33 Morning Rituals To Start Your Day
What's the first thing you did when you woke up this morning?
Did you roll over and check your smartphone? I knew it! Is this what the world has come to? Being a slave to Apple and Android? Come on, we have to do better…
Maintaining balance and growth in my life has always been very high on my list, so capturing ways to contribute to such lifestyle is of high importance to me.
When I open my eyes I'm sure to open a window for some fresh air, do some light reading, make my bed, drink a glass warm water or tea and jot down a few of my thoughts. Sounds peaceful doesn't it?!?!?
Rituals and routines are wonderful, but I still make it point to switch things up a bit every now and then. Some mornings, I just don't want to write or have a cup of tea. When I need to pull in some new inspiration this is the list I choose a replacement ritual from:
- Take a few deep breathes and take life in.
- Stretch for at least one minute
- Give thanks/pray/gratitude
- Make up the Bed [every single day]
- Eat breakfast [not too big though]
- Drink tea
- Read a chapter
- Write down your thoughts [on paper and not on your phone] or last nights dreams
- Take a teaspoon of coconut oil and apple cider vinegar
- Open your blinds or curtains
- Listen to music that speaks to your temperament
- Dance
- Verbalize a handful of personal affirmations
- Yoga
- Work out
- Do a steam treatment
- Paint your nails
- Take a swim
- Brisk walk around the block
- Write down your goals for the day, week, month and year
- Do a goal check up
- Practice mindfulness – meditate
- Drink lemon water
- Laugh
- Romp around [hubba hubba– I'm such a creep lol]
- Make your lunch
- Get some fresh air on your patio or porch
- Listen to your favorite podcast or audiobook
- Make a smoothie
- Smile in the mirror for 20 seconds
- Look at bright colors
- Straighten up around the house.
- Tell yourself in the mirror how smart, beautiful and deserving you are!
Yes, this is a real list that I've doodled in my journal over the last few months.
I understand rituals are meant to be done in a prescribed order, but I'm always been one to shake things up. Let your routine always allow for two to three constants (for me that's eating a hearty breakfast and making the bed) as well as two to three variable rituals that you can switch up depending on your mood. I'm still learning to make number 25, 30 and 33 more permanent.
Hopefully it will serve you well as you journey towards a better you!
What would you add to the list?
Originally posted on GoodLooknout.com
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How To Tell If You're Disciplining Your Child Or Seeking Revenge
When discussing the topic of raising children, discipline is often the first thing that comes to mind. Children need discipline. Full stop. But what is discipline? And how do we draw the line between discipline and revenge?
The origin of the word "discipline" can be traced back to the Latin word "disciplina," which means "instruction" or "teaching." Over time, however, discipline has come to be synonymous with punishment, with parents relying on shame, fear, and/or physical pain to curb undesirable behavior.
Teaching takes time, so nipping it in the bud in whatever fashion parents deem necessary (within reason) has become the norm. But is this what’s best for children? And when does it become less about curbing undesirable behavior and more about getting our licks back for offenses we feel our children should know better to do?
In my work as a parenting coach, I’ve often heard parents say, “I asked him nicely three times before spanking him. He didn’t stop doing it until I did, so clearly talking doesn’t work.”
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Without this understanding, discipline can easily become revenge because parents will then view their child’s misdeeds as a personal slight. Instead of teaching them to do better, parents now want to show them the consequences of not doing better. This is why it's imperative for parents to discern between discipline and revenge to maintain healthy relationships with their children.
5 WAYS TO DISTINGUISH BETWEEN PARENTAL GUIDANCE AND RETALIATION:Â Â
​Understanding The Intent
Discipline is rooted in love and concern for the child's well-being. It focuses on teaching lessons and helping children understand the consequences of their actions. Conversely, revenge-driven actions stem from a desire to inflict pain or punishment as payback for perceived slights or disobedience. Parents should reflect on their motives before taking disciplinary actions. Ask yourself whether your intention is to help your child learn or to make them suffer for upsetting you.
Example: If a child accidentally breaks a valuable item, a disciplinary response would involve discussing the importance of being careful and working with the child to come up with a way to replace or fix what they’ve broken. On the other hand, a vengeful reaction might involve yelling, harsh punishment, or bringing up past mistakes to intensify guilt.
​Maintaining Emotional Regulation
Effective discipline requires parents to remain calm and composed, even in challenging situations. It's natural to feel upset or frustrated when children misbehave, but responding with anger or resentment can escalate the situation and blur the line between discipline and revenge. Before addressing the issue, take a moment to breathe and collect your thoughts.
Example: If a child cannot follow instructions, a disciplined response would involve calmly explaining why their cooperation is necessary in working with the child to accomplish the goal. Conversely, a retaliatory response might involve shouting, name-calling, or resorting to physical punishment out of anger.
​Promoting Growth and Learning
Discipline should always aim to promote growth and learning. It involves guiding children toward making better choices and understanding the impact of their actions on themselves and others. Effective discipline strategies include positive reinforcement, setting clear expectations, and providing opportunities for reflection and growth.
Example: If a child repeatedly forgets to complete their chores, a disciplinary approach would involve discussing the importance of responsibility and finding solutions together, such as creating a chore chart or setting reminders with Siri or Alexa. In contrast, a revenge-driven response might involve imposing overly harsh punishments or belittling the child, which can undermine their self-esteem and hinder their ability to learn from their mistakes.
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Building Trust and Communication
Trust and open communication are essential components of a healthy parent-child relationship. Discipline should strengthen this bond by fostering trust and encouraging children to confide in their parents without fear of judgment or retaliation. When children feel safe and supported, they're more likely to accept discipline as a form of guidance rather than punishment.
Example: If a child admits to breaking a rule or making a mistake, a disciplined response would involve listening to their perspective, discussing the consequences of their actions, and working together to find a solution. Conversely, a retaliatory response might involve accusations, blame, or shutting down communication, which can erode trust and damage the parent-child relationship.
Seeking Professional Guidance
Parenting is a learning journey, and, disciplining children is a delicate balance between guiding them toward responsible behavior and nurturing their growth. By understanding the intent behind our actions, maintaining emotional regulation, promoting growth and learning, building trust and communication, and seeking professional guidance when needed, as parents we can help our children built on love, respect, and understanding.
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