10 Tips To Make You Stand Out At Your Next Job Interview
So you're one step closer to landing your dream job. You just got the email confirming your in-person job interview and now, quite frankly, you're freaking out.
It's understandable. Interviews can be intimidating. One wrong answer and all your hard work can be diminished to zero. It's even more stressful when you're interviewing with a company that you know is the perfect fit for you.
Here are a few tips to show the hiring manager that you are the right and only person for the job:
Before The Interview
Do your research.Find out the company culture by exploring the website and checking their social media pages. There are 5 ways to do this successfully.
Figure out your ETA.Map out how long it will take you to get to the interview so that you can avoid being late. Use Google maps or your preferred GPS.
Practice your responses. Here's 31 of the most common interview questions. Study the typical questions and practice how you would answer them.
Speak to the secretary.Once you get there, don't waste time in the lobby battling your nervous jitters, instead use that time to be nice and polite to the secretary. How you behave when your interviewer isn't around is just as important as how you behave when she walks into the room.
During The Interview
Dress professionally, of course.Appearance is the first thing your interviewer will see, make it memorable. If you're still not sure how to dress for your interview, read this.
Bring a bottle of water.If you're extremely nervous and you want to be able to have a few extra seconds to respond to hard questions, bring a bottle of water so that you can open it up and take a sip while you think about your response. It's a good thing to do once or twice during an interview.
Ask your own questions.This is your opportunity to evaluate the company too, take advantage of it. Here is a list of questions to choose from and be sure to never ask these questions.
After The Interview
Go to the restroom. Ask to go to the restroom once the interview is over. This will give you a chance to tour the office and will allow you to determine if it's an environment you will enjoy.
Say thank you.If you really want to leave a lasting impression, send a thank you email and a written thank you note. Have an empty thank you card handy, prior to the interview. Once the interview is over, go to your car, fill out the card, put it in an envelope and leave it with the secretary or drop it at the postal office on your way home.
Follow up. Following-up after an interview can be tricky. Here are 10 templates you can use to follow up after an in-person interview, phone interview and other situations.
The waiting game can be tough. But, doing all that you can to show that you are the best candidate for a position before, during, and after an interview is the best thing you can do to combat your fear and anxiety. Worst case scenario, you'll have no regrets even if you don't get the job. Best case scenario? You'll be able to say good-bye to life as you know it and hello to the next chapter of your life. It's worth the effort!
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What are some techniques you practice to make sure you land the job when you interview? Let us know in the comments below!
*Originally posted on employeeredefined.com
Adunola Adeshola was the girl always searching for jobs in her free time and having weekly mini meltdowns about her career. Now, she is the founder of employeeREDEFINED and she teaches driven, purpose-minded millennials how to get more out of their careers and lives. Visit employeeREDEFINED.com for more tips and advice on how to get unstuck in your career and life.
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When discussing the topic of raising children, discipline is often the first thing that comes to mind. Children need discipline. Full stop. But what is discipline? And how do we draw the line between discipline and revenge?
The origin of the word "discipline" can be traced back to the Latin word "disciplina," which means "instruction" or "teaching." Over time, however, discipline has come to be synonymous with punishment, with parents relying on shame, fear, and/or physical pain to curb undesirable behavior.
Teaching takes time, so nipping it in the bud in whatever fashion parents deem necessary (within reason) has become the norm. But is this what’s best for children? And when does it become less about curbing undesirable behavior and more about getting our licks back for offenses we feel our children should know better to do?
In my work as a parenting coach, I’ve often heard parents say, “I asked him nicely three times before spanking him. He didn’t stop doing it until I did, so clearly talking doesn’t work.”
And the parent isn’t wrong. Talking often doesn’t work the first, the third, or the even the 10th time. And the reason is directly tied to brain development.
Children cannot and do not process information the way an adult can. Auditory processing is not fully developed until a child is 14 or 15 years old. And even then, if a child has auditory processing delays or Auditory Processing Disorder (APD), they may always struggle with processing auditory commands. According to Susie S. Loraine, MA, CCC-SLP, the term auditory processing refers to how the brain perceives and interprets sound information. Several skills determine auditory processing ability—or listening success. They develop in a general four-step hierarchy, but all work together and are essential for daily listening.
Without this understanding, discipline can easily become revenge because parents will then view their child’s misdeeds as a personal slight. Instead of teaching them to do better, parents now want to show them the consequences of not doing better. This is why it's imperative for parents to discern between discipline and revenge to maintain healthy relationships with their children.
5 WAYS TO DISTINGUISH BETWEEN PARENTAL GUIDANCE AND RETALIATION:Â Â
​Understanding The Intent
Discipline is rooted in love and concern for the child's well-being. It focuses on teaching lessons and helping children understand the consequences of their actions. Conversely, revenge-driven actions stem from a desire to inflict pain or punishment as payback for perceived slights or disobedience. Parents should reflect on their motives before taking disciplinary actions. Ask yourself whether your intention is to help your child learn or to make them suffer for upsetting you.
Example: If a child accidentally breaks a valuable item, a disciplinary response would involve discussing the importance of being careful and working with the child to come up with a way to replace or fix what they’ve broken. On the other hand, a vengeful reaction might involve yelling, harsh punishment, or bringing up past mistakes to intensify guilt.
​Maintaining Emotional Regulation
Effective discipline requires parents to remain calm and composed, even in challenging situations. It's natural to feel upset or frustrated when children misbehave, but responding with anger or resentment can escalate the situation and blur the line between discipline and revenge. Before addressing the issue, take a moment to breathe and collect your thoughts.
Example: If a child cannot follow instructions, a disciplined response would involve calmly explaining why their cooperation is necessary in working with the child to accomplish the goal. Conversely, a retaliatory response might involve shouting, name-calling, or resorting to physical punishment out of anger.
​Promoting Growth and Learning
Discipline should always aim to promote growth and learning. It involves guiding children toward making better choices and understanding the impact of their actions on themselves and others. Effective discipline strategies include positive reinforcement, setting clear expectations, and providing opportunities for reflection and growth.
Example: If a child repeatedly forgets to complete their chores, a disciplinary approach would involve discussing the importance of responsibility and finding solutions together, such as creating a chore chart or setting reminders with Siri or Alexa. In contrast, a revenge-driven response might involve imposing overly harsh punishments or belittling the child, which can undermine their self-esteem and hinder their ability to learn from their mistakes.
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Building Trust and Communication
Trust and open communication are essential components of a healthy parent-child relationship. Discipline should strengthen this bond by fostering trust and encouraging children to confide in their parents without fear of judgment or retaliation. When children feel safe and supported, they're more likely to accept discipline as a form of guidance rather than punishment.
Example: If a child admits to breaking a rule or making a mistake, a disciplined response would involve listening to their perspective, discussing the consequences of their actions, and working together to find a solution. Conversely, a retaliatory response might involve accusations, blame, or shutting down communication, which can erode trust and damage the parent-child relationship.
Seeking Professional Guidance
Parenting is a learning journey, and, disciplining children is a delicate balance between guiding them toward responsible behavior and nurturing their growth. By understanding the intent behind our actions, maintaining emotional regulation, promoting growth and learning, building trust and communication, and seeking professional guidance when needed, as parents we can help our children built on love, respect, and understanding.
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