.
4. Sales
For those who have worked in retail, have a natural gift of gab, or are motivated by the hustle, this career lane is a hit, especially when it comes to online sales jobs. Some entry-level sales positions involve working in a call center, but if you’re able to sell your transferable skills well, you can apply for sales jobs at various companies with experience from another field or a college degree from a CG in a call center environment and either taking inbound calls or making outbound calls in order to sell a product or service.
5. Customer Service
While this one can get a bad rap, it’s a great opportunity for someone looking for a change who loves serving others. Oftentimes, you can find gigs that are web-based, and several openings require no previous customer service experience. There’s also potential for growth and thriving in customer service if you’re great at sales and you land a gig at a company that rewards meeting goals every month or year. Skills in communication, typing, and professional conflict resolution are valuable in this field.
6. Travel & Hospitality
Jobs like being a travel agent allow you to help vacationers and corporate leaders alike plan, book, and troubleshoot trips, whether for business or pleasure. You can also find opportunities to work for a hotel or resort or even for small businesses that specialize in offering Airbnbs. For this job, you’ll typically need to have “good people skills and the ability to easily learn new software programs.”
Find out more about remote jobs where you need little to no experience via FlexJobs or follow them on Instagram.
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